This is a situation in my personal life rather than with a client.  

Sometimes you can't make "the best of a bad situation" and you simply have to "make a new situation"  

until I found out he saw escorts, and me as payback became one and now I'm single and having fun and he's broke and single! LOL

...to rev up your motor

... but how about suggesting a threesome with a provider?  Preferably one who's really bi (if you're open to that) and can be a dom.  Most guys would jump at the chance of a threesome, and it could really spice up your sex life.  Try to find a provider who loves working with couples and if possible is experienced in just this sort of thing (i.e. enlivening stale marriages).  I know some providers like that and have seen that mentioned on provider web sites. You could try an ISO post on your local board.

Yes he's controlling but he must be bored too if I am, and I think there's some hope as we did once have a way hotter sex life.  I'm so bored with him going down on me.  I could almost fall asleep bc he's really doing it for himself, no for me...

Nice idea in theory but I would never have a threesome, just not my thang.  But thank you for the idea!  And you are my (free) sex therapist!  

... white sand, umbrella drinks, long orange sunsets, not a care in the world, a bottle of wine... trust me, it can go a long way in the direction you want it to go.  And if it doesn't then unfortunately for you, Gambler is probably right.  

Kinda like alimony! And, he did her a favor and got her into this biz!

Make an ultimatum if you have to.

good advice in song.
I know the video has Chevy in it

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Working on it!

tying him up and then pleasuring him, and yourself, in ways that excite you. May completely backfire given the comment about him being a control freak but then it might help break him out of his shell.  

Good luck... it worked for me.  Of course I got a son out of it so be careful lol.

I have no idea how I could tie him up when he usually sleeps with one eye open, but I really like this idea a lot.

Not sure how far away the galaxy was.

a threesome, and bring in another girl.   Most guys will consider that a hall pass of sorts and will relive the experience in their minds for months after when its just you and him.  You can partially replicate some of the other positions when he had two girls pleasuring him at once, getting him out of his "routine."    

Maybe you should drop a full envelope on your date.

And that's how much I'm worth!

As a sex therapist anyway.

No thank you

No offense to A.A.  I'm sure he is great.

...talk to your now ex about her weight gain and "mental aging?"

I took my own earlier advice and got the fuck out of the relationship and I am quite happy with the results.  

didn't work for me. Control freaks are rough. Example ... after a failed romantic vacation, my ex suggested counseling and I agreed. Because I agreed, she lost control... so we only went once. She quit and felt back
in control.  

...we need to meet!!!...

I am having the same problem. He is someone in my personal life. Sex was mindblowing at first and things would heat up when we play tag and meet up in a different city for vacay. Things are a drab now. He likes dominating me and doesn't like pleasuring me at all. It all comes down to us having completely different sexual taste I guess. He is not someone I am interested in having a relationship with so its okay for me to call it quits and move on. You seem like you might be trying to stick with this person because they are or might be becoming your significant other. Otherwise, just let it go. You can't fix bad sexual chemistry.

Take responsibility for Your pleasure.
Then,
Learn to SPEAK UP for what You want.