TER General Board
Provider stories
Another told me about the hair salon she had, and all of her employees, and some of the problems. Another said she was going to medical school to be a pediatrician, and hoped to open her own clinic. When I saw her again, she was talking about opening a fitness center. Another was a hand model and an ass model in LA. I don't put much stock in the stories, but I do enjoy hearing them. They're interesting, even if they're not true. Some may be true. Some may be partially true. It doesn't matter. They're great story tellers. I was thinking about the stories the other night, and came to the conclusion that many of them represent what the women would really like to do. They're talking about their dreams, dreams that will never come true and they know it. I think the stories are their escapes. I don't think I encounter this to anywhere near this extent in the "real" world, as identities are known, and untruths fall apart pretty fast. Agree? Disagree? Want me to fuck off? 
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GaGambler
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JackDunphy
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The_Lies_We_Tell
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There was a guy I knew in high school named Gino. I always thought he was really cool. On the first day of classes in Junior year, we were at our lockers. I asked him what he did over the summer, and he said he and his dad had gone to Europe and traveled all over. He told his story, and I kept telling him how cool it was. Then he said it wasn't true, he'd just made it all up. I asked him why he did that, and he said, "it had the same effect on you, didn't it?" I thought about it a minute, and realized he was right. It didn't make any difference to me whether he'd gone to Europe or not. It was a story. And that's how I look at what providers tell me. I'm not putting anyone down and, if it came across that way, I didn't write well enough. That, or you really don't have a masters degree in English. As for the part about trying to conceal identities, I understand that completely. As for my comment about the stories being dreams, I think some of the untrue stories may be just that, and others may not. Lots of people voice their fantasies. If anything, the fantasies make for more interesting talks. -- Modified on 12/18/2015 11:32:02 AM
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As for the part about trying to conceal identities, I understand that completely. As for my comment about the stories being dreams, I think some of the untrue stories may be just that, and others may not. Lots of people voice their fantasies. If anything, the fantasies make for more interesting talks. -- Modified on 12/18/2015 11:32:02 AM-- Modified on 12/18/2015 11:35:46 AM
The_Lies_We_Tell
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Alan_Nimm
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hotplants
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Well, that's patronizing. I suppose it matters what you think they’re trying to escape from. And, perhaps this is just a poor phrasing on your part. But the better bet is on providers making an effort to ‘escape’ from their clients knowing too much personal info; their attempt to distance themselves not from their own lives, but from their clients. It has to be challenging to put on a fantasy show over and over, under a fantasy persona. I hear some of you guys are not the least bit interested in reality when you see a provider 
There are exceptions to everything, and I certainly won’t discount there are providers out there making-up stories to ‘escape’ their lives. But, compartmentilazition is not the same thing as making up stories to escape your (presumably dreary?) life. I think you’re reading something into this that's not there
There are exceptions to everything, and I certainly won’t discount there are providers out there making-up stories to ‘escape’ their lives. But, compartmentilazition is not the same thing as making up stories to escape your (presumably dreary?) life. I think you’re reading something into this that's not there
use Jerk and Trump in the same sentence you should take it to the P&R board
hotplants
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I think that many of the stories MAY be speaking out loud in story form the fantasies the women have about things they wish would happen. Almost all providers are performing, and the stories are part of the performance. I think the billionaires and the spur-of-the-moment private jets to Dubai or such things are very possibly or even likely parts of fantasies woven into stories along with parts of the real lives. Maybe the things happened, maybe they didn't. I just don't see the stories forming from thin air. The stories are told too well, with details that come either from actual experience, or from having thought about them for a long time. I find the stories fascinating because I can't do that. I can't talk to friends or family or co-workers about flying here or knowing Johnny Depp or any such things. The bubble would be burst in seconds, and that's the case for most people. I do not think providers are living lives from which they want to escape, and never have thought that. Or, just fuck it.
hotplants
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You say you find the stories fascinating because you can’t do that? But you can. Maybe you can't do this the same way providers do. But visualizing something ‘else’ through dreams and fantasies is the starting point for all change. That concept may be crossing over some invisible line into ‘wtf’ on TER. But, hey, if you can’t convince yourself, you’re not going to convince anyone else. So dream on…. [queue Aerosmith...?
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hotplants
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JackDunphy
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