When I've decided I no longer want to see a client, I block their number so I won't receive their calls or texts, I won't reply to their emails and if I know their handle name, I block them here. That's my protocol whether I've seen them one time or a hundred times. It saves me the hassle of having to explain myself and I think it sends the proper message to them fairly quickly, too.

It's incredibly rude to just ignore a previous client unless they have done something horrible or unforgivable to you. If you are dropping them simply because you are bored with them or you don't like the shoes they wear, then at least tell them and let them down easy. THEN you block them.

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Only had it happen 2x and it's simple, I'm sorry I feel you and are not compatible, I wish you the best luck on your search.  
Of course I put them on my do not see list but why have someone reach out to me if I no longer wish to see them. I just tell them, we are all adults and just because you have the dime and I have the time doesn't mean that there is going to be an instant connection. If I don't feel that chemistry in the first session or if something rubs me the wrong way I terminate the call. I'm not a slave to the dollar bill so those days of me feeling uncomfortable or belittled or like a hunts point whore are over. I just tell them. I'm too old for that hide and seek sh*t you know what I mean...?

Being the john, nothing needs to be said to me. If she doesn't return my contacts, I just walk away. I might try again in a few months but usually I moved on by then.

Of the way you would like to be let down easy. I am not being a tool here, because in all seriousness, what you might find acceptable, another might not.  

I would hope if a client did something really stupid they would apologize and move on to avoid any uncomfortable moments.

you rasie a valid concern, hobbyist plus truth equals grumpy cat wearing a stovepipe hat.  and i dont' have an answer for you, because a huge portion of guys in the hobby are incredibly immature.  and you ladies run the risk of stalking, or other kinds of craziness happening to you.  i don't know what to say.

So if that's how you want to handle it, do it up. It's really about what kind of business you want to run. The thing about escorting is you're your own boss, that's awesome! If you're pretty relaxed about your business then do whatever. If you want to be professional, I would maybe type up a general email message saying thank your for their time/business/whatever and that you're no longer taking appointments on the account, or something like that. Then you can save it and reuse it for whenever you need to. Pretty simple and curtious, and a good business practice.

what you described is exactly how it should be.

so I suppose silence is golden.

For me, I just stop calling. I don't repeat much, so it's no big deal if I contact someone I've seen and don't hear back, two calls and I move on.

OK...here is what I could see as a good way to let someone down easy, regardless of the reason (as long as its not due to violence or something horrible like that):

I think it is best to simply say goodbye and wish someone well without opening the door to endless explanations and "whys". Of course, sometimes a "why" is simple, like "I'm retiring".  

Hasn't happened to me yet - but,  if you are not OK with a second session (or a 22nd) for that matter, I would like to know so that I don't use you as a reference.  

Good thing is, it only has happen twice.  One of each kind.

But, I think it depends on how long and how often we have been seeing each other.  Longer than a year or more than a dozen times, then some simple and honest communication/reason would be preferred for me.   I would respect and accept that.  

Your reply was great and that seems a great way to let things go. Thank you.

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What's the difference in a hooker refusing service based on race, height, references or any other myriad of reasons?  None but of course I always took a lot of heat for my no black men policy. I enforced a no haggle policy and a no banter before a date policy too. Actually too many to name as I could write a novel on any given day of reasons I may turn down a trick.   You're suggesting a hooker has the right to refuse regardless of pay, therefore doesn't she reserve the right to decline for whatever reason suits her?  The lynch mob mentality of those refusing service to any above scenarios and more would suggest there are many hypocrites bashing and judging them for their preferences, would it not?

yw

for whatever reason she wants.
But she should have the courtesy & decency to at least respond to those inquiring rather then leave them wondering why she never replied to their inquiry. That's regardless of whether the reason is a blanket refusal for an entire group of people or for a previous client that she no longer wishes to meet with.

I guess if the guy is a douche, becomes a stalker or something like that, I might use that tactic. If there was nothing highly charged like that though, I would prefer to send a simple message stating that I didn't care to see them again. If they continued to message/call/email after that, then I would probably block them. To me the cold shoulder just feels really disrespectful if unearned.

IRL communication I'm totally honest and good at communicating so I figured I would do the same in this business and tell the guy " don't feel its a right match, don't feel comfortable, ect" then they beg,ask repeatedly what exactly they did and try to get me to change my mind or simply cuss me out,that's always fun!! So as much as I'm a very straight forward communicator irl I've  had to resort to blocking #'s and just stop responding......makes me feel like an asshole but I have to do it....sometimes I send a message stating the reason and then block them so I don't have to hear the rebuttles.... Lol

Preference implies some level of attraction or acceptability. Which begs the question are you attracted to all your clients. If the answer is something like “Yes, I just do this for fun,” boom, end of discussion, end of thread.

A very well written rebuttal. I get it. Heard it all the time but again I'll argue we aren't serving dinner here.  I don't judge all races based on particular behaviors exhibited by some within those groups however if I don't find the vast majority of one group attractive, I'm just not going to force them or myself to suffer through a sub-par performance.  I never understood how anyone in this arena could flame or judge a hooker for declining to fuck a stranger. This business is tough enough without the added hypocrisy and judgements.  

Yep I agree and I always did.

I would prefer a bit of common courtesy.  If you do not want to see me again I would prefer you politely letting me know and the reason why.  If I have seen you multiple times and suddenly you start blocking me sure I will move on.  It will leave me with a bad taste in my mouth.

....kidding (not kidding.........kidding)

Let's say my ATF retires or gets bored with me...and just blocks me out.  Yes, I could easily move on and find other providers.  Yes, I know that the ladies retire, move, and so on and so forth.  But there could be another reason for the sudden silence: what if she was murdered by a violent client?  If I was suddenly met with radio silence, a part of me would always wonder about that...for the rest of my life.

I understand the need for a provider to be evasive as you describe, many men's egos get bruised, and some men get all butt hurt about it. But I believe honesty is the best approach. I had longed to see a provider, I made a date with her, she responded that she didn't think we were a good fit. I appreciated her honesty and candor, no harm no foul.

I imagine the one's you 'let go' are people who are either cheapskates and asking for a deal or they are pitiable fools who are falling for you and that freaks you out.  Not returning texts and calls are probably the best thing to do.  

This.

Do you have the same concerns if your plumber or electrician or UPS delivery guy stops coming around? Unless its a service where the professional has records you will want to retrieve (legal or medical) there is no reason to expect a damn thing

but I’ll say it anyway.