No response to an appointment request is irritating, probably second to NSNC... This is not a rant, no-responses are becoming a frequent fact of life...

2-3 days after your initial request if you really want to see her. And also double checking your end to see if a reply ended up in spam folders. This has happened to me many times- I've sent a reply or someone has sent an inquiry and for no apparent reason it goes straight to my/their spam. Yes it is fine to mention the first email in the second, I dare say it's important that you do so that she can see what/if there was a problem.  

It didn't phase me too much as I know things can be crazy in this life.  I moved on to another gal and had a wonderful time.  The first gal did contact me a little bit later apologizing.  It seems like there were some technical glitches on her site.  I'll probably try her again some time soon.

But it usually does not come to that.  I also do mention that I tried to contact her previously.  As you mentioned, the busier a lady is, the more likely she will need to wade through the BS requests.  In that case, you might want to try a third time, but after that, probably moves onto the stalker level.

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I think it might have been Einstein who said the definition of insanity is doing the same thing and expecting different results. If you are mentioning services or the price of services that might be the reason you aren't getting an answer. It is very rare nowadays that I don't get an answer if I make a polite inquiry without mentioning those things.

there is a huge likelihood that there is something wrong with your initial approach, IMHO. Not having a specific appointment request, including info or questions that are inappropriate for a first contact, that type of thing.

I do think the guys forget the gals are single operator small businesses. Some girls only check their emails when they re active in the biz, or not on vacay, or any number of a million other reasons.

...It's one strike and she's out.

about agency girls, one request around 9:00a each day is sufficient.  If she's not fully booked with regulars and you are already screened, you should get a response within an hour.  

You know you want to see any hot young girl with a wet pussy just like the rest of us.  Don't try to play it that you're more discriminating when you're horny than the rest of us.  Who are you trying to kid?!!!

impatience your worst enemy. Email can easily convey that impatience and can lead to her disinterest. Women like being desired by a patient man.  

Good thought, but no I never go beyond the "would love to meet if your schedule allows".

No, does not happen a lot. I would say mostly when I am traveling away from my turf.

the attitude and ego that I want, UNTIL I reach her front door?

Someone contacted me yesterday morning for a date Thursday. It took me about 12 hours to reply; after about 8 hrs, he sent me another 'Hey, just wanted to make sure you got my message' email.

Someone said it earlier but many times this is a one woman show - I know it is for me. I'm not sure where this myth of providers sitting in lingerie waiting by their laptop stemmed from, but it is not the case. Many of us have careers or business ventures that take our normal 8am-5pm or in my incase, if we have a high profile account, it could be much later. Also, quite a few women are working on a degree of some kind. Then take into account appointments that were already booked, traveling, workouts, domestic activities, it sometimes feels like there aren't enough hours in the day.  

Last week I sent out about three emails and two texts (they didn't have email) on Wednesday looking for a date on Friday.
I know - not much notice.
One was with my first ever. It was my second email to her saying I wanted to see her again. I know she doesn't keep regular hours so to speak so the first time we met I learned to let her name options on the day to meet. However, both emails, three weeks ago and last week, went unanswered. [funny thing is that about four weeks ago I was approached by someone interested in setting up a MMF - I contacted this same provider and got an email right back! That session never happened. So my lesson learned is that she is not really interested in seeing me, but she is interested in a different session]

I live in an area where there is an abundance of provider choices. If a provider does not respond with a reasonable time (usually 24 hours) I move on to someone else.

make another contact. For example, if the first contact was by email and she is on P411, I will send her a request through P411. Some ladies are better with P411 than email while others prefer text to email. As others have said, you need to use a lady's preferred method of contact first.

Since I am genteel and discrete, this has never been an issue!

You really need to get out more often.

However, there is a difference in being persistent and being desperate.  Sometimes you have to man up and move on.  

I thought I'd have more time, but ended up being a little short on time (as often happens).  

"Women like being desired by a patient man."

Usually it's 'No'... since travel is almost always involved, I can't easily meet same-day. But I do try to give him an answer so that he can line up someone else (if he seems legit, not if he comes across as a wanker).

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...but when it does, I'll send a follow up if I haven't heard back in a couple of days. Especially, when the lady rides...

If I don't hear back from a given provider soon enough, I move on to the next one on my list. Depending on how eager I am to see that particular provider, I might send a follow-up message through a different form of communication, in order to allow for the possibility that the original form of communication may be at fault.  

Some of mine. It's just the way it is. Some days you're the pigeon, some days you're the statue.

...a little annoyed with a client like you who resents giving me a few fucking minutes a day to check my messages.  How do you know she's lining up other customers?  Maybe she's checking on her sick mother or other personal business?  Do you expect them to be at your beck and call 24/7?

He could of had a real job, instead of having to sling cracked @ 5:46 in the morning to feed his daughter.

but I don't consider that manning up OR being impatient  

I usually start planning about a month ahead, so if I get no response, I can afford to wait a week and reply with the original email I sent. I know people are busy and the internet can be weird with email(had a provider whom I had emailed multiple time send me an email saying she would be in my area once, somehow went to spam and by the time I saw it, I'd made other plans).

on MY clock, same as any other employee of mine.  If I'm paying their time to do a job, they can do their personal shit after work, not on my time.  In the extreme case you cite, all she has to is speak up.  If she says her mom's been ill and she needs to check on her, I will be compassionate and say go ahead.  I haven't had any employee turnover at my office in eight years, so I don't think I'm an unreasonable boss.  

If a provider does not want a prospective client's business because of his review history, she should respond and inform him why she is unwilling to accept his business. Simply ignoring his request and leaving him waiting and wondering is disrespectful and discourteous, and he could be using the time that he spends waiting for a response that will never come to book an appointment with another provider.  

I try to respond within the same day or next day the latest. I'll only delay a response or flat out ignore it if the introductory message was rude or the guy completely ignored the appointment setting protocol highlighted on my site.

As an independent, and someone who had NO idea of the volume of inbound email I would get, I've unfortunately dropped the ball a few times. I try to go back through my emails and scrub them for people I may have missed.