Good Morning and a Happy New Year to all!

In recent postings here and on some of the other discussion boards, I have read many comments from both providers and hobbyists on the subject of "the blurring of fantasy/reality", the desire (or need) of the provider to separate and protect her personal life and keep her emotions under control.  While these postings have been very informative and interesting, I have some more direct questions that I'd like to get some takes on from anyone who has had similar experiences with the following:

Q:  What is the desired etiquette when you bump into a provider (or stripper, lingerie model, etc.) unexpectedly in public?  Don't laugh, this has happened to me several times with strippers; I live in a smaller city that has a hugh number of strip joints and sex-related businesses in relation to its' population.  Plus, living in the downtown hub, and frequenting many of the restaurants, clubs, book and music stores, etc., it's not as uncommon as you might think.  Now, for myself, I would feel that discretion is the best policy; I would never think of approaching anyone, at least not without getting some kind of positive reaction from her first.  Sometimes, though, it's unavoidable.  For instance, while visiting an art gallery during our First Thursday monthly festivities, I came face to face with a stripper whom I've seen  perform many times; she kept a legitimate part time gig at that gallery!  Her eyes flashed, and I knew that she recognized me (I've tipped her extremely well in the past).  There's something a little disconcerting about finding yourself in this situation, knowing that earlier that week you were sitting at the Rack, tipping away while this young lovely spread her stuff barely a yard from your face!  I said nothing, and she (understandably?) avoided me like the Plague.  Did she really think that I would've caused a scene?  Another time, years ago while taking a creative writing class at the New School in NYC (before I migrated west  I ran into another stripper there that I knew fairly well.  Turns out that she was a full-time fashion design major.  However, her initial reaction to seeing me there on campus (out of her stripper-identity context) was to react as if I were stalking her or something!  Needless to say, I was not.  It was purely coincidence; I had no idea that she went to school there.  Besides, I was taking only one course there, and I never saw her there again.  However, whenever I saw her dance again, she refused to take tips from me, and seemed to regard me with some suspicion no matter what I said to her.  Providers, what are your thoughts on this?  Which brings me to the next question:

Q: Providers, can you relate any experiences you've had of dating someone whom only knew you from your Personal life, and had no knowledge of your Professional life?  The same question applies for those of you who blend several areas of sex-work.  For example, this city has several large colleges and many students who strip part-time; there's always that old saw going around of not wanting to perform with her professors in the crowd (does this actually happen?).  Has anyone ever unexpectedly run into a coworker, fellow student, uncle, friend (male or female) etc., while working?  How would you handle it?  I'm curious about this, especially after reading Jonathan Kellerman's latest mystery, "Flesh and Blood", wherein the main character, Dr. Alex Deleware, unexpectedly recognizes a former patient   who is now performing as a stripper/prostitute at a stag party he's attending.  I found the scene rather stilted, and I'm wondering how any provider who has found herself in a similar situation has reacted.  Of course, any hobbyists who want to relate stories, please do so as well!  

Any help and insights that anyone can provide would be greatly appreciated!  I know that it might seem like I've got a major voyeuristic jones happening, but actually I'm trying to get a little background research for my own creative writing projects.  And, while I have tried to query the few providers I've personally seen, 1) I've got more immediate physcial matters to attend to , and 2) providers seem to get skittish about someone trying to delve into their personal lives while they are "on the job"!  Yes, that great irony: a provider can be naked in front of you and perform the most intimate sexual acts, but will not expose her true self.  And now, we come full circle to the previous discussions regarding "the blurring of fantasy with reality".  

Thanks, all, for listening.  I look forward to hearing from you!