I asked this on the RO board but I'm curious what the ladies and the whole crowd have to say.  What are the pros and cons of having the provider over for some discreet adventure at the client's house when his wife is out of town?

Cons  
- The wife comes home early
- Where are your kids?
- Family pictures everywhere, identifying info, etc
- The wife walks in on us in the act!
- You have to clean the house
- I can't get excited because I'm so worried about the wife showing up
- not to mention your neighbors seeing a woman coming over

I'd never even think of doing it.  I can't think of any pro points other than the convenience.  Con?  From the wife's point of view it's a double slap in the face -- adultery AND doing it in HER bed.  Unforgivable disrespect in her eyes.  Plus, there's the chance that your friend might have left behind a hair, a scent or something personal.  Not worth the potential trouble in my opinion.

of both wife and provider

But a girlfriend of mine in the business has and she felt it was disrespectful.  I tell myself (having not yet experienced it) that I'd be able to disconnect my own feelings about the situation, but maybe I'd feel different when I have your family photos and all the signs of a woman's touch (house plants, toiletries, all those extra pillows that are just for decoration) staring me in the face.  

All I can say is that shared territory is NOT a good place to play. On any level, for man or woman or for any reason. The truth will out

Seriously, f--king don't.
 
Unless you're single and just don't give a $hit.  Even then I wouldn't play at home.

Whilst as a provider we are aware the majority of our clients are in fact married.  
 But this is something that is not openly discussed throughout the booking. It has happened to me and I found it extremely uncomfortable to be shagging when surrounded by wedding and family pictures all over the walls.  

One can say one has reasons for seeing escorts but that's just being a dick about it.

would rather they cone to my incall home or hotel. ...  I hate outcalls anywhoos.... Its time consuming & all my toys are at my cozy fab abode!!!    I did an outcall to a repeat client once while wifey was at work & it was the most uncomfortable session... Yes I fake the orgasm! !!!!

While I agree it is disrespectful to the provider, I am not following you on why it is disrespectful to the wife. The former sounds like an issue of comfort, while the latter sounds like an issue of morality/ethics.

life is too short to be worried about the dumb shit. i say go for it and bang all over the house that way u have good memories. lol just saying.

...she stops for a couple of drinks with the gang and gets home real late, so yeah, I have a younger strange over to kill time.

Many years ago an atf relationship developed a little beyond what's normal. She liked me so much, I graduated from her hotel room, to her bedroom. There were even some sunrise sessions there. But one day, she decided to remarry, to a hobbyist no less. Since it was a hobbyist, it became sort of a well known fact among all the peeps. Of course, she was one of the ladies who continued working through her brand new marriage. One day, I get an email asking when I'm going to come by her home for another session. Well, now her bedroom isn't just her bedroom. Now it's his too. Out of respect, even though I'd partied there before, I couldn't bring myself to knowingly make love to a woman in another man's bed. The key word is knowingly. I'm sure we've all done it before because we have no idea of any given provider's marital status. Once you know, it changes the game, at least for me.  

With respect: It crosses the border into foolishly self destructive behavior.

You are loaded. I mean wealthy to the point where there are areas in the house where your wife never enters and far enough from the entrance of your home that were she to come home early mid act, you would have time to dress and sneak the lady out of an alternate entrance. Wealthy enough that your house is secluded from the watchful eyes of nosy neighbors. Wealthy enough that you have house staff, so  finding another person's hair won't set off any alarms.  

If you do this you should change your handle from "King of Love" to KING OF STUPIDITY.

I'd just have a harem

Like most of already said, the risk of something being left behind, a strand of hair that's a different color then your wife has, the scent of another women, the question of why did you change the sheets, wash the bedding....
The benefits of a provider/hobbyist relationship is the discretion. So why invite that risk into your home?  Wives know, they always know.

Some might interpret it as spitting in the wife's face by proxy; a "sullying" of their shared domain. Many marriages survive by looking the other way from their partner's indiscretions or some other explicit/implicit sexual arrangement. If he has any respect for his wife, the least the guy can do is not throw it in her face. Keep them worlds separate and compartmentalized.

To say there is NO disrespect to cheat on her (which is being implied), but it IS disrespectful to cheat on her in her home, just seems like a bizarre twist of logic.

But I can definitely hear a wife saying "you not only fucked a hooker, but you fucked her in MY bed"  

but then again I am single and don't give a shit. It's great to get laid and then just roll over and go to sleep, or even trade your hooker in for a "pizza and a six pack" before falling asleep. lol

I've done it many times without any issues. We use the guest bedroom, not the master bedroom so there's less violation of my wife's space.  

It makes the matter worse, no argument, but that is tossed out there to make the guy feel even worse, and for the gal to get some revenge by using it, as well she is entitled.

Would be more along the lines of "even more" disrespectful, not simply "disrespectful" which could be interpreted as excusing all other forms of cheating. Yeah, I can agree with you there.

I know that you tend to see these matters in black and white terms, Old Testament style, but with regards to moral judgments on adultery, I'd need to know more about his particular marital situation before passing judgment. Some offenses are worse than others.

Pro -- Exhibition of Colossal stupidity

You said:

You're making the assumption that he's a bald-faced cheater as opposed to someone who may have some leeway. With regard to respect, perhaps I should have used the word "modicum" in place of "any." Call him a cheater all you want, but are you going to argue that playing in his wife's home is not an aggravating offense? It displays careless disregard and spitefulness on top of the primary transgression. Yes, that is worse than sneaking away for a nut

I have acknowledged in my OP fucking in the wife's home/bed is an issue and I also acknowledged to GaG it is an issue. Do you need me to sign a fkin affidavit? LOL

I had a civie date to my house & found out she'd gone through my desk when I was in the bathroom...  & I didn't even get any on that occasion.

My motive is to fulfill fantasies, not precipitate divorce.  Currently my relationship with my wife is good.

I didn't know there'd be so many no's, much less emphatic no's.  I thought there'd be more than one serious yes.  The advice about stray hairs is good, hadn't thought of that.  I thought about nosy neighbor prevention tactics. I know a girl that said she'd do it/does it.  The moral argument is weak at best.  The thought was about fantasy fulfillment not flirting with disaster.  I guess I thought I've gotten away with it so long why couldn't I try this?  No risk of wife coming home with kids unexpectedly when they're across the country.