I've had a few LTR with escorts and for the most part they have mostly been wonderful.

I suggest that you have several and not see them more than once a month to keep some perspective.

As others have pointed out, if you don't keep that perspective, all hell can break loose.  This happened to me on occasion and it isn't fun - but it's part of life.

So what are the pros and cons of entering a long term relationship with one provider?

Pro-?   Con-$

a REAL relationship with a provider, or a LT arrangement with a lady you see regularly, as in, 3 or 4 times a month? I don't know anything about the former, but the latter is excellent and the best option for me personally, as the sex just gets better and better over time. Of course, you do run the risk of falling for that girl and WANTING a real relationship. Not sure how to avoid that pitfall!  

LTR are all i engage in within this hobby, so take my opinion for what it's worth:

Pro: you develop a genuine connection and sincere relationship with another human being, with everything that entails (real intimacy and bonding, getting to know one another, and when it comes to sex someone who understands your body and its needs exceptionally well).

Con: there is a risk of over-attachment, on both sides. boundaries may be crossed and from that point there is no turning back.

The last LTR that I had with a provider went like this...

1) I hired her.  We didn't click.  Spend a couple hours together over drinks, kissed once.  Sort of awkward.
2) She followed up, as promised, with an email about some stuff I asked about.  I wrote back.
3) We arranged to do some completely nonsexual stuff for a few hours, semi-on-the-clock.
4) We spent an entire day together, then the evening, then she spent the night.  We had sex for approximately 43 seconds.  Neither of us were enjoying it.  She asked to use my toothbrush the next morning.  I said no.  She went out and bought one, came back with it and breakfast rolls.  We ate and worked on some photos for her ads.  I showed her the marvels of subtle Photoshopping.
5) I admitted it was the worst sex of my life, and told her she was a terrible prostitute.  We hung out more and more.  Totally non paid.  Visited places, went to parks, ate together, etc.  All normal boyfriend/girlfriend stuff except no sex.  Helped her shop for work clothes, heard all about her 'dates', continuously marveled at how she knew her way around every upscale hotel in town
6) Eventually culminated in her begging for sex.  Then crying.  Then screaming at me in public.  Then calling my wife to defend me after my wife found out about our relationship.
7) We still keep in touch.  She's quit being an escort and is focusing on her ivy league education.

The LTR I had before that went like this...

1) She worked near a place I hung out a lot.  Caught me when I was drunk.  Spent the night at my place.  Accidentally left her stockings.  I called to tell her, returned them.
2) We subsequently saw a lot of each other.  Seriously good times.  She's fun!  
3) One day I found evidence that while we were really really drunk the previous evening, I had texted to her 'I love you'.  I didn't even remember doing it.  I apologized and said it was way over the line; she thought it was funny and thereafter kept reminding me of my weakness.
4) She eventually asked for a 'real date'.  I said no.  Not appropriate.
5) She started lying to me about stupid stuff.  Told me I should go hire other women.  I asked her advice on who she thought was a good value.  She pointed someone out.  I hired that girl.  LTR got mad.  We stopped speaking.
6) We made up, but she said I must always pay, even just to talk, and tripled her prices.
7) I left town (and the country).  We kept in contact for a while.  Maybe will again.  Last I heard from her, a few weeks ago, she sent me a text message with nothing in it.  My wife discovered it in the phone records, recognized the number, and reamed me out.

Another LTR before that...

1) I hired her.
2) I went back.
3) We spent a lot of time together.
4) I eventually cried on the train out of town and then tried unsuccessfully to get her out of my mind by hiring other women.  It didn't work.  One woman listened and told me I should marry the LTR.  My wife recognized that I was on the verge of leaving.  I seriously considered it.
5) I still send the LTR flowers every year.


Jeezus, I better stop.  Suffice to say that LTRs can be... complicated.

Met a gal back at the end of october saw her about 5 or 6 times in about a 2 to 3 week span. Until she disapeared, she surfaced last week and told me about her unexpected and very unwanted vacation(you could imagine where) and since last monday I have seen her 5 times. I always felt more from her then any one else I know she don't feel the same way. I have always maintained it as profesional relationship for my benefit and I tell my self it's just a crush, but damn I like her. So a LTR like that probably not a healthy relationship,but if you can not get atatched(hard to do when your human but I know better).It can be alot of fun for both.

That really is LT! Sounds like it was wonderful. And messy. And probably hurtful when it ended. Actually, I don't know how anyone keeps this stuff strictly business. If someone gives you amazing, body-shaking orgasms again and again, over a long period of time, then it's just a biological fact. You are going to fall head over heels for that person!  

Your wife found out (more than once) and she didn't leave you? I'm curious to know how you pulled that off, man. Especially after the lady called her. Oh geez, what a nightmare!

I am sort of in one right now with a provider I have not made an appointment with in months. We are good friends but there is no sex at this point, and there may never be. For me the fantasy part of the hobby is gone when you really get to know someone. I can never see her as just someone to have sex with again. It got awkward for me. I have lost one of my favoite providers but gained a good friend.
     We both care about each other and have feelings  for each other, but sex is not as important with her as it was. I dont know if I could handle an actual relationship with her or not, but we have discussed it. Its kind of weird, but I am happy to know her as a person and not just an escort. I always feel funny around her friends and family because I think everyone must know how we met (she is much younger than me). I am trying to let that go and not worry about it. It certainly is a lot different than a regular relationship.

Ah, so you have a big dick and she can't live without it. Good deal!  

I was in one a while ago.the girl got attached first,i tried not to as I did not want that, but eventually I  gave in, she was easy to like if you didn't keep things in perspective.we had a little thing for a while and now I don't speak to her and we both hate each other.

I  guess maybe I started a new ltr.i have been seeing this girl about a year now, at least once a month, sometimes 2 or3.  Just like the first, sex  is great.no big signs of over attachment on her part, just some extra off the clock time, making us food... And definitely no attachment from me.so as long as the sex is great and she is  still around, she will be an ltr for me. Just keep in perspective, avoid getting to attached (easier said  then done), and see other providers between visits to an ltr

You must keep it strictly business guys! Just like playing regular poker weekend with the guys.  This is the beauty of this hobby..... no strings attached.

Don't let your penis rule over your psyche!  And don't leave your spouse for someone that you have to pay to go to bed with that is ONLY acting because you paid her.  It's a pretend thing and nothing else because it's an LTR job for you to get what you want the way you want it.

If you marry or stay steady with one LTR, then you created another monster of a wife....LOL

boundaries clear.  If you or she crosses the line, than it is not good.  We must keep in mind that it is a hobby for the guys, but a business for the ladies.

my sentiments exactly.