All I can say is that throwing more money at it really won't really enhance the experience, I too spend an awful lot of money at our little "hobby", but I don't have a wife at home.

Truth be told, after fucking literally thousands of women over my lifetime I could probably understand option #4 if I didn't have such a short attention span and wasn't so easily bored with just one woman.

I might make a suggestion that you do a modified option #4, You still seem to enjoy both fucking and the actual company of your wife. Why not spend a bit more time with her, and just scratch your itch when you really feel the need. Money doesn't seem to be an issue, maybe just going on the occasional fuck fest like I do in Costa Rica or Colombia will keep your juices flowing for a while longer.

Again speaking as someone who not only has been there, but is still there, Quanity is not everything, I think every guy should fuck four or five women a day at least once in their life, but once you've done it there really isn't much excitement left in it.

Another suggestion to add some real variety in your life, is every time you are interested in fucking a certain type of woman, let's say you wake up with a hankering for a Scandinavian blonde. Jump on an airplane and fly to Sweden and get exactly what you want straight from the source. lol Just a suggestion, it might  cure your boredom for another year or two.

I'm 38 married with no kids.  Wife is hot as hell and great in bed, but I was curious to see if this was as good as it gets so I decided to take $200k and f*ck it away.  This has been a year like no other, but nine month in, I'm getting bored.  I've got $25k left in the budget and I'm thinking of using it to put a new roof on the garage...is that sad or what? (it is a nice garage...)

In January I bought TER VIP (best investment yet) and started the year off with several 1-2 hour dates the first month (both at home and on the road) and quickly decided that the best talent is found outside of New England (no disrespect to Boston.  I love you as a city, but the menu choices are better elsewhere).  As I got my feet (an Jr.) wet, I was having the time of my life.

Feb to March found me up and down the east coast with a concentration in Florida where I met some of the most amazing ladies (Floridians you are blessed with a fantastic talent pool).  I also made several trips to the the buffet in NYC (very talented, but a bit overpriced, but rent is expensive, so I get it) and New England (Yawn, with the rare exception of a few locals and a few traveling providers).  The dates went from 1-2 hours to 2-4 hours with couple of overnights.

In April and May I bounced from the East coast to the west coast and met two of my ATFs in FL and met a number of beauties in Las Vegas and SoCal.  (The talent in Vegas is also amazing, and while I don't wish they all could be California girls, there are quite a few gals there that kept it interesting).  Multi-hour dates with new friends and overnights with ATFs and I thought life couldn't get better.

June and July role around and I'm not sure if it's the dog days of summer, but things start to change.  The experiences start to become very similar and while the end result was always a pleasure the excitement started to wear off and even the overnight marathons were starting to lose their edge.  Tried a double or two to spice things up and while it was an experience like no other, I probably wouldn't repeat again.  Kind of like sky diving...cool when you did it, but once it's done, you know what to expect so the next time (and subsequent times) lose their appeal.

August hits and I find myself tiring of the overnights.  During these prior seven months I had come to know several woman personally and they were quite enjoyable, but I found myself enjoying more time with the wife and enjoying it. (WTF?!?, I know.  It shocked me too)

Here we are at the end of September and I find myself going through the motions with my favorites and not really being surprised or blown away by the new girls I see.  I've played with the a number of women from the TER Top 50 for between 2 hours and 3 nights all the way down to lightly rated or unrated CV/BP girls and I've found that when you boil it all down, the experience is pretty much the same.  High $ providers will definitely provide more of a show and are generally much better thespians than the $200-300/hour girls, but at the end of the day, the thrill is gone.  

After nine months, I have one out of town ATF that is possibly the best GFE ever (sex is great, but so is catching a show or dinner), another ATF that is the best PSE ever (i.e. dinner is OK, but she is a machine in bed) and a surprising local find that is a fraction of the cost of either of the ATFs.  If I were just staring my hobby with these girls, I'd be blown away and completely captivated, but now I'm just going along for the ride.  Unfortunately for me the ride is more like the county fair roller coaster ride as opposed to the 300ft amusement park roller coaster ride it used to be in January. My fear is that in another six months, the ride will be like Driving Miss Daisy.  So what's the next step.

Option #1 - Increase $ and try to see higher quality girls more frequently or for longer periods of time to build a "relationship".  This option is not that appealing, because the only real relationship will be between her and Ben Franklin.  Plus will $400k get me any more than $200k?

Option #2 - Become like BeeFEater500 and enjoy the variety of life?  I'm afraid I don't have the patience to kiss all those frogs.  I quickly tired of "young, fit, 30y/o" with TER appearance ratings of 9 opening the door and actually being "mature, athletic 40+y/o" that should be a 7 at best.  I just don't have the patience.

Option #3 - Sugar Daddy/Baby with one of my ATFs? They are both amazing woman, but If I find myself occasionally sending them to the spa to get a break or actually working when they are away with me for an overnight.  I've got a wife, so do I really need a full time or part time GF? Probably not

Option #4 - Quit and enjoy the wife more realizing that the grass was really not that much greener, and in some cases the green grass was actually weeds. (this can't be the answer)

I've got the cash to blow and the travel schedule to accommodate much of the USA, but frankly it's starting to get tedious and a bit boring, so is it possible that there is such a thing as too much of a good thing?

I'd say you've just had too much ice cream...albeit expensive ice cream.  That first icecream sandwich is AWESOME.  So you chase it with another, hoping to capture that awesome taste.  It's pretty good, but no as good as the first.  So you grab another icecream sandwich, etc.

I'd suggest you take a break and hit up your ATF(S) and that ocassional new girl, when the urge comes about.  Too much  icrcream at one time can make you sick.

In the meanwhile, I'd take your wife out to a nice restaurant, order some good wine.  Smile and know life is pretty damn good.

I think you've been the proverbial kid in a candy store and just need to take a break.  I've been at it for almost a year (after returning from a long marriage hiatus), but I've had several breaks of a month or more while I was out of town in a place with no providers (or none I could find, even using TER).  So when I get back to my home stomping grounds I'm rarin' to go and can spend a month or more seeing 2-3 gals a week.  I don't do overnights, or multi-day dates (just not my thing) so I've spent much less money than you.  I haven't even tried to total it up, but I'd guess its around $12,000.  Right now I'm out of action again, but when I get back in Nov. I will indulge in a week-long fuck-a-thon.
Try taking a break.  I bet you'll be back sooner than you'd have thought.

I think you'll die having had a sex life that many men can only dream of.  So try to find some enjoyment in that!

I can understand the desire to make sure your not missing out on anything, and it sounds as if you have already discovered that your wife is as good and plus you have the extra good feeling because it is a true relationship. A lot of the rest of us don't have the option of getting what we desire from the SO or have no SO and so the hobby is a longer term solution to not getting what we want. I would not   stress on using X amount of dollars in any time frame. Take a break, enjoy your wife when and if you get the urge you have the funds to take care of it.  You can have too much of anything, even sex.

I too am mid 30's and started this hobby back in Feb 2011. I didn't quite spend as much as you but I went through about 120k in the 11 remaining months of 2010 after I started.

I too tired and had the same thoughts but have since been able to find a balance.  

I think oceanfun78 had some good advice. If you'd like to discuss this further feel free to pm me and I'll give you my insight as to how I handled the same issues you are now facing.

In any case good luck and I hope you too find a balance.

I had the same problem, I built up to the prverbial climax of hobbying....so I thought. I started with all 2 hr dates, 4 hr, then overnights, and lastly taking the ATF on many Trips.

I've done the doubles to spice up what was getting dull and find new adventures. When it was all said and done, I was like an addict looking for his next high. The problem was it took more and more to satisfy me but I had reached the top of the mountain (from the hobby stand point)

So I'd take oceanfun's advise..........it worked for me.

Although I do not have the disposable income (nor the hot wife) you seem to have, I do understand how you feel.  I have been searching for the ultimate experience/relationship for the last 20 years.  Looking back on my hobbying timeline is depressing to me.  I started in college with a local strip club (Admiral).  I bored quickly and then hit some Cicero clubs (Spot, and the place just to the west of it).  I then moved up to streetwalkers, which were once easy to find in Cicero.  After a difference of opinion with a Cicero cop, I decided to try Asian spas.  I got sick of Asian food and began looking for non-Asian massage therapists that offered the same services.  I recently bit the bullet and started visiting escorts.  I have slowly progressed up the hobbying ladder and I can’t help but wonder how high it goes.  I am really not sure what gets me off… the excitement of someone new, the thrill of being caught, the sex????  

Like you, I have had some wonderful times, but already find myself wondering if there is something better out there.  Looking back, the most fun I had was with a neighbor.   She is a 6 to 7 in looks, but a 10 in performance.  The 4 years I have spent with her, hitting hotels, parking lots, secluded parks, and her Latin ass is the pinnacle of my sexual exploits.  The sexual tension we have at neighborhood gatherings is scary and yet enjoyable.

As for you… have you considered adult vacations?  I believe $7K can buy you a 4-days & 3-nights in a Caribbean villa full of sexy woman.    

Good luck in whatever path you choose.

So I'm addicted to ice cream.

Hello my name is Splle and I'm and IceCreamaholic.  Has a good ring to it.  

Seriously,  I've taken a few weeks off at a time and the first date back has a little spark, but the next one generally is back to status quo.  It's interesting, because the sex is good and the experience accomplishes everything it is intended to physically, but it is not memorable in the least.  Perhaps a few months in between would make the experience more memorable.  Might be worth a test run.

Now for the newbie question...Should I inform the AFTs that I plan on cutting back?? I saw a post similar to this below, but it related to cutting them off entirely.

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Did you form any type of friendship with your ATF and how much time was spent with her? If you did form a friendship or spent an abundant amount of time with her, I would definitely tell her. If she's just your ATF in passing and you didn't spend a lot of time with her than it would be a game day decision but I'd most likely tell her.

I know that my ATF would be the 1st person I'd tell whether I was to quitting all together or just cutting back.

I don't think there is a right or wrong answer it all depends on the person and what they feel like they need to do.

I'm not a shrink, but I have a business partner that admits he has an obsessive-compulsive personality, so I'm getting familiar with the behavior patterns.  Everything is pursued in a gung-ho manner until the inevitable letdown occurs.  There's never any moderation.  Sometimes we can put this to good use, but a lot of times it causes problems.

But I think anybody would reach the point of burnout going at it as intensely as you did.  A little moderation goes a long way to keeping things fresh.  I can't think of any luxury or pleasure that doesn't lose it's impact if you over indulge, and that certainly includes provider sex because it's fairly one dimensional (just physical, no real emotional connection).  

For example, I know a guy that inherited some family money and started buying classic cars.  In the beginning, he was having a blast with each new acquisition, because every car was significant to him.  Now he has about 55 or 60 cars and I don't think he enjoys any of them anymore.  IMO, he just overindulged to the point that each new car brought him less and less satisfaction, until he finally reached the point where it was no longer fun- just another thing to worry about.  You might be in a similar situation with seeing providers.

I'd put the new roof on the garage and give your dick the month off, except for the wife.  Then see how you feel after you've had time to re-set your reference frame on the whole subject.

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maybe on a business basis you should tell them.  the post below was about feelings.

You are absolutely correct!!!

I was referring to both aspects but The financial aspect is JUST as important if not more so.

While you've been away plowing
You should write a book.  No really.  Tour it on the morning shows.  It might be fun.
I liked your post -
What was your impetus for leaving a "hot wife who's great in bed" to bang stangers?
?boredom
?risk/cheating

I agree with much of your hobby insights.  Particularly "kissing frogs" and review appearances.

If it was boredom, then it's clear that the repeated scheduling of arrangements in the hobby can become regimental.  Have someone else pick and make the appointments for you - it'll be like a real blind date.

If it's the risk-related high of cheating on your wife:
Buy a Poon-Palace; stock it weekly/monthly with women you want.  They get paid & live rent free in mansion for as long as you want.  You roll'em out, and invite new ones in.  Cultivate your own harem.

That's what my brother has in Dubai.  He get's ladies (all expenses paid)  from Europe & US for 1-2 wks; they bank notes; he's happy....and not bored...rich bastardo.

Good question...

A quick review of her credit card bill shows that she spent a sh!t load on Louis Vuitton, Calvin Klein, Jacques Cartier and some guy named Barney in NY to name a few.  She has her own blow money, but it's unlikely she's paying for dick.  She can get it for free if she wants it.

The impetus...maybe a little boredom, a dash of mid-life crisis, probably some risk/adventure with a shot of curiosity thrown in.  Like I said, jumping out of planes was nice, but by the fourth time, it lost it's appeal.

Poon Palace...hmmm  Wasn't there a guy name Hefner with the same idea?

Maybe I should have just taken care of the midlife crisis with a Ferrari.

Good post.  There is some truth in that.  I think we do alot things subconciously.

Might be a nice idea, but a retainer might be a better thought.  Have them keep a slot open for me if I decide to stage a comeback.

for a few months and that you'll get back to them when you are back.  If you are cool with them (plus they've been compensated well by you) they'll welcome you back if/when you are ready.  I'm new to this, but I know people.

they'd be interested to know you're slowing down.  Not that you can't be replaced, but as a business owner I try to keep tabs on my major customers and their spending projections over the next 6-24 months.  It's only good business.  If you're become a major contributor to their income stream, they'd probably appreciate knowing.  Not that you OWE it to them, but if you're asking the question, I think that's the answer.

I saw a lady VERY regularly (sometimes for 4-7 days running), and I was pretty sure I made up a quarter of her revenue.  I let her know I was slowing down so she could adjust accordingly.

I've been slaving away at somewhere in the same vicinity as you (dollar-wise), but I've just decided to throttle it back some so the experiences don't all bleed together.

Send me a PM if u can.

drunken asian

I was active for quite a while.  Saw (and tried) some pretty weird shit along the way.  I like the way Gambler put it: 'Chasing the dragon'.  I vote for #4, modified like Gambler says.

Enjoy the wife.  Enjoy the new roof.  Take some poor kids to an amusement park.  Teach whatever made you wealthy to someone else.  Whatever.  There will always be some new woman willing to sell you some fun if/when you want it again.

Oh no, wait. I was thinking that if I brought my lunch to work I'd be able to afford to hobby more than every other month.  Once that child support check ends though

You have a PM

I don't turn off the lights 18 times or need to wash my hands six times, but when it come down to getting something accomplished, I am definitely balls to the wall until it's done.  My to-do list is rarely that long, because I get things done. Business is wildly successful as a result, but to be honest, I can remember the last time I watched a sit-com or anything else for that matter on TV.

Thought I could compensate by diversifying my experiences (different providers, locations, ethnic backgrounds, but after 9 months it all blended to gray)  Don't get me wrong, the ATFs are still fun, but as I mentioned to one poster in a PM, I remember a few weeks back reading one of my old reviews and wondering what happened to that girl, only to realize that she was seated next to me in the plane.  Did she change? maybe a bit, but I'm guessing I contributed to the shift in my own perspective as well

"I'd put the new roof on the garage and give your dick the month off, except for the wife."

Not bad advice...I'll take it under advisement Doc.

I'm on a different albeit expense track as well.  Two months and 20 grand into the hobby but all with the same provider.  After meeting in her city a couple of times i've now been flying her to my location.  Pretty stupid considering the cost vs the number of sessions.  I have the same situation at home: hot wife, likes sex etc. etc.  Still can't figure out why I'm here.

Travel sex is costly, but if the local talent isn't up to par, then you have to shop out of state.  If you are going to stick with the same girl to the tune of $120k per year, see if you can work out a volume discount or a SD/SB relationship.  That's a lot of coin for one pussy.  Also, I know you think your ATF is the bomb, but next time you are out of town, treat yourself to someone new.  The worst that can happen is you realize how amazing your ATF is.  Variety is the spice of life.

I'm not sure if your wife travels, but paying someone to fly to see you if she can't even spend the night doesn't strike me as efficient.  Granted, I'm probably not the one to talk about being efficient, but I have been fairly judicious in my spending and except in one or two cases, have not spent for the sake of spending.  

She spends a couple of days when I fly her in, so it's more than one main event so to speak.  Sounds like good advice regardless.  Thanks

I've experience the same thing in regard to njoying more time with my wife.  I'm starting to realize that the VIP providers I've seen don't have anything on my wife in regard to looks or performance.  And my wife likes me.  The variey is nice but at what cost?

Funny post though, although I'm sure you won't appreciate the comment.

You need do an assessment on why you hobby. Rule number 1 if you have a lady at home take care of her first.

The hobby should be about enjoyment and fulfillment. You are getting bored. Something needs to change.

I suggest that you take a break and figure out what went wrong.

I like you use to do over nights and 3-4 appointments. The fact that you are doing a calculation is an indication of regret. Cut back and only hobby 1 or a few times a month. Try only 1 hour appointments. Things get old with the same lady/ladies all the time. Variety is the spice of life and it applies to the hobby.

I suggest that you go with option 2 with an enhancement. After you do you research to make sure the ladies are in your standards create a shopping list and hit them one by one. Don't go after lady at the last minute that is not on your shopping list.

You also might want to consider traveling out of the US to hobby.

Now that I've been around the block several times, I still find it most enjoyable to sleep at home.  perhaps the mystery is solved.

Seriously. Dude. At least post under your handle so we can read your reviews.

...without pics of your wife.