With all the discussion about trafficking, ladies, it makes me wonder how anyone got started here.  Was it financial?  Curiosity?  A friend?  Love of excitement?  Or perhaps just basic horniness and the love of strange sex?

For some reason, I doubt it was because some pimp picked you up in a bus station at 15 and forced you into the hobby.

Just curious.

Hands

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My PET. Damn creature. Tryrannical little thing!!! He told me that he will chew my shoes if I quit the hobby. So what's a girl to do? It even has insurance and it's own credit card. It will only eat premium groceries (none of that sh** you get at PetCO).  

Learning, dammit...I take tons of random classes and do lots of online tutorials/side projektz. Takes tons of time to learn sh**. I make money off of some of it, but not that much.  

My passions. Time...and sometimes, money for apparatus, materials, entry fee for contests, travel, etc. Speaking of...

Travel. 'Nuff said.

And finally...my stomach. If my damn stomach wasn't so demanding of me, I would NOT have to provide. Damn thing is so greedy

be tax deductible!!!

Healthcare.  

My premium went up OVER 100%...grrrrrrrrrrr.

Obamacare is keeping me here!!!! And yet, my plan is too expensive for me to even use.

You are hilarious, VOO-doo!

hacker slang translation: "that sounds elite"!

is a little shelter dude. So he deserves it And, I got him a few weeks after my last one unexpectedly passed away...so he has gotten quite a spoiling from me.

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and cake for "Zero Cool". Angelina was also hot in the flick!

I'm responsible for a little less than half any incurred costs (unlike my old bare bones plan, which had a ceiling limit I was very unlikely to surpass). So although mental health is now covered (hehe), I guess I'll be sticking around here (TER National Mental Asylum) for a while longer.  

It's almost enough to make me stop declaring income.

Then, it dawned on me I can be an adult & pay my own way to further my education..  I had a goal & currently pursuing it.. Idk if I will miss this lifestyle once I graduate & get a civie job... The money-Def... Doing my taxes, realizing how much I made, I'm stunned, like a VP salary this past year alone.  I think everyone should have a goal, this line of work is a fast rack to achieving goal.  I love it & respect it!!!  

Xoxo
GC

I was cruising Craigslist casual encounters for a FWB. Came across a post from a guy looking for a sugar baby. Hmmmm. Dude was better looking than my XH and about the same age as him, so what the hell. He replies back and says he likes me. After our first intimate meet he gave me a hundred dollars. I was very much in poverty at the time, so I clutched that Benji like it was my life blood and I bought my eldest a Lego Star Wars A-Wing for his b-day, groceries and filled my tank. I think I cried a little on my way home. Next week, the same thing...kept my electricity from being shut off. Until his wife got suspicious. He told me I should look on Ashley Madison for a new SD, so I did. And, it took off.  

1st guy I meet on AM is actually a member here, or was. I dunno what his handle is, but maybe he'll say hey. We met briefly to discuss arrangements and he gave me money so I could book the room for us the next day. He asked me how I pictured our first intimate meet. So, I go on to describe two passionate lovers ripping eachother's clothes off as soon as we walk into the room. He suggested that we shower together first after working all day. OK, so not like I pictured. So, we get into the room and he hands me a white unsealed envelope, so I'm like "What's this?" He coughed a little and laughed, and I turn red, thank him and put it in my purse. Before I can even kiss him, he begins to undress right in front of me! And, we hadn't even kissed yet. This was unbelievable to me because keep in mind I had been married for 8 years and only had one other long term boyfriend before my XH. So, I turned red some more but undressed myself and we showered and then went on to have a great session. He told me about the hobby a bit and said if I ever decided to sign up on TER, that he would write a review for me. I laughed and said "OH, NO! I will never become an escort! I want one man to see me each week and give me allowance."  

So, I kept on doing that and had some great guys and great arrangements, paid off most of my debt, started building savings and got my mom that Kitchen Aid mixer she always wanted. I had a few trade agreements as well, with a house painter, a handyman and a dentist. So, my home and teeth are in much better shape today. Yes, I posted on craigslist under gigs "Escort seeks lonely handyman/dentist for trade". I knew I was a slutty SB, but I didn't consider myself an escort then.

It was hard work maintaining that many boyfriends though and always trying to get new ones when the old ones couldn't see me any more. I got tired. I work 40 hours a week in a day job, and was working 8-16 a week as a night janitor and also taking in laundry for my neighbors. The straw that broke the camel's back was when my very last reliable SD broke up with me when he lost his excuse to see me, and I had no POTs lined up. So, I posted on backpage last month and met some nice guys so far. I realized what little maintenance it is for part-time escorting compared to sugaring, so I will never go back. And, how much safer it is too because of provider referrals. I had to go by gut instinct when meeting POTs. I look back at how dangerous and stupid it was when the only thing I relied on was a google and a blacklist site.  

I love the outcall dinner dates the best because each week I get a fun filled night of drunkenness, gluttony, hedonism and debauchery with nice men that treat me 100 times better than my ex-husband ever did. Then, I go home to my family and be a mother and a daughter and a worker and cook and cleaner and dog owner. But, for one or two nights a week I get to be Stina Valentine, a filthy, slutty lush that seduces men to open their wallets and partake in the sinful delights of THE HOBBY.

I had been hooking up with several people after a 10 yr relationship ended, or as some like to call it, I started "dating".

Around the same time I became an entrepreneur and started going through funds/savings pretty fast for the responsibilities I had. One day drinking wine alone I thought about things to do that were out of character and I thought why not, I posted, no price, and had a great experience and the rest is history.

When someone uses trafficking in a debate on prostitution it's angering, trafficking includes so much more than having sex, that's just a subset, people are trafficked for slavery, to commit other crimes (like drug mules), all sorts of other things besides sex.

My story is similar to yours StinaValentine. I started out on the SD websites as a struggling grad student minus the XH and kids. The first of my family to attend college and one day on the 4th of the month I was facing eviction. Created an account on SD and a few days later I had received money in time to pay my rent (including late fees), put groceries in the frig, and gas in my car. Feeling relieved and able to study I decided to try it out for a while. After my SD starting having problems with me being black in public I decided to try something new i.e. escorting.  After some research and more research...here I am.

Like you StinaValentine I thought to myself "ooo noooo, I will never escort". I had certain insecurities about the business as well. Such as, I will never get married, no man will ever want me if I do this so forth and so on. Then I realized by the time I meet my mate (if I ever) I will certainly not be a virgin. So whats the problem....lol! O well....my lil 2cents.  

StinaValentine I look forward to chatting with you. I think we started TER around the same time.  
O...and cheers to a good life

Very similar stories, SweetDecember. Are you able to receive PMs yet? I have another blog I write with sex workers being the audience. I follow some brown sugar babies on there and have read about women of color struggling to find an SD that is completely comfortable taking her out in public. I don't understand how anyone can really care about that this day and age. But, Carolina is in The South, so we are behind the times a little. Do you ever come to Atlanta?