ok, i've been around the block a few times, seen 3 other providers besides this lady i'm going to discuss (no names.  yet).

after some emailing, provider reference, and a couple phone calls, we made an appointment.  she failed to call to give me directions, the appointment fell thru.

next day she phones me (when i'm with my wife!) and says how sorry she is.  i say no problem, call her back later and make another appointment.

eventually (after a couple more false starts) i get to her place.  very nice time.  could be the start of a pleasurable relationship, i figure.  she gets good reviews on the boards, and tho she's kind of flighty on the phone, she's killer in person.

so a couple weeks later, i make another appointment with her.  we email and phone and confirm.

i show up at her place, she won't answer the phone.  the doorman can't get her on the line, neither can i.

i leave.  next week she emails, says she's sorry, things are crazy in her life, when do i want to get together again?

i make another appointment.  same thing.  we confirm, til the night of the meeting.  i'm stuck at her door again while her doorman can't get her on the phone.  i go home.

this happens again, every time with her emailing or phoning to plead apologies, we make an appointment, i show up, nothing, i can't get in the door.

she keeps postponing (via email or phone - again, when i'm with my wife!) until tonight.  

but yesterday, she doesn't answer my calls, til  the afternoon she says her grandmother dying and hangs up on me.  i figure, ok, no way is this flakey chick going to be available when her granma's on her death bed, so i write it off.

she phones me 10 minutes before our original appointment, like nothing happened.  i ask her if she's still up for it, she says yes,  i say give me a half an hour.

sucker that i am, i beleive she's sincere.  i drive over to her place.

well, you know the old saying, there's no fool like an old fool.

my question:  she's not had any sort of bad reveiws on the boards her...i can't believe its' the same girl, because she's like psycho girlfriend with me...mixed messages, phoning without warning, then standing me up.

should i give her a bad review here and warn other guys?  or do i deserve it, like charlie brown, for running to kick that football every time when lucy yanks it away?

Since for right now they are all no shows and the major run-a-round. You can't do a reivew. Unless you review your first encounter and add the later information in on the tail end.

Either way you owe it to the rest of the hobbyist to warn then of this type of activity. However, if she has all the reviews you say she has be prepared for the landslaught of white knights to the rescue, who will not believe a word you said. IT COULD NOT BE!!!! lmao

Just too much baggage... and even if you did see her again, you would be sittin there wondering when it will happen again.  

I also agree about the White Knight... as I have been one in the past... and while I can forgive and forget an occasional screw-up, it shoulds like this is a pattern.  Post on local board... and move on with your hobbying....

1) Post a review for the one time that you did meet.  Grade it as it happened.  However in the intro describe what it took to finally hook-up and most importantly in your concluding statements tell the story of all the subsequent misses. Make sure that readers know how unreliable she is regardless of how good she may be when the planets align correctly and she finally comes through.

2) Move on dude or watch her pull the ball away every time (with your SO watching in the stands!).  Reliable she is not and there are plenty of other 'killer' providers out there who are...

I can believe it and furthermore, that has been me on occasion.

My philosophy is to move on and chaulk it up to the nature of the beast.

About two months ago there was a flurry of threads about the no show problem and everyone had an opinion on what to do about it.

Until such time as we come up with a fair way to alert hobbyists about this, we should let postings on local boards stand as the way to handle it.

it's over.

I agree about not seeing her again, but I would not post a review that mentions the troubles you've had with her.  If she is as unpredictable as you say, you would risk retaliation in some form or other.

You didn't just go the extra mile with her, you went the extra marathon in patience and understanding.

Yes, 'out' her so that other men don't find themselves equally inconvenienced and disappointed, and as for yourself, do yourself the favor of moving on.

Let's Not Try That.

She may be the most wonderful lady to spend time with in the world, but she is still a women.  Some women, not all, like to play games especialy cat and mouse.  Quit being the mouse!

Don't see her again, put the problems on the local board.

There's some kind of bad chemistry there, though.  I can't tell what's causing it, but she obviously doesn't treat every client like that.

notice i didn't say i did anything with her.  thought it was just me or something.  yup, it's just too coincidental.  this woman is a serious flake.  she kept calling me and calling me, totally inappropriate.  and about real bullshit stuff too.  gfe doesn't mean having to bs on the phone all day like she's my woman.  also, she kept on changing our appointment.  no exageration, 4 or 5 times in a morning - until i said "let's cancel and do it another time."  it was during march madness which she was in town for so i thought, maybe she's just severely overbooked.  

she comes in town again, and emails me that she is available.  i responded, but again with a lot of bullshit phone calls (one about flying on a private jet - sheesh, like i need to know that).  i had to work and didn't want to have to keep on talking to her on the phone because i was very busy - so this was a hassle.  mind you, these calls were no where near the agreed upon time.  then, when i knocked on the door on time, she didn't answer.  i waited and knocked again.  still no response.  when i walked away i heard the door open then shut. so i went back and knocked again.  she opened the door, let me in, then started accusing me of being le.  started pacing around a lot in a dark room.  could tell she wasn't as hot as all her posts claimed she was.  looked a little heavy (or big boned) and her face was not very attractive.  so i split.  said, "you look upset, let's make it another time and just left."  she emailed me and called me a couple of times after that, but i always made an excuse of why i didn't have time.  she even emailed me once and said she was disorganized because she let someone else run her emails and schedule (mind you, i never complained to her so it was telling that she was aware of at least one of her problems).  i guess she forgot that we met and i just left before anything started.  a terrific gfe provider i saw said that she sounded like she was on drugs and i agree.  i really was scared when i met her, thought someone might be hiding in the room to roll me.  so the reviews posted on ter AND tbd are usually accurate, but not always.  at least i didn't spend any money on her.  just time.  thought i was pretty fortunate.  i should, but won't, bash her to respect all her great reviews from other guys, she's got a lot of them.  maybe some guys love the bullshit.

You aren't the meekest person I've ever met, but you're just like him. Get some balls, man. She b messin' witch ya.

sounds like a few girls from Philly. One was a great gal, if you got the chance to see her. She was notorious for standing people up when they showed up. However, she was so good, we were willing to take the chance. Hence, she is no longer in the biz. Who knows where she ended up.

yes, after writing the original post, i thought to myself that if she's this crazy to f*ck with me like this, all she needs to do is see herself described on this board, and, since she knows my name (i'm in the phone book, easily stalked) and phone #, she could really screw me over.

i'm already moved on, i have a date w/another cutie tomorrow, and am seeing two others who are just wonderful.

i did notice this girl's ad is no longer on one of the malls, so maybe she's giving up the biz.

i don't know about that...none of the reviews indicate repeat viewings...several say "i'll use her again" but nobody says "i've seen her several times."

the really weird thing is, when we did get together, she was very attentive, very nice, and way into being with me (or so it seemed).  she said i could call her again, and she gave no indication that there was a problem.  this is why my head is so messed with.

anyway, i'm moving on.  thanks for your input.

my girl was pretty hot, and petite.  but major flake.  even getting together the first time was a hassle.  i should have guessed.

sounds like she ended up in los angeles. lol!