Is it an act of homosexuality if a man enjoys having a dildo up his rear and in his mouth?  

Is there no stronger chain of bondage?

"society" hobbles so many people with shame and stigma. Maybe there was a time when we needed to keep everyone in a strict one-on-one breeder track in order to build up the world population, but we don't seem to be running low on mouths to feed in the 21st century.

I have always enjoyed ass play. For me a strap on experience has nothing to do with homosexual desires. Its a woman with breasts and a vagina, not a guy. She has curves and softness. I find the visual of an attractive woman with a strap on to be quite stimulating.  

Isn't one of the reasons some people hobby is to have experiences they are not getting in their personal life?  Or to try different things?

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Posted By: RoxanneHeartNYC

I have clients that want me to entertain them by making them do these things but I feel they are held back because they believe I view them as gay.    
   

   
 They're probably not concerned with your opinion; it's more of an internal struggle, where they're trying to reconcile their own feelings and desires with what they personally perceive as homosexuality or bisexuality.    
   
   
 It's Friday and I'm in an over-sharing kind of mood so here's a tidbit from my personal life: I've dated 3 men who turned out to be gay or bi.  Well, 3 that I know of, as there could be more.    
   
 One of them, we were together for a couple years, and during the long messy break-up, it came out in the wash that he'd been hooking up with both men and TS girls.  When I told my best friend (who'd been privy to the intimate details of our relationship) her reaction surprised me.  She'd expected it.  Why?  
   
 Well, as she said, "At what point, when you were fucking him in the ass with a strap-on, did you NOT realize he was gay?"    
   
 But I disagree with that assessment.  Enjoying pegging does not make a man gay or bi, in my opinion.  Now, the fact that he lost his erection every time he tried to fuck me maybe could have been a clue.... but denial can be so cozy and comforting lol.    
   
 What really convinced me that he's bisexual or gay?  That he admitted he's physically attracted to men.    
   
 That's where I place the lines: at physical attraction.  I've had sex with multiple women who, even though they went down on me and vice versa, are not bisexual IMO. (And no, they weren't all pros.)  Why this is my opinion: because they are NOT attracted to women and do not actually desire that activity.  In other words, the action does not necessarily equate to the associated sexual orientation.    
   
 To put it more simply: Just because a person engages in same-sex relations (or goes through the motions) does not mean he/she IS bisexual or homosexual.    
   
   
 Why can't people just let loose?  Stigma.  Fear of rejection, labels, condemnation.... you know, all the fun parts of our hypocritical society.    
   
   
 xoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxo

Personally I see a lot of sexual activities as a bit gay, getting fucked in the ass seems almost by definition gay, sucking on a dildo almost certainly so. but here's the rub. I don't really give a fuck if someone is gay or not, nor should anyone really care if the world thinks he's gay because he enjoys getting pegged now and again.  

By a woman or a man? I'm kidding of course, but sexuality is far to complex to have a black or white answer.  

Since I advertise that I entertain all types of fetishes (no brown, roman, or red showers or play) and I offer sessions with a guy, guys seem to feel comfortable asking me for this.  Plus, I often introduce all kinds of kinky ideas in a session to see if any of them draw an interest from the client.  I love when I can help a client discover something new that turns him on that he never thought he'd get into!

GAY TENDENCIES!  Are you SURE you're cisgender?

Honestly, does it really matter if a guy (or girl) has gay tendencies?  

with men it's "Once a cocksucker, always a cocksucker"  

Escorts need to be alright with a requests from hobbyists

There's the sex act and then there's physical attraction....plenty of hookers are gay for pay but not remotely attracted to women, yet they can go through the motions, possibly orgasm...friction sometimes works if they can go to their happy place. Does not mean they are attracted one iota.

and he insists that ass play is all about pleasure, and has nothing to do with being gay.  I believe him, a gay guy would know the difference.

Dear GG Gambler:  Please accept a "Pithy question."  Of course you are correct in your post where you state, "suck one little dick and you are branded a cocksucker for life."  (Back in the mid 1990s this happened to a guy who worked on the Desk at "Mor...St*n...." who told his boss, who then immediately fired the guy...it's true....{these same bosses are significant manly users of GG Providers in NYC with huge $$$$$ to spend, who will always say that they "hate gays, because you can not trust them"}  but back in their own days in the Corps or Special Forces they themselves would use guys if they could not get off base for hookers, as an aside..lol.).

"Loads of fun"?! That's was pretty funny! I almost said, "You said a mouthful" but I thought first.  

When I see two bearded macho guys kissing romantically my gut reaction like yours is strong repulsion (not condemnation), but cocksucking & assfucking do not repel me. So am I straight enough, semi-gay, or just a human on the spectrum? Cum to think of it, why bully ourselves with categories?

I haven't watched any gay cocksucking or assfucking, but I would most likely just lol. but two guys kissing is completely repulsive and even on PG Network TV shows where they show gay PDA's, I actually have to turn my head rather than watch it. Go figure.

But I do not enjoy any form of anal play, giving or receiving.

By most metrics "sucking a dick" makes you gay, and my kneejerk reaction is YES, but there are a lot of guys who will suck a dick attached to an otherwise female body, guys who would never look at another man in a sexual manner, so if it is indeed still gay, I would suggest it's a "different kind" of gay.

To Rox's OP...and to Debbie's great post...I do think pegging activities are a fairly strong indication of gay tendencies. Your friend was right Debbie! Of course that desire is perfectly fine...but if a guy isn't completely comfortable that those desires are acceptable,  then he's going resist, struggle, and hide.  

It's because when we watch two people in an affectionate romantic exchange we subconsciously place ourselves in their shoes. So maybe that is one way of defining "gay" or whatever, as not your sexual orientation so much as your romantic orientation. It seems to be the case that many people can experiment with same-sex *sex* but simply cannot handle same-sex *romance* unless they are wired to do so. But again, who needs the category. Plus, these overly simplistic categories run into train wrecks when we bring transgender into the equation. In conclusion, I think that Sasha is a hotty hot hotty.  

"when it comes down to the nitty gritty, he can shove in his knife"  

Dear GG Gambler...For sure, you are a real master!  "The Street" is in virtual complete agreement with your answer...carefully bifurcated, but totally on point...two singularities that somehow partially overlap.

"It's just that even the thought of sex with a man makes me throw up a little bit in my mouth . "

I have gone on the record numerous times stating that I AM indeed a lesbian trapped in a man's body.

Resist, struggle and hide sounds like role play ... When do the restraints and ball gag come out?

Who knows. Maybe it just feels good. Personally, I don't really try to figure out what it means when a client makes requests that aren't standard fare. I only try to figure out how I can make their experience with me the best it can be. As far as how their time with me carries over to their personal life, I consider it none of my business. I think the more experience you get, the more shades of grey you start to see on the spectrum of straight and gay.

Who would enjoy a bad pegging?

Posted By: Tornacl

I have always enjoyed ass play. For me a strap on experience has nothing to do with homosexual desires. Its a woman with breasts and a vagina, not a guy. She has curves and softness. I find the visual of an attractive woman with a strap on to be quite stimulating.  
   
 The better half uses a vibrating butt plug on me, when I ask. She laughs about the strap on but one of our female swinger friends is more than happy to service me in that manner.  
   
 The wife and I have been involved in a number of group experiences. In several cases guys with erections, some pretty massive, have been nearby. Just doesn't do anything for me.  My interest was to make sure I didn't get an eye put out by one those things.  
   
 My wife has an interesting perspective. She like to sex with other women. Going south of the border, the whole enchilada. She was once involved in a five lady orgy(they were kind enough to invite the guys to join afterwards)yet she says she isn't bi much less gay. She just likes to enjoy another woman softness, but would never consider living with another woman in a physical  relationship.  
   
 Human sexuality is complex.  
   
   
   
   
   

Posted By: RoxanneHeartNYC

Is it an act of homosexuality if a man enjoys having a dildo up his rear and in his mouth?    
     
  I have clients that want me to entertain them by making them do these things but I feel they are held back because they believe I view them as gay.    
     
  I personally love every sexuality and gender but why can't men/women just let loose?

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I wish more people would understand that! It doesn't make you gay or anything if you enjoy a sexual act. It just means you enjoy a sexual act!

So can we assume you tried it and don't like it or have you just decided that it will make you gay if you tried it?

Although "pan" implies "all encompassing" the "all" has not yet included me. I am not pansexual but I would definitely like a sexual romp with Miley.  

Yes I do recall you stating that.
You even know the secret handshake!

...is "GaGambler."  He has never been known as "GG Gambler."  Are you implying that he is really a "GG," a "genetic girl?"  If so, "her" persona has fooled a helluva lot of people on TER over the past 11 years, not to mention a couple of thousand of chicas in person in CR.

Dear BigPapasan re GaGambler...OK, if GaGambler might be afraid of being Renamed, "The Street" says "I am sorry, Mr. Gambler! Hope you will forgive...and forget."  

...people who constantly refer to themselves in the third person?

I have had more than one lady rim me. I don't care for it. I have tried to anal fuck my wife, can't keep it hard enough to penitrate. I under doctors orders have gotten prostrate massage, it is uncomfortable and not pleasurable. Yes I got them from a variety of experienced providers. Even watching porn with anal or DATO turns me off. Even reading about anal takes me out of the mood. I have had other experience with anal sex I don't care to go into at this time. I am not worried about if people think an act is gay or not. Attraction determine sexuallity not acts.

...if I want to be fucked by a super hot provider sporting a strap on does that make me (secretly) straight?

Dear BigPapasan, perhaps your perspectives are being "maniped" by "The Street?"  (consider this please: maybe it is just another form of marketing...)....of course, sometimes I digress.

I still don't get what kind of gratification a straight guy gets from being fucked in the ass, even by a "super hot" provider, but I don't need to get it as it really doesn't matter what I think. If some guys like it and they insist they have ZERO attraction to other men then I simply have to take them at their word that they are straight. and if I don't believe them I hardly think they are going to lose any sleep over it.

RETARDS

Now that we have that out of the way. lol

Dear DURHAMDREW63:  I get it!!!  I get it!  I get it!    

She could be a "lipstick" lesbian ... one can only hope.

Yes I have been known to wear lipstick

There is a logical fallacy at play here.  

The fact is that we're all essentially bi or pan sexual.  Social stigma fucks up the natural expression of our diverse sexuality.  Is anyone really stupid enough to agree with Ben Carson that men go into prison straight and come out gay?  What total bullshit.  The only thing that happens in prison is that men and women are required by circumstance to access and embrace the desire for same sex activity that they had all along.  And most of the time, their response is "Shit, why didn't I enjoy this bigger menu before?"

While of course there are many outright homosexuals in prison, most homosexuality in prison is about domination, not sexual attraction.

Way to strike out completely.  Never said shit about prison rape.  And guess what?  Most sex in prison is not rape.  It is consensual because.....wait for it.... guys will take any kind of sex they can get.  I'm sorry you were too eager to post before actually knowing WTF you're talking about.  But thanx for playing.  lol.

Just because it's something you seem to like, it doesn't mean that guys go into prison and find themselves so fucking horny that even the hairy ass of a man starts looking good.  

I have over 30 years in human sexuality education and research.  Please present your credentials as an expert on human sexuality and I will certainly consider them.  Otherwise, stfu.  You sound like a moron.  Watching Oz over and over does not give you any credibility.