I haven't spent many an hour reviewing from TER and many other sites.  To me it is so hard to find one that matches my desires.  I have had a provider in the past that it was perfect.  Chemistry flow, banter exchanged, and physically she was what I was looking for.  Retirement!  A foul word in the mouth of a hobbyist.  So what's a guy to do?  I don't get into trying on a pair of shoes to find the one who fits.  I like to take my time and pick the best one from the start.  Now I am finding it hard to start all over again.  What are your thoughts.  

PS.  I'm relatively shy which makes "searching" for the right one stressing, I'm generous, and I truly care for the one I'm with when I'm with that one.  I am a perfect gentlemen to all I meet, but lately, I'm not finding the connection.

You'll never be able to tell if there's the right chemistry from reviewing websites and reviews.  You have to actually get in there and connect.

Sounds like you may be better off trying your luck at a different sort of site, such as

www.sugardaddyforme.com     or

www.seekingarrangement.com

There's lots more of an opportunity to talk on line and get a sense of who you're dealing with.

Why don't you list what you are looking for and see what type of responses you get?  I like to email my clients a few times as well as talk on the phone at least once before meeting to get a sense of the chemistry between us. Our time together is much more enjoyable when we click.  

Remember, each hobbyist lists a review based on his experience.  What he finds attractive or endearing, may be a turn off for you.  Better to email and talk to get your own opinion.

Good luck in your search.

Kari~~

Only you know what you are looking for-  I found that I like really good GFE and "connection" - the GFE being available by a lot of really good providers, and the "connection" rarely available.  

However, by reading reviews carefully, talking to reviewers of ones I was interested in by pm, I found that almost all of the 11 ladies I have seen so far were really enjoyable, and two really "rock my boat", and two others I enjoy repeating with very much.

You just gotta select the best you can, and go for it.  You also gotta remember, it is a fickle hobby where providers and hobbyists come and go- You can't "fall in love" or get hooked to heavily on one provider or you are setting youself up to fall down!

I had a gal a couple of years ago who was perfect. Beautiful, funny, smart and she seemed to know what I liked without my ever telling her. She retired and I found the next perfect match, not without some shopping around but I found her. Perfect #2 retired about 2 years ago and I found my latest perfect match...Will she do this forever? No, of course not, none of the ladies do....enjoy each lovely lady while you can and accept the fact that they move on...

Search search search and YE shall find..EOM

You can do your shopping on the web.

Retirement is a fact of life in this business.

I checked out my reviews recently and found that fully 1/3 of my gals are either retired on under the radar right now.

Some people like to shop around and others buy the first thing that comes along, but you seem like the type who won't settle so hit those websites until you find a winner.

I'm very similar to your tastes, when I got started I got lucky finding someone right off the bat that I really enjoyed over and over again. But as it happens she retired. For over a year I searched for someone else, sure I had fun looking and trying until I met and clicked that special way with someone else again. I just pick what looks good to me and has some good reviews and let nature take its course. As it turned as much as I found her, she found me as well. Methinks with this one there maybe life after retirement as well. One never knows.

Well actually, I fall in love with each provider for the hour or two where together.  What's fantasy all about if you don't think the one your with loves you too!  But fatal attraction...not so much.  But thanks for the advice.  I've been with a dozen or so providers with to ATF.  Both are no longer available so I'm looking for that "3rd times a charm" followed by 4th and so on and so on.

I've never that about that.  I guess I could under ISO?  Question:  Do the providers look there and contact clients?  Love to hear your thought on that.  PS nice web site.

"Well actually, I fall in love with each provider for the hour or two where together. "..

To me that's the perfect setup , once you leave it's like leaving the holodeck (yes it's nerdy) or like waking up from a dream, enjoy the time and move on. That's the escape I search for, still looking at the moment myself.

That's really what I'm looking for, as I'm a hardcore realist, I'd never believe any of that was real, even if the girl beat it into my head, I would not believe.

-m

I do try to look on the iso board.  Sometimes it's an interesting read.  You never know what you might find there.

Kari~~

I sampled here and there, and I ultimately found 2 ladies I clicked with....very very diferent....but both wonderful with me and to me....I have see one maybe 25 times and the other 75 times, and we are great friends......pays off in the end in unimaginable ways..........

Very few experiences equal the first time with someone new.

Though I tell Mrs. Luethor that the 2,456th time she started snoring during sex was just as special as the 1st, in reality that's just not true.