Has anyone ever scheduled a FMTY and then suddenly received a communication from the provider asking if you want to move it up by two weeks in the next few days? Seems like a red flag to me.

on Friday, and the grace period probably ends next week about Thursday, this does not seem at all out of the ordinary to me, but I have a habit of looking beyond the fantasy to real-life concerns for explanations. I could be wrong, but I also might be right.

I don't have the financial means to schedule a FMTY so I wouldn't have this problem, lol.

....  earlier this year I had a FMTY for 2 weeks with a well-established Provider who has been in the game for a long time.  And I had seen her before.  It was a sizable sum as was the deposit.  While we were negotiating the dates which took a few weeks as we were planning far in advance, she suddenly delisted herself, deactivated P411 and all other social accounts.   Yikes!  I don't know if she would have refunded the money or not but in retrospect, I'm glad we never came to an agreement.

Fly to her.. Rent a hotel and see her over there.. Might cost you a fraction.. Plus you can also do some sight seeing..

He has a point here and I am starting to see that after trying the FMTY route. Since my traveling opportunities are limited I saw the FMTY as an opportunity to see folks since there is very limited inventory in my area; like next to nothing with very little traveling professionals coming to the area.  It has been a bit of a struggle to make work and the costs go through the roof which would limit how often you can do it. I guess the best approach, since you are going to be limited either way, is to travel to a destination yourself although it may only be once or twice a year.