I’ve had a long-term friend for years who is a Chinese provider; we met back at the start of COVID and eventually just became friends. Recently, we were catching up and I was telling her about some of my recent encounters. I mentioned the stories these girls tell me—how they’re saving for grad school, or how their family used to be wealthy but fell on hard times and now they have to support them.

Do you think everything this Chinese provider has told you has been "scripted" as well? How would she answer that, do you think?

Stories are more likely to hook you if you repeat. Another reason why I rarely do. In the end, I’m paying for sex. She wants my money, not my companionship. That’s why I’m the paying customer and she’s the provider.

I don't script my real life because I am truthful & honest.

Chinese houses typically lie about where they are from and call young ones students in need of money.  When I met my friend, they had her as Canadian student visiting!  But, I knew she wasn’t.  

I am assuming that she was having a rough day... That's ridiculous!  

Sorry to hear she’s back in the hospital. I will pray for her.

QB,

Geez.  This depends on culture and circumstances.  In general, yes, I think many spa girls have a script.  I recall the sharp pang I felt when, after spectacular sex, a spa girl told me a sob story that another spa girl had told me a week before.  If it's a hook, then it's a hook.  

Having received, but never responded to, many sob stories, I agree and your friend is spot on.

I've seen a couple of hundred providers over the years. The vast majority had no "sob story ".  

I’ve heard similar stories as what you mentioned. And I have to say, I’ve heard some doozies.I’ll look interested and act like I care😆.. but I tend to brush those aside.
It’s the simple one line comments that I’ll most likely to be sincere

Hello, because "chinese" are cynical most of time.  Especially mainlanders, I am sorry to generalizing.  I can only go by my experience.  I dont blame her.  She is basically telling me, for popular girls they use tactics to hook you.  Either from story or something else.

Sure, some will run a sob story line for guys in hopes of getting a tip or even, with regulars or the incredibly gullible, hint for loans or flat out support. I don't think I've ever seen someone actually claim to have been suckered into anything but now and then someone reports they heard about someone doing so.

I don’t think he was saying they’re trying to set up a scam to get more money from you. I think the idea is just to get you to like them more. They want you to repeat, leave a good review, and/or tip well if that’s your thing.  

Yes, like a GFE enhancement.  

Aren't we all working on another degree and/or hoping to follow our true passion in life? LOL. 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

If she has good vibes and provides good sex, I'm not too concerned with her sanity lol. If she said she was going to party it all away, I might advise that it will catch up to her in a bad way. But if she wants to responsibly suck dick as her sole income, pay her bills, invest, etc..., well, that's what I call choosing a career and being responsible. It's the assholes in this world who are not allowing escorting to be a legal profession.

Is that like, not using teeth? Lol

Taken out of context, that might be what it is lol.

Back in the day (over 20 years ago) I went through a brief period when I frequented strip clubs. When it was time (with adequate tipping) for a lap dance (or just sitting with you), they all had a story, and it always some variation of the same story: abusive ex-boyfriend that is stalking them, disowned by their family, etc., ad nauseam.  

Here is more context of our conversation. My friend and I sometimes catch up to talk about the industry; I haven’t actually had a session with her for about three years, and in fact, she was the last Chinese girl I ever saw. Because we’re strictly friends now, she has nothing to gain from being anything but blunt with me about how she feels.

I would say most fake sob stories are done to elicit sympathy/empathy/pity. And then the client feels sorry/bad and tries to help. This doesn't have to lead, but often does lead especially long term to some kind of financial help.

My examples and the way I took this was not about sob stories. Sob stories imply they are down on their times. Those type of stories I agree are more dangerous and often are the beginning of a money grab scam. These are more likely to happen to a repeat customer who has shown vulnerability. It’s not as common with a new customer where no attachment has been built.

Jensen referenced them and also I thought the op made a typo. Because otherwise I have no clue what a "soft story" is.

What he described isn’t what I consider sob stories. But in his question he does refer to them as “sob stories”. But when I responded about what they are, he agreed with me. So it is a little confusing.

Sorry to call it "sob stories" before; let's call it "soft stories" instead. It fits the situation much better.

Dying lying at the "responsibly suck dick"... I'd like to throw in no teeth AND lots of ball play. 🤣

So you mean just conversations and "sharing part of their life" or "opening up" to someone? Okay, yes I would expect much of that to be part of the act -- why would they want to tell complete strangers or (for repeats) mere acquaintances much about their real life.

You mean it's ALL an illusion of passion?  Say it isn't so.

It’s really all an act. The better she is at fooling you, the better job she’s doing. You’re a paying customer and her job is to make everything feel as real as possible. If the main goal of her lies is to get you to feel you have a stronger connection to her and therefore like her, she’s done a great job.

That it's "all an act". These women are human beings. Occasionally they share a part of their humanity that goes beyond sexuality. I don't think they're all doing that for some malign purpose.

Not sure if you're reading that the way I intended. And, I can see why it might not be clear. I'm by no means suggesting every thing they are saying are lies. It can all be true, and I am sure it is in some cases. I'm more talking about them being into you. And, to keep it not so black and white, I am sure there are exceptions. But, these exceptions, are more likely to happen with repeat clients over time.

I've never gotten a "soft story" from a provider. QB told me about her sister at various times but I always knew it was truthful and I don't think she ever mentioned it during the times we met in person.  

Lying about someone passing is taking it too far. I'm not okay with that type of lie. I don't care so much if she says she's taking college classes and wants to be a nurse and it's not true. She wants me to like her more and thinks saying she has a legal career goal will do it, I shrug my shoulders. She tells me someone she cares about died and I find out she lied about it, that's a "what the fuck is wrong with you?" vibe.

Any kind of lie is taking it too far.