Have any of you people (hobbyiests and providers) experienced burnout?  What I mean is that I'm just not that interested in the hobby much anymore.  I don't think I'm depressed or anything, and the Mighty Kong does his daily calisthenics just fine, but I just feel like I need a break.  I'm sure providers go through something very similar.  What do you do to snap out of it?  

It feels like burnout.  I don't want to put the time and effort into researching, contacting, and meeting with a provider.  I was hitting the sheets pretty hard initially(1 - 2 providers/week for about 4 months).  I was so excited for each and every meeting.  Then, during my last appointment, I was truly indifferent about being there.  She was great and very enthusiastic, but I honestly didn't care much about the appointment.      

Has anyone ever felt anything like this?  I don't want to lose that feeling of excitement from meeting with a provider.  Does burnout happen?

If you are not enjoying the process I say don't do it...or at least take a break for a while.  I'm sure providers have the same issues. In fact, I'm positive that they do as both of my ATF's have been known to take extended periods of time off. Of course the difference here is that it is a job for the ladies so they may not always be able to take as much of a break as they would like to. As hobbyists we don't have that issue. Why pay for something that you are not enjoying?

I took a couple of extended breaks from the hobby back in the pre-internet days. I have to admit this had more to do with the associated risks of picking up women on street corners than it did with being bored with the sex...

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"Stand em' on their head and they all look alike"

Instead of frequent new encounters, try extended sessions with your ATF ...the cost forces them to be less frequent, but that gap period build anticipation, and the extended session without the time rush can be a real pleasure  (assuming you have an AFT) - my current ATF does not live local to me, so I only get to see her 6-8 times a year, and I've found I'd rather save my $$$ up for an extended, though less frequent session with her than more frequent exploration and short visits.  The passion of these sessions remains fantastic after 2+ years of seeing her.

a new groove. Excellent!

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Hey, Disco Stu doesn't NEED to advertise!

Sure thing it happens. I experienced it a few years back and didn't hobby for almost a year. I'm not sure what it was. I know my ATF had retired and I wasn't seeing a fave but it still wasn't one thing I could put a finger on. Anyway it passed and when I came back to the hobby, it was like I never left, I had all my old enthusiasm and excitement back.

I was seeing gals two to three times a week and I have to confess to feeling a bit indifferent after a while.

Divorce and a business slowdown has brought me to two to three times a month.

I enjoy sessions more now, especially as they are on weekends rather than sneaking out of the office on workdays; but those weekends without a date seem to pass so slowly.

Jumped in to the hobby with a bang, two a week for four months, got burned out for a variety of issues.

All the comments you received above are great.  I'd add a couple more things-  assess what you are expecting and getting out of it and make sure it is in line with what is realistic for the hobby-  and be honest to yourself about what impact compulsive behavior and addiction is playing.

I went through swings-  wanting repeats with favorites and a closer relationship to wanting less when drama ensued.  

Found that new visits with continuing stream of women was not it for me either.  Where there was excitement about seeing someone new in the beginning, I almost dreaded and regretted driving up to a new visit toward the end.

From what I've observed, the happiest guys in the hobby are the ones who do it when they can just for the great sex, and can walk away from it when they need a break.

We're human, and variety is key. Once something is no longer a challenge, or as sparkly and new and mysterious as it all once seemed, of course you might lose interest.

If you're experiencing burnout, then why the need to spend money anyway? If providers experience it, most of them just keep on trucking because it is their income. You have the choice whether you want to spend money or put it toward a vacation or something else.

Now, in respect to the part when you state "losing the excitement from meeting with a provider," then perhaps you need to take a break. Sometimes even we (providers) have to say "no" at times.

Have a good day, hon, and don't worry too much about it.

Hugs,
ciara

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Most times my problem is that I can't got enough of you gals.

When you really think about it, it's a very good problem to have.

You have pretty much encapsulated what I'm going through.

That is it for me exactly.  In fact, I think I'm going to contact the LG regarding the compulsive behavior/addiction scenario.

Thanks to you and the others who responded.  You've been very helpful.

I have to say, that is one funny sobriquet for your ... um ... well see my new post above.

by my spouse.  She can't have sex.  I want to be wanted.   Paying for sex is better than not having any release / relief but it's a long ways from having a lady say "come home and fuck me!"    

For  me, and I'm sure many men (and women) a lot of my self worth is your sexual identity.  Divorce?  Sure I could do that and screw up the family and ruin me financially.  Besides, I love my wife as a person.  But having nobody proactively want me.....bummer.

So even when I see one of my favorites I'm reminded that I'm only in her bed because I've got money to spend.

It's an awkward situation.

I've found a couple over time that either genuinely enjoy my company and the sex or are incredible actresses!  Not sure I care!

But there are some ladies out there that really connect and enjoy some of their clients-  doesn't mean boundary crossing or that it wouldn't be over as soon as the money stopped, but can still be very satisfying to be appreciated and wanted in addition to the money.

yes for anyone doing anything you can burn out on it. I find the key secret here is quality and keeping the Passion and Intimacy in your experiences. This can be tough so picking your client base is the way to go.
I see few Gentlemen, work only a few days a week and see only the Gentlemen who peek my interest.
Yes I could work every day, all day but the Quality of life I want, which being in this biz I can have, would be over run with work,and defeat the purpose of why I am here to begin with. It takes balance to maintain any job, career, lifestyle and so on... Taking time off is difficult but also so very important to do so...bringing back into it a freshness or refreshing your outlook I guess.  Never allow it to become your whole life It can morph and take over your whole life if its allowed to. We, the ladies are truely living seperate lives, friends that know us and then ones who know our softer side so to speak. It's complicated and can become larger than life. This is a great way to expand your horizons, build your business, raise your children, save for college, and so on but it's not souly who we are and to define oneself seperately can take attention to design of how you choose to run your business and not let your business run you or consume you.
Sorry Rambling...so burnout is possible but not inevitable...Balance is the key.
Well I am off to live my "other" life and hang out with my kids..Everyone have a great day!!!

Toodles~
Nicole

It gets dangerous when men rely only on hobbying for excitement in their lives, and then they become depressed if they cannot find it here, too.

Like Sweetnicole said, and I'm paraphrasing here: Enjoy your life and raise your children, play some golf, do whatever it takes to have a fulfilling life. But please, no matter how many friends we might make in this business -- and I hate to keep saying this -- "it's only a business and a fantasy." Everyone has lives outside this business, or at least I would hope so.

Hugs,
Ciara

very true Ciaia it can be a win win but there needs to be balance...off again to get my nails done. ( some Me time...balance)

French wine and my kitty (okay, "cat" guys).

Hugs,
Ciara