Hey guys, My first post here, but I've been "hobbying" for about a year. About 6 months ago I had a double and I really enjoyed it. It WAS one of the best experiences I ever had, total PS fantasy, you know? But then I was reading this website called Alex the Reluctant Escort and she was talking about how her double session with another provider was totally orchestrated and that she isn't really bi.
My question is, do you guys that have gotten doubles get the sense that the girls are genuinely into each other? Or do you just go with the flow and give into the fantasy whether or not the girls are really getting into it?
The story was funny for sure, and a lot of her stories are hilarious, but it totally killed my double buzz and now I'm not sure if I'll do it again. I mean, I know the whole idea of hobbying is supposed to be about fantasy, but damn.. .lol
At least in the area that I hobby and the regional board that I post most often, I get the exact opposite impression.
My feeling is the majority of providers are much more lesbian than straight and that's what they are in civie life. They would rather not see men as providers but it's a necessary evil because they get paid to do it. While not unusual it is extremely rare for women to pay for sex even with another women.
The two straight providers I have met are quite blunt about their sexual orientation and won't even entertain the idea of a FMF threesome even in their provider life. Incidentally both are my ATF's and I have had the best one on one experiences in the hobby with them.
I posted the question because I was curious. Is that ok?
I know this whole hobby is built around fantasy, but I happen to get off when I know that the other party is having fun too. I'm not Brad Pitt, and not a male porn star either, but I have a great attitude with providers and all have told me they have fun when we're together. But after reading that story I wondered how many guys sensed that their FMF experienced ever felt contrived.
The question reminds me of Bandler and Grinder; developers of Neuro Linguistic Programming. One would argue that there was no such thing as trance states, while the other would argue that a person is always in one trance state or another. Even with couples, fantasy and trances states are very important aspect for keeping their sex life healthy and vibrant.
My only experience with doubles was that everything happened so fast, and I was so overwhelmed by the pleasure and intensity of the experience, that I didn't have time to even think about whether or not the ladies were into each other, or not.
Sometimes it is real and sometimes not. Sometimes you'll think it's real (or not), and sometimes you'll be right, and sometimes you'll be wrong.
Many or most here hope their studliness gets them off, but we'll never know. If it matters, then go with someone you believe actually gets off - which may or may not coincide with reality.
I can't help you suspend disbelief as suggested by TA. I can say you need to let it not affect your enjoyment, or you might need another hobby.
I always hope the ladies enjoy my DATY (O or not), but in the end it doesn't affect how I enjoy my BJ.
Make sense? I know it may not sunday like it, but I'm not trying to sound like a dick.
I only had one double and these ladies were frineds and very bi, it was obvious they had enjoyed each others company many times in the past. They lived near each other and talked about how they often would get together on rainy days or their days off and...........I was just a spectator for the most part.
It really depends if the girls are close, or just sometimes work together. I've had doubles with some girls that I was extremely close to, that were 100% genuine.... and then other times, did doubles with a girl that was just a working friend, but the chemistry just wasn't there
I now only work with ladies I know, and that I know are bi, specifically because of situations where we got in the room, and the other girl was obviously more about the fake out then the real McCoy. I'm there to engage with all parties...so everyone at the table should be on the same page IMO.
Some guys don't care about the bi stuff either, so being bi is not necessarily a requirement to offer doubles... Some guys just want double the attention on them, with no interest in the girl-girl action (believe it or not! lol).
Don't let anyone else's tales ruin YOUR experience. Leave the vision in your head just as it was...an awesome dream come true. Over-analyzing after the fact serves no purpose other then busting your balloon... :-/
Seems like 50/50, some of you think it it doesn't or shouldn't matter at all. You would think from some answers that I was even stupid to ask.
Thanks to those who took it as a serious question. I had a lot of fun in my double, I have no reason to believe it was anything other than genuine, and I'm glad some of you agree that sometimes the girls just aren't into it and at worst, make that apparent during the session.
I was just curious given the website I read. And never even questioned my experience.
I really don't get it because it's not like they are BIG BUCKS. I have probably done about ten double sessions in the last three years. I love being with women, so I really enjoy these type of sessions. But, if a provider is heterosexual, she could just as easily not offer girl/girl sessions, and it's not like it would harm her business a lot. It's like offering Greek. I offer Greek, but most of my sessions are straight-forward, one-on-one, hetero, vanilla (not domination) sessions. GFE - without another girl - without Greek. There really is no need for providers to offer either of these things because "vanilla GFE" will still pay the bills...
I don't know about other guys, but in my case I wanted to experience a double and I wanted my ATF there. She seemed willing enough to do it, and like I said she seemed to get into it. Maybe some providers feel pressured when a regular asks for it?
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