First of all, I will apologize to Heather and everyone here for not doing this via private e-mail, but I thought many people who visit here would be interested in knowing these answers, in the event she responds.

I visited her website(s) today. Anyone who has been here for any length of time is probably familiar with her, and what many call her "performance art", in addition to her provider services. It's hard, without ever meeting her, not to form an opinion. I would like to avoid being judgmental. Although I do not foresee a time when I would engage her professionally, as I'm happily married, I am nonetheless very intrigued. Without a doubt she's very attractive, sexy and smart. (Yep, of course it's possible to be attractive and not sexy, or vice versa. Being smart is a bonus.) Reviews on TER have been overhwhelmingly positive. Yet, I can't help but wonder what makes Heather be Heather. Anyone who has visited her site and viewed the sample video in which she talks about a "scamming bitch" (or words to that effect) and the difference between a hooker and a pimp can't help but come away with a few questions.

Since she's posted more than a few survey-type questions here, I thought I would attempt to turn the tables somewhat. So, here goes. Heather- if you wouldn't mind-

1) Do you have a romantic social life away from this business? If so, are they aware of this aspect of your life? If so, does it matter to them one way or the other?

2) Do you ever meet anyone away from this business that you sleep with, who, for a lack of a better way of putting it, doesn't have to compensate you monetarily?

3) Are either of your children aware of what you do?

4) 10-15 years ago, could you have honestly predicted you future?  

5) Is it really all performance art?

6) And lastly, deep down, are you happy?


Again, my apologies to the board and anyone else who will find my post unnnecessary. If I weren't married, I'd be forking over the dough to spend time with her, no questions asked. Anyone with that amount of looks, spirit and verve has got to be an extreme physical adventure. Since I'm coming at it from a different perspective now, this is as close I will probably ever get to finding out these answers, and also a few others here as well.
Thanks.

Just after I posted the above I sent an e-nmail to the AOL address that can be found on Heather Barron's XXX website, telling her what I had done. I received this reply-

"Heather Barron is no longer in the adult entertertainment business."

The misspelling of the word entertainemt belongs to whomever wrote the reply, presumably Heather.

1). You say "I wouldn't engage her professionally, as I'm happily married."  Then why are you visiting TER and looking up escort websites?

2.) Why do you think Heather should openly respond to your personal questions.

3.) And why, deep down, do you care.

You say you are "intrigued"--you are not alone.  Heather is an "intrigueing" personality who does have a high profile on these boards.  Clearly your interest goes beyond just "intrigue".  I for one feel you've crossed the line posing these kinds of questions here.

Well, good for you, you're entitled to your opinion.

However, given the nature of this hobby, one which I used to partake but no longer (hence my continued interest as I can still follow former acquaintances and also read the more than occasional unintentionally hilarious post), it seems rather odd for one to say there are any kind of lines at all, especially in regards to someone as "out there" as Heather Barron.

And one more thing-

This isn't meant as a slag against anybody- but have you visited her site and seen the video I refer to? Don't you wonder, even a tiny, little bit, why it's there? Or if it isn't directed at a specific someone (albeit certainly unknown to most of us)who maybe oughta be worried a tiny, little bit? Hard to imagine that clip was a product of anyone's pure imagination.

I can only agree with 2k1.  I do not know and have never met Heather, but I have followed her posts since she first arrived in Southern California and began posting.  She has exposed more of her inner self, her personal ups and downs and her personality than any other provider who has chosen to participate here has.  Sometimes this has been to her detriment.  Sometimes this has been a means of self-promotion.  Sometimes this has been an attempt to breathe some life into the conversation on the board.  However, whether her style is good or bad, her comments appear to be a genuine reflection of herself, her personality and a commitment to the career she has chosen for herself.  Given all of the above this does not obligate her to answer questions of an overly personal nature, i.e., questions about her children are inappropriate.  Just as you have every right to ask Heather questions of a personal nature, Heather has every right to decline to answer your questions and I would advise her not to respond.  Your first inclination was correct.  In my opinion, you should have presented your questions in a private e-mail.

I certainly ask men on this board many questions and usually they take the time to respond so I don't think it's unreasonable to ask.

1) Do you have a romantic social life away from this business? If so, are they aware of this aspect of your life? If so, does it matter to them one way or the other?

The last year has been filled with a lot of hard work. I made a lot of friends. I met someone out of the business who became a friend. From the beginning, he knew what I did for a living and it always bothered him but since he isn't a rich man and cannot afford to support me, my children and my parents at this timem despite the fact that I will marry him in 3 weeks, I will continue making my way the best I can. I enjoy work. It gives me a sense of fulfillment. And as far as love is concerned, it doesn't matter to me whether he made $10 an hour or $30. In a few years, I suspect I'll be where I need to be by virtue of my own hard work. If I married a millionaire, I wouldn't be home getting manicures and massages all day. That just isn't me. I'd still be writing and caring for my kids. I also travel a lot and by virtue of my work schedule on the non-adult side, making new friends enhances my life. Sure, Heather gets lonely sometimes too. But when the phone rings, I know that I'm about to spend quality time with a cool person, have the van payment taken care of and escape into a little world that gives me a break from all the pressures in my life. I need the escapism as much as the guys I think. It's my vacation. My fiancee isn't there and cannot be there. That's the nature of entertainment biz. I have to go to ____ to meet with some writer about ___. I'm going to be there for ___ days. I would much rather meet someone new and have a beautiful romantic dinner than sit in my hotel room. I'm a social creature and no marriage or man is going to change that.
In marrying Heather Barron, you marry a woman who is going to be sharing meals, meetings and time with other men, women and persona.

2) Do you ever meet anyone away from this business that you sleep with, who, for a lack of a better way of putting it, doesn't have to compensate you monetarily?

I was with one person for 30 years, my first husband. After that, I went on an journey to find myself. I met men who I spent time with who did not fall into the booking category but once I broke from my husband and starting supporting the kids without a penny of child support, still not to this day, it became critical to spend my time wisely. For a long time I viewed personal time as selfish. I still do. Everything I do is geared toward securing their future and making them happy. The gent I ended up clicking with was a friend so the change in my life wasn't that obvious. I try to juggle a lot of balls and true enjoyment for me is about spending free time since there isn't much, with my kids or working on a venture to ensure that they are cared for in the best manner possible. I do go to lunch with a lot of people just for the hell of it, sure. But lunch is lunch.

3) Are either of your children aware of what you do?

They know mommy is a writer, an artist and an entertainer.

4) 10-15 years ago, could you have honestly predicted your future?  

No.

5) Is it really all performance art?

Evelyn Haze isn't performance art. It's a business. Heather Barron is a journey simply put.

6) And lastly, deep down, are you happy?

Some days, yes. Some days, no. Sometimes I feel blessed. Sometimes I feel weighed. But they say, you are never given more than you can handle so I take my life as the opportunity to prove what I'm made of and to show others that you can overcome a lot without cop outs like drug use or running away. Creating, for me gives me great pleasure and I have used my experiences to try to inspire others to discover their hidden talents. Eroticism isn't the only escapism. Writing poetry might be a nice way for a guy who has a stressful home life to "get away". I entered this business to pull some of you out of it. It's a phase and when you find true happiness, you leave. The path sometimes is slow and for me it has to be. I have not found mecca yet, for me it's a professional state of mecca morso than personal. I'm still walking the road with a dollar and a dream.


Heather Barron

but I find your openess in answering these questions very refreshing. This post will make me look at your posts in a different light.

pt

I also laud your openness.... but you say you were "with one person for 30 years, my first husband"???  WOW... and you look so young!!! You went to preschool together? LOL (----JK)

Being a fellow provider found your reply to be very telling and I commend your honesty and truly believe you are a good heart even if your methods are a bit strange.  This is to let you know you are loved by someone you don't even know. Me! a fellow and former Bostonian.  I wish you every happiness in your up coming nuptials
Sasha

I applaud you for your answers. It has helped me gain a better perspective of what you are all about.

I wish you continued success in all you future endeavours. Have a happy life.

Heather I commend you for what is obvious thoughtfulness and clarity.

Sometimes it appears like there is no method to your madness, not that I or anyone is trying to figure you out.  But given all the responsibility you have, I often wonder how anyone can be expected to keep a level head on so many fronts all the time.

When I did marry, I married someone who I knew for over 20 years. I met Michael when I was 6 and a half years old. What helped even more, was that he was my brother's best friend, a neighbor.  Our families knew each other, although both our sets of parents weren't enamored of each other.

Like you, Heather, I came to a parting of the ways. In my case, I sadly realized that ultimately my husband and I  had totally different belief systems, and that the fact that we loved each other dearly wasn't enough to perperuate the relationship on a healthy basis.

I wish you the best. You are a lady who is of course an artist with a little bit of nuts, of course (artists must be) but with a love for life, your children, and a determination that must be appreciated, or at least recognized.  

Congratulations on your marriage.  will it be in LA or Vegas?

Ciao for now.  
xoxo
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According to Heather's response "I was with one person for 30 years, my first husband."  Hell, that would put Heather at about 48 years old!!! or more!!! and she's claiming late 30's!

Not necessarily.  Read my post above.  Of course I dont speak for Heather, but I am just trying to shed some light on what might otherwise be an assumption.  What is meant by "with".

Heather may have had a childhood sweetheart as did I. My ex was my neighbor when I was 6-1/2 years old!  We married much later of course, but we considered that we were with each other.

xoxo




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