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Proper etiquette…sad_smile
Kitty76 See my TER Reviews 79 reads
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As a provider; I do not think that a Hobbyist should be contact a Provider to find another Provider. It's inappropriate.  Each provider is not on this site to keep track of other providers (Let alone book an appointments for another provider or anything of that nature).  It's the Hobbyist's responsibility to search for his own provider. Would it be appropriate for a provider to ask a Hobbyist to search for clients for us &/or to put our ADs in each week?! If not then why should we (The Provider) find a suitable Provider for the Hobbyist? We (The Providers) do not make money doing so.

? TER fellas, do you contact another provider ISO another provider? If, so do you due diligence by utilizing Google & TER search prior too?  

Providers if this has happened to you, do you think it’s appropriate?

I have never asked a provider to recommend another provider.  I have had two girls I met regularly ask if I would be interested in meeting one of their friends. All these girls worked for an agency at one time, then went independent, so they were networking to drum up business. Since I trusted the girls I knew it was an easy decision to meet the other girls. I wish more providers would do this since it helps everyone.

I have never taken the initiative to ask a provider about a recommendation for another provider, but twice I have had providers recommend someone else. The only time I raised the question of another provider with the one I was with was to share amazement at what some of the girls would do (BBFS and BBA with no screening, full body and face photos with distinct tattoos that would be visible in casual street clothes.  The conversation was more in the "I would never dream of doing that"/ "I am going to stay far away" mode than seeking a recommendation.

The first time was with a Thai Gal working in the DMV who recommended a friend and introduced me to the woman in the other bedroom of their apartment on the way out. I ended up seeing the friend more than the original provider. I don't think this was anything but friendship and the first provider wasn't getting a referral fee so far as I could tell.  

The second time was with a Thai 48 hour escort and tour guide in Bangkok. Just after we met in my hotel room, she told me that her English wasn't as good as the agency made it out to be and that if I was interested in lots of sex, including a very extensive menu (DATY, DATO, anal, etc.), she would swap herself out for another girl at the agency who would be better for that. We had only been talking for 20-30 minutes, but I knew that the personality of the gal in front of me (very up front, forceful) was what I wanted on the tour guide side, so I stuck with her. I made the right decision. She wasn't a licensed tour guide, but she was very effective in getting me around and past people trying to sell me things,  and getting me through crowds by locking wrists and glaring at anyone who tried to cut between us. We shared interests (history, sightseeing, dining, and culture) and she didn't want to shop or bringing me to a jewelry shop where she got a kickback). The sex was unadventurous - mostly BBBJ, cuddling, and showering/bathing together (3 showers a day makes sense in Bangkok given the climate if you are outside a lot).  Her English was fine, even if she was self-conscious about it.

PistolPetey78 reads

I only did that once - a lady I had seen numerous times had dropped off the radar and I contacted one of her doubles partner to see if she was alright.

Otherwise I wouldn't contact any lady when trying to see someone else. That makes no sense to me.

... unless she had previously mentioned that she has "friends" I might want to meet.  

 
Even then, I'll still do independent research with reviews and ads before I connect.  I've found that even if providers are friends or comfortable making direct referrals, they don't necessarily know if the other provider offers the same level of service I want.  I don't want to show up expecting to get BBBJ, DFK, etc., only to find out she's not a GFE provider.  

 
Life is good

 
The Cat

is a lady I have seen multiple times.  It's bad form to contact someone you don't now to try to make an appointment with someone else.  It's tacky and insulting.  With that caveat, I have had fair success asking regulars once in awhile if they know where another provider is working now and under what stage name.  If I'm having a session when I ask, which is usually the way I prefer it, and she goes so far as to give me her phone number, I will give her an extra tip before I leave for making it easy for me.  It's a quid pro quo business. You do something extra for me, and I do something extra for you. In my experience, cash is always accepted by providers as a way to balance the books on favors.  Lol  

 
As far as your other question, I do due diligence on everyone I contemplate seeing unless the recommendation comes from a trusted hobby brother who likes the same kinds of ladies I do as far as looks and service.   There are a few guys I go way back with and can take their recommendations to the bank.  Never a bad session on one of those recs.

-- Modified on 9/8/2022 9:22:18 AM

RespectfulRobert74 reads

But it does depend on how well I know the girl. A girl I met once or twice? Unlikely. But a girl have session with many times and we know each other well? Why not? I have done that numerous times.

RespectfulRobert79 reads

Then hell no. I would never ask a stranger (i.e. a SW I never met) about another girl. I cant imagine any scenario I would feel comfortable doing that.

Yes, sir! Exactamente. Someone reached out to my twin to inquire about me & it’s not proper etiquette. If neither of us know you personally & your not serious about booking it seem rude, and a complete waste of everyone’s time. I suggested he send my sister a gift. I’m active here on TER, so I’m not hard to find. My email is the same.

As a provider; I do not think that a Hobbyist should be contact a Provider to find another Provider. It's inappropriate.  Each provider is not on this site to keep track of other providers (Let alone book an appointments for another provider or anything of that nature).  It's the Hobbyist's responsibility to search for his own provider. Would it be appropriate for a provider to ask a Hobbyist to search for clients for us &/or to put our ADs in each week?! If not then why should we (The Provider) find a suitable Provider for the Hobbyist? We (The Providers) do not make money doing so.

I would never ask such a question. Very inappropriate and rude. The only possible exception could be if you are asking which other provider would she feel comfortable doing a three-some with.  Even then, let her make the choice without divulging the name and make the 3some appointment.

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