Ok this may seem like a stupid, naive and inexperienced question, but I find I can be all these things at times although I mean well.
One thing about being with a woman, I'd like to become a better lover, not to mention it heightens my own experience if my partner is also having a good time, especially with DATY. Hoewever, I also understand the provider's desire to please her client and to make the overall experience enjoyable.
So providers, IYHO, when a client asks you what you prefer, or if something feels good or is a little off, do you tell them honestly, or are you afraid to offend? Personally, I'd like to know if I can improve the provider's own experience,and learn from them as well.
-renaissancefool

I am always honest with my clientle

If something should not feel right, I will explain to him that if he does something a different way, he will better results from me People should learn how to speak up, and there are proper ways in doing so. I also value his honesty too! If I am not doing something, that is pleasing him, I would want to know what it is that I could be doing better, to please him I think of that, as a win-win situation

Mel

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Is to speak up and ask.  It is a great idea and I second everybody else posting here...Harry

My recent experience is that the faster I get off and leave the better they like it.
Or they will lay there with you making conversation.
Is she just resting up for her next encounter???
These ladies see many clients.
I'd be nuts to think that I was anything special.
After all I'm just your normal looking guy with regular sized features.
It seems that they are only interested in the $$$ and will say what they think you want to hear.
Yep, I done been burned.
Am taking some time of to re-evaluate.
Just my $.02

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What are we going to do, NOT enjoy it? I don't know how that is possible. It is a 2 way street, not an interstate highway.

Sometimes it has been awhile and whatever my partner does seems like liquid gold. I can't explain how he could possibly improve. Where do you guys get your training?

There seems to be two types of gals, those that get off with clitoral stimulation and those that need deep penetration. Mix it up and have some fun, and report back to us!

When I first started I saw some dumb women who weren't into it...I don't think they lasted. But anyway After joining TER, I've meet some great ladies. All the ones I've meet have seemed to be satisfied which is really great. Only one girl that I've meet seemed to be too much like an actress. And another girl that showered me with sweetness and compliments came off as a total sweetheart and said I was very good. Definately a booster.

I am always honest with my clients.

I always offer a bath or shower and I have plenty of hygiene stuff to pamper you with so that you enjoy your ride. As far as guiding, I have no problem telling you how I feel when we are alone. I am vocal and I  promise, I will be very gentle with you.......{giggles}I don't want you to hurry up, I want you to be satisfied so that you will come back and visit with me, again! When I go to the movies, I am paying to be entertained. Yes, I know that it is fiction but, it is nice to get away from the stress of daily life every now and again.....it is my pleasure to make this happen for you.....

CaMille

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that way we can build a lifetime relationship.

Shaye

I have not read the other responses I am just giving my opinion.  I perfer the honest approach, I just might have something to teach you.  I have also found that if I am having a good time you may have a good time.  Something about spreading the pleasure if the pleasure is great enough then it grows and becomes a living thing.  
Just my opinion but I am told I march to the beat of a different drummer.

CaMille,

That was beautifully written. Thank you!

Yoda

Ren,

I've encountered both...there have been times when I've understood that the provider's objective was the bundle 'o bucks, and that she wasn't terribly into sustaining the illusion, and there have been other times when it was just as obvious that my lady was genuinely satisfied.  The latter providers are the ones you keep around...and those are the ladies you ask to help improve your skills.  

I recently had a conversation with two such ladies and a similar question came up...I consider both these ladies to be consummate professionals and courtesans of the highest order, so their opinions are worth noting.  They feel that chemistry (there's that word again) has a lot to do with how an evening goes, and they both would rather decline a date and head for home than press on when things don't click.  I think it's probably fair to say that if they're willing to call the whole evening off, they're willing to be honest in their instruction, if that's what you'd like from them.  

Part of what we pay for is the positive atmosphere created in part by our date...in fact, I'd say that's the biggest thing we pay for.  That being the case, it's reasonable to expect the honesty you're asking about.

Yoda

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Like the comedian said, I don't pay them for sex, I pay them to leave.