Whom would you rather get caught by?

I’d prefer to deal with LE myself, via an attorney.

An SO presents a different case altogether. If the SO catches you she might just remain calm enough to squeeze the details out of you about whom you’ve been dealing with. I know my wife would have, and probably a choice of that or divorce.

My guess is that this was the cause of several past busts. Especially when LE remarks about leads from clients. But that’s just a guess on my part.

I'd prefer Not to get Caught by either my SO or LE Thank you.
It will be a total clusterfuck either way for me. I have a good lawyer but am from a small town and everybody knows me.
My SO it would break his Heart and I would hate to hurt him like that.  Theres no, which is better for me here. I prefer to not get caught at all.

Busted by SO would not eventually involve LE, but it's hard to imagine a LE bust that would escape the SO. If it did then they weren't all that significant after all.

I hope to Enjoy my time in this Business and have gained so many sweet Friends thus far. When I eventually leave this business I'd hope that it was a choice that leaves Only fond memories as well as some sweet close friends.  Nothing more.

No one wishes to have to deal with either option, but it DOES happen. And, it is a different case for the provider. I totally agree on that. Much more risk and exposure involved.

We hear often of how client's fear having their SO's find out about their hobbying and ending up in divorce court (Been there, done that, btw.)

How common is it for providers to have SO's who are clueless about their activites, and how often do they get found out, and how often does that lead to divorce court?

I have two favorites with SO's, neither of whom have gotten wise to her work, and this has been for quite a while.  I would think that a provider who sees many men would have a much more difficult time hiding their activities than the client who sees a gal only once in a while.

Providers, please feel free to use aliases in commenting.

SO.

I don't have an SO and don't want one.  I would think there would have to be a significant amount of lying about money, time, ect, certainly not good for a relationship.  I know I wouldn't have enough time to  spend with clients, a boyfriend, working my regular job, and doing everything else....  Geez.  I'm curious how providers are able to accomodate so many commitments.

The SO is in all likelyhood going to find out anyway. So a choice for LE is a choice for both. It can't be an either/or choice.

first off, I cut back on my schedule and see mostly reg Gentlemen, with a few new friends thrown in as well.
It's not easy but I do Enjoy what I do and think I'm very good at it...so I find the time.

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Perhaps not, but there are charges that can be brought in conjunction.  Adultery is illegal in Virginia.  Plus the whole sodomy and buggery, and then I know in some places in Virginia it is illegal to give a massage to a person of the opposite sex in a private setting.

Virginia sure is old fashioned!

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