These are my personal thoughts about what I think is attractive in a man. Not what is attractive in a client because the two would be different. I will list both.

1. Honesty

This is very important to me because I would not be able to have a relationship with someone without being honest with them.

2. Fidelity

Some may not understand this due to my job but I feel that if you are in a relationship work is one thing and fidelity to your partner is another. Mutual swinging is one thing but this also goes back to honesty. If he wanted to experiment or things like that I would want him to talk to me about it.

3. Physical Attractiveness

I am not into guys who look like male versions of playboy bunnies. I like men who are tall, preferably in shape but don't have to be cut. I like broad shoulders and kind eyes. Hair is not mandatory because bald guys are hot too.

4. Energy Level

I like men who have a lot of energy not just to keep up with me in bed but in life. I like an active partner.

5. Their Compassion Factor

I like Alpha Males, but Alpha Males who have hearts. My current SO is a wonderful activist, gives to charities and is extremely kind hearted.

6. Their ability to give me space.

I appreciate someone who has his own hobbies, his own thoughts and ideals and someone who can go off for a few days alone and give me space.





Now how does a client appeal to me...

1. He's respectful.
2. He's flexible about schedule and laid back.
3. He's got disposable income he does not mind sharing with me (yes that is true).
4. He's clean & fresh when he sees me.
5. He is a good lover.
6. He NEVER talks about other ladies when we are together.


~Rae

Number One is definitely number one, but after that, its hard to put them in order of priority.  They are all very important.  In the case where the quality or attribute can be learned and the man does not possess that quality or attribute but has the desire to learn it, he is just as appealing as if he already possesses the quality or attribute.  Most of these, however, seem to be values that are inherent in one's humanity or not.  

1.  Respectful towards everyone, especially me and other women.  It doesn't make you look like a hot shot big man to belittle another woman in front of me, such as the server at the restaurant or another provider.  When you engage in disrespectful behavior of any kind, you loose your manhood completely.  The raw foundation of your manhood is the way you show respect and reverence to women.
2.  A genuine desire, interest and ability to bring me pleasure, appreciate me in my totality, and connect with me as a person by communicating well with words, your eyes, touch, and other expressions of your body. This desire and interest stems from your understanding that your greatest power as a man is to bring a woman pleasure and make her shine.  You feel most powerful when the woman you have on your arm or you are attending to is confident, joyful and strong.
3. Passion
4. Charm - a desire and ability to seduce me into your kiss and embrace.
5. Humor
6. Integrous
7. Intelligent/Creative/Innovative
8. Generous - you give of yourself generously in every possible way.  My favorite friends send me emails regularly sometimes with marketing information, others write erotic stories about our next encounter, others write letters expressing their appreciation, devotion and care.  They pay me for all of the time that they are with me and tip me generously.  They give of whatever resources they can to ensure I am taken care of, my success and happiness.
9.  Educated/Open-minded/Nonjudgemental
10. Adventurous/Spontaneous
11. Strength/Courage