: TER General Board Discussion : "putting on a big show"

nobody305 1270 reads

posted 10 years ago

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It's often assumed that people fake orgasms because they aren't enjoying themselves or they just want it to be over," say Garcia. But sometimes, putting on a big show is part of the enjoyment, he adds. "Sex is performative, and sometimes it's fun for both parties to get carried away."Speaking of faking orgasms -- did you know that men do it too? They can and often do, says Garcia, often for the same reasons women do.

Sex can be messy, but in the heat of the moment, none of that (usually) seems to matter. According to a study from the University of Groningen in the Netherlands, that's because sexual arousal overrides the body's natural "disgust response." When researchers asked women to watch either an erotic film, a sports video, or a "neutral" video of a train, and then perform a series of unpleasant acts (like drinking out of a cup with a bug in it), they found that those who'd watched the sexual acts rated the tasks as less disgusting -- and were also able to complete

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MiMi See my TER Reviews 439 reads

posted 10 years ago

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I'd sure like to know...

Who signed off on funding that "study"?

Fancy8888 See my TER Reviews 233 reads

posted 10 years ago

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Who signed off on the research study?Did the participants get paid?

Posted By: nobody305

It's often assumed that people fake orgasms because they aren't enjoying themselves or they just want it to be over," say Garcia. But sometimes, putting on a big show is part of the enjoyment, he adds. "Sex is performative, and sometimes it's fun for both parties to get carried away."Speaking of faking orgasms -- did you know that men do it too? They can and often do, says Garcia, often for the same reasons women do.

Sex can be messy, but in the heat of the moment, none of that (usually) seems to matter. According to a study from the University of Groningen in the Netherlands, that's because sexual arousal overrides the body's natural "disgust response." When researchers asked women to watch either an erotic film, a sports video, or a "neutral" video of a train, and then perform a series of unpleasant acts (like drinking out of a cup with a bug in it), they found that those who'd watched the sexual acts rated the tasks as less disgusting -- and were also able to complete

-- Modified on 11/30/2016 9:44:09 AM

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mrfisher 115 Reviews 314 reads

posted 10 years ago

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Here's the internet click bait that these were drawn from....

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1736687 15 Reviews 253 reads

posted 10 years ago

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Any guy...

That expects a woman to see 4 or 5 different guys during the day and expects the woman to have an orgasm each time is nuts. I'm flattered when they do fake it...worse when they just collect the fee and wait till it's over... wonderful when they really do get off.. I can tell when my ATF is about to O.. or when it won't happen... one of the benefits of getting to know each other well.

coeur-de-lion 400 Reviews 325 reads

posted 10 years ago

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I admit have faked it . . .

A few times with civvie women when I realized I made a mistake by picking someone BSC, but never with a provider. Have they faked it with me? Of course not!

VelvetVacation See my TER Reviews 431 reads

posted 10 years ago

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"putting on a big show"

Having Sex
and
Having an Orgasm

are very different.

Intrigued* 264 reads

posted 10 years ago

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YEEEEEEEESSSSSSSSSS!!!!! ☝️

I do not expect every provider I visit to have an "O".

But I absolutely HATE them to fake it. It's such a turn off to have my intelligence insulted.

If it ain't gonna happen today, just tell me. I will understand.

If it might happen if I do certain things, a certain way, just give me directions. After all, that's a big part of the experience (for me, anyway).

Nnoway 13 Reviews 307 reads

posted 10 years ago

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I think what we often mistake for faking is somebody trying to turn themselves on in order to...

...reach an orgasm. The show is part of the experience. When she seem to go BSC during sex and you think that it's way too theatrical to be real more often then not you're probably mistaking.

It's not 'YOU' that turns her on (although "you" may be a part of it too) but maybe environment. Her orgasm would often depend on how well she can turn herself on, how well she knows herself (including her body) to be able to do that. It's kind of tantric you know. How much she's able to concentrate and focus on the task in hand, how completely she can propel herself into the trans will probably have greater effect then anything that you may do. I'm sure people are different and each gets (or not) there in their own way but I suspect that would be the prevailing rule of thumb

ValuedCustomer 258 reads

posted 10 years ago

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If it's a good perfomance - who am I to not appreciate it? EOM

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JackDunphy 220 reads

posted 10 years ago

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I have had to fake it a few times.

Sometimes it's enough already and Big Jack just needs his sleep.

20strojl 13 Reviews 205 reads

posted 10 years ago

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Re: Any guy...

4 or 5 a day? That`s why I have to be "lead off batter" each time and I`ll wait patiently for that spot especially if she`s a lefty. Any thoughts on your slot in the line up?