Ladies what should a guy do when he request an hour appointment but the lady stays 2 or 3 hours over? This is an example, made an appointment with a beautiful, verrrrrryyy UTR lady. We agreed on an one hour meeting. I get the room and she calls and asks if I want to meet her for a drink first, of course I agree. spent 1.5 hours at the bar. The whole time we talked about her life and the trouble her is having. Then we go to the room. Another 1/2 hour of talking about her life, then down to business for no more than 1/2. She stays and we talk more about her life. All totaled she spent 3.5 hours with me. I really enjoyed the time se spent together. I just don't have any ideal what I should have compensated for, the full 3.5 hours or just the 1 hour we agreed to. She is a wonderful woman that might see two clients a month, so I want to do right by her and be come a regular. As always any help would be greatly appreciated.

and ask her... many UTR ladies base their fees upon how well they connect with you... just ask her, like you would any other provider and give her proper consideration.  OMG, why beat around the BUSH?

If you booked an hour, and it was HER choice to stay longer,  then you don't owe her anything.  She wasn't expecting compensation other than your company.  On the other hand, when a provider cuts it off at the time mark, it doesn't mean that she wasn't having a good time.  I agree, be direct about it.

Pay for the time you planned.

The ladies are well-aware of the time, even if they are not making it obvious by checking their watch every 15 minutes (tacky).  Sometimes, like in any social situation, two people get to talking or things just run over for one reason or another.  Pay for the time you negotiated up-front unless you are making a request that she stay longer, in which case you would pay her accordingly.  

Kate

Pay her for the time upfront. You might want to ask if the time is okay to make her feel that you care and not taking advantage of her. Otherwise, enjoy.

Hugs,
ciara

"why beat around the BUSH?"

Well, he's spending 2.5 hours beating AROUND the BUSH... And only paying for an hour, not too bad - just kidding, couldn't resist.

Enjoy man! Worry less, and don't be afraid to let her know you just want to be considerate of her time. The ideal person to ask is HER (helps her know you are a considerate person). And the ideal time is early on, so that you aren't worried the whole time. Just my $.02.

Cheers,
Presto

She felt comfortable enough with you to spend the time, take it as a compliment and go forward.
You must, of course, compensate her for the original, agreed to, time. A tip would not be out of the question.
As a gentleman, you can always mention the time when it's getting close, so she knows that you are aware.
But if she chooses to go over, enjoy the time and pat yourself on the back, you must be a nice guy.

Just my opinion...
B

...who was a waitress. She gave me some wonderful advice. Tip well when you think you'll be returning. You'll be remembered and continue to receive good treatment.

IOW, if you want to draw from that well again, compensate her at a level you believe will leave a good impression. If you don't, give her whatever you think is fair.

If the hours of conversation were mostly about her problems, I wouldn't feel right paying full price for it if it was not what you had originally agreed to. If she wants you to be her sounding board, it's not the same as if she was being yours - unless she agrees to YOUR rates (LOL).

Don't let the time run so much over and ask her. At the very least, tip her.

Because I've had a few very talkative providers who would have easily let me stay longer if I hadn't opted to leave.  Some of them are open about the fact that it's refreshing to finally meet a nice young hobbyist their own age and even want to go out off the clock.

The one provider who I called to my hotel for outcall stayed around 2 hours extra because she was paranoid about the LE that was right outside, and rightly so.

Don't make the same mistake I did and lose a good thing. I once was seeing a lady on a weekly bases.   During our third date she ask me to stay the night at no extra charge and no sex, which I did.  She also gave me a flat rate based on the visit not on length of time and told me I could stay as long as I liked.  On the fourth date I paid the agreed rate and also brought dinner and gifts, once again spent the night.  When I called for another date, she told me no and to never call her again.  When I asked why, she told me I did not pay her enough for the previous date.(WTF)  

So be careful and make sure you BOTH agree on the compensation for time spent together!

Its one thing if your wanting to extend the time to offer to compensate... but she was more than likely wanting to just chit chat.. as she was comfortable with you.  Don't feel obligated.  But do just ask her in a nice way about her time... as you don't want to hold her up.  See what she says.

So sad that a nice provider/client relationship is soured because of a misunderstanding like this.  Makes me want to be more careful myself. Thanks for sharing this.

Boy is this an issue that has been bugging me for some time.  I see a couple of Ladies on a regular basis (once or twice a month) and everytime we go over...I mean really over...talking and just enjoying each others company.  I'm always told that they enjoy my company and love to talk to me.  Well I had an interesting issue arise last week as one of the Ladies told me her boyfiend was getting upset that she spent so much time with me and didn't charge me.  I was really taken back by this and almost said "it's your business isn't it?" I have on a number of occasions bought gifts to show my appreciation for the time consideration.  This business is just packed with mixed messages.  I'm confused!

She called me one day because she needed a ride to work. I gave her a ride to work and said, as a reward, I wanted to take her to dinner. So we went out to dinner a few days later and she wanted to stop by the mall to shop for Christmas gifts so I took her there and tagged along, talking and advising. Then I took her back to her apartment and she invited me inside. We shared some kisses but we were both tired and it was time to leave.

A week later, we had an ice storm and driving was treacherous. I needed to get some medicine from a pharmacy two blocks from where she lived so I called her and asked her if I could get her anything while I was already so close by. No, she said, but thanks for thinking of her.

The next time I talked to her, she started in with "How did you get my number?" "How did you know where I lived?"

I said "You don't remember that I picked you up and drove you to work? You don't remember I picked you up and took you to dinner and then to the mall? You don't remember any of that???"

She came thisclose to accusing me of stalking her. I was floored. I backed away big time for several months.

If an extended date hasn't been negotiated directly (either prior to or during the session), you are not obligated to compensate for the additional social time.  As others have already mentioned...communication is key.

Abbey