I've been a hobbiest for about 15 years and meet alot of wonderful ladies and not so wonderful.  once in a while I get to know some of them as we talk before or after our session and they start to tell me that their boyfreinds dont know what they do or they have a regular job during the day. thats why they dont show their face. I got to admitte that turns me on a woman has some poor smuck at home thinking his woman is faithful to him or at their job she some teacher or lawer,admin assitant, any way I would love to here from some ladies and what kind of lies they tell thier spouse or freinds.

I am married.. Only thing he has full knowledge of what I do.. It actually SAVED our marriage..
Let's just say that our marriage and the amenities that happen between husband and wife had ended.. I went looking and what I found was a life dream that fell in to my lap..

But I know that if it were I, I wouldn't discuss it with you.

It really is none of your business.

Im with Mr Fisher -

have to lie to their loved ones about what they do. But to ask for sordid details about it-- for your own sexual titillation-- well, that's a pretty low source of amusement.

Lives can be ruined by lies, and by truth. That so many of us have to balance on that tightrope isn't sexy. It's sad.

In 2007 I had to work late about 25 times, long lines at the grocery store about 5 times, took one of the cars for an oil change about 10 times (we have 2 cars)...in between leaving work early or leaving work and coming back.

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Why would you ask such a question?

Very inappropriate, indeed.

did they remember to wipe the dipstick?

8o)

(Sorry, couldn't resist.)

a provider that I really click with, and may have seen many times shares info in the context of within boundaries friendship.  But I never ask a provider anything personal-  part of my trying to make her experience with me as comfortable as possible.

I don't think it's anybody's business what providers do when they aren't providing.
Many of them probably lead "double lives", but lots of us hobbyists are kind of living double lives, too.  

Well, the last time I replied to a post and said it was none of his business I got blasted for it. However, if a provider offers any information in the course of conversation, that is one thing. If she doesn't, than it's none of your business (ducking for cover) and don't ask. You wouldn't want a provider to ask questions about your personal life would you?? We should respect your privacy to the n'th degree as you should respect ours. Not only is it a breech of security for us if you pry it's tacky. There are some providers that have to walk a fine line between 'real' life and hobby life. A line that shouldn't be crossed unless invited.

I am with you on this one. What a provider does in her private life is none of our(hobbyists) business. That's why it's called a private life.

As you said, "A line that shouldn't be crossed unless invited"

I think Snowdog was hoping for some titulating, soul baring to get off on. So far, it doesn't look like anyone wants to play along.

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My guess is that you probably wouldn't want to talk much about it here. I have a couple of ladies that I have known for years. Over time, they have both shared a great deal of information about their lives as I have about mine. That sharing and concern evolved as trust developed.  It doesn't always happen, maybe it never even should. It certainly isn't going to get happen here on a chat board...

Throat Under Cover.....
Did that get you a rise?

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Do you really want to know that she may have been with her SO earlier that day (unprotected) and you are going down on her now.... think about it... is that really what you wanted to think about? It happens all the time trust me... my wife is a provider and her friends do the same thing... think about that the next time you want to open that door!