A provider I know has been wronged. She does not list pictures on her site and she does advertize her site. You have to be a member of TER or ASPD to reach her and receive her photos. One of her clients sent her pictures and her address to the LE in her small Texas town. If you feel a provider has wronged you and her services were rotten. You do not have any right to put her and her clients in danger. Acts like this will ruin the hobby for us all.

there is a particular type of sickypoo out there who gets his bigtime jones by exposing the identity of his victim. From what one hears, these are generally housebound twerps with no social life and a pathetically limited ability to relate to other people in a half normal way. For bonus points they have a ton of bottled up hostility searching for an outlet. The biggest favor this guy could do himself is get the best psychological counseling he can find. This kind of behavior is a good indication of mental illness. If anyone feels motivated to act thusly, take the additional step of locating a mental health referral service, and call them without delay. So your childhood wasn't so great? There's help available out there. Go for it.

Now you know why ladies work out of hotels. imagine showing a guy to your place and having him threaten to confront your landlord if you don't provide free. happened, several times. and did they go through with it? yes. did that make life hell? yep.

let me tell you a little story sonny. when i was first starting out, i was so naive, i even took appointments from blocked calls. one time, had a shy guy come over and 20 seconds after  walking in, he said he forgot his wallet in the car and would be right back. 3 minutes later, yep 3...i received an email from this guy telling me that "he couldn't go through with it because i looked too much like the love of his life". Now, unless this guy lived next door, there is no way he could have shot home and logged on to AOL to send me that email in 3 minutes.

About 10 minutes later I got a call from LE telling me that they knew where i lived and that they were going to make my life hell.
The number wasn't blocked and it wasn't a joke. That week was a string of persistant explicit events and calls that were not gay and delightful.

That be a lesson learned.

There are a select few clients/friends that I would let into my personal space...but again, those are people I have known for a while and over time...I know a lot about them, where they work, what they do and so much specific stuff...and that they value their own privacy and thus respect mine.

That's why it's a tough call. Outcall, too dangerous. Incall, too risky if in a home setting. Incall, hotel, sure but if not booked with deposit, at least for the first meeting and/or verified up the wazoo.

It's the same for you guys. I supposed some ladies and gents are addicted to the rush. What's going to be there waiting for me? What am I walking into? The rest of us that have families, day jobs, people dependent on us, get a rush figuring out what piece of sexy lingerie to wear or what fish to order with the pilaf and sugar snapped peas (I know, I like to live dangerously).  The most stressful aspect for me is lugging all my crap from the car to the room or wondering whether I'm going to be able to get *** again after I just did so 3 times. It's a tough gig when you know how to do it well. No sob stories here.

In summary, what it comes down to is knowing the person. And you can't know people if you are booking in volume or not doing your homework. When I haven't done my proper homework, too quick to book, I have tended to freak and get very nervous about the appointment. But that's my fault. Maybe I didn't take the time to talk to the person on the phone to get the basics in order in my brain so I would be comfortable. I may have had a lot going on at the time and figured it would all go well but again, I'm human and I'm going to freak if I don't first build a small raft by which to construct a ship worthy of sailing. When in doubt, slow down upon approaching the island.

Thanks for the words of "get well". I'm much better. I hope everyone is doing well.



HB

I don't know, but maybe it is just me, but it seems as of late all proper protocols for both ladies and gents alike have been thrown out of the window.  This is disturbing news.  

Any problem a gent has with a lady should be attempted to be resolved between the two parties first.  If there has been some terrible wrong by the lady (cash and dash or the like), then it should be posted as a warning to these boards for other gents to see.  Not hard  right?

Same can be said for the ladies.  Any gent that has been wronged should attempt to solve the problem between the two.  Post a warning to other ladies on the board of any dangerous or cheating client and only then release any personal information.  Not hard right?

It seems to many are acting before thinking.  Ladies rush to get that personal information out via the boards, contacting the clients families and even contacting clients without regard to discretion.  Gents are quick to post information about ladies without consequence either.

Discretion......that is the key here.  Personal information for either party should be handled with the utmost care.  Any actions should be thought out before going off gungho.  The consequences may hurt more parties than one ever intended.

This is suppose to be about fun and with these types of actions taking place, it sure puts a great damper on things for everyone all around.

THINK PEOPLE!

Lauren

Nicole: Did you really mean to say Flagstaff instead of Falstaff, or were you just thinking of Arizona?

Very sorry to hear of your loss, and hope the funeral goes OK for you and your family.

It is interesting, though, to see from these verbal slips how one's brain is actually working. Truly a portal into the mind.

"If you feel a provider has wronged you and her services were rotten. You do not have any right to put her and her clients in danger."

You are 100% correct.  What a client has the right to do in this instance is make up his mind never to see that provider again, and post a negative review so that he warns fellow hobbyists.