Recently I came to the realization that I'm going to implement separate rates for vanilla GFE sessions and sessions that are beyond the scope of vanilla GFE. Years back, I was influenced by the logic that upcharging might be off-putting. While I always understood and respected the reasons why other companions did so, I'm now at a place where I see for myself why I need to make that shift.  

I have taken the add ons and ala carte route since 2022. I found many guys don’t always want fs but maybe just want bj. So I don’t think they should be paying same price as fs. So I separated into levels . I do add ons though like prostate. But if someone wants some crazy add ons then yes charge accordingly. Obviously not everyone is into kinks or wants things like anal so I don’t think those should be included in the all around price. Add ons are things that could be added to every service that I do because I do bdsm, nuru, and fs.

BDSM is an Art it’s a niche and it takes decades to Master.  

IMO, what you’re describing is not upcharging. When a provider advertises full service, and in the middle of giving me a BJ, I tell her I am ready to fuck, and she says, “That’s an extra $200.” That’s upcharging. Same if she advertises GFE and won’t DFK unless I pay extra. These piss me off.

As long as I know going in that X costs $, Y costs $$, and Z costs $$$, I can make informed choices.  
Your body, your rules on how you want to engage.  
My money, my decision on how to spend it.

When clients complain about upcharges, they are usually referring to undisclosed fees or extra charges that are revealed during session and not disclosed in the provider’s ad or website. This is made worse when the ad hints that these services should be included in the base price. For example if a provider lists a flat rate of $500/hour for GFE in their ad, but insists that DFK costs another $100. If it is disclosed in the ad, it isn’t a big issue. Also, clients usually expect a provider to charge more for certain premium services like PSE or BDSM. These activities usually require more preparation or can be more mentally taxing, so a provider deserves to be compensated for that.

Nuru is another example l had in mind so I appreciate you mentioning it. Acknowledging different levels of experience and subsets of skills is important. The a la carte / add ons that you detail highlight those distinctions.  

…is legal issues as in an ideal world where SW is legal, a provider can advertise a la carte like at a car wash and people can add services to a cart and check out…lol

This old joke sign that hung in many a bar describes the issue:

For years, I've been thinking of an upcharge and an add-on as interchangeable. Thanks for the correction. And I do plan to clearly list the difference between rate tiers.

Great points. Thanks for chiming in.

I offer vip and for clients that want that something more of course there is an extra charge. I don’t think that “extra service” should be included in the basic price.  
My clients don’t ever complain about that, those that want the VIP experience gladly pay for it.

I price these based on how much additional work it feels like to me to offer the service.

If I want more, I just want to know how much.  

Thank you for these insights about the importance of disclosure. I wholeheartedly agree. It's understandable why many clients would be justifiably frustrated with this nickel and diming, especially during the middle of a session.

Clients have commented that it's crucial to them to know prior to showing up about any additional compensation a companion demands. As a companion, recently I've experienced the inverse scenario. BEFORE meeting in-person, I made my best attempts to clarify what I gracefully decided to consider a good faith misunderstanding about what date type and activities could be expected.
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I can't be bothered to slice and dice, specify and stratify whatever activities might end up on a menu. Egads, that just sounds horrendous to even contemplate! 😱  
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I'm being compensated for my time, and my time alone, regardless of what may occur so my rate remains the same. Sure, some dates are a bit more mentally or physically intense... and some are less so. So what? 🤷🏻‍♀️ The goal is for all parties to walk away feeling 2" taller, 5lbs lighter and THEIR own perfect combo of exhausted, exhilarated, connected and cared for.  
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I'm not knocking anyone who offers various price point/services. Just not my jam...

Yea there are definitely three big problems with this approach. As you mentioned, it definitely feels like nickel and diming. Also when it happens in a session it interrupts the flow and kills the mood. Finally, I usually don’t bring extra money to an appointment as a safety measure. There is always the potential a client can get robbed or busted, which means I lose any money I bring. So even if I wanted to pay more I usually can’t.

Nuru definitely can be done wrong and I hear it from guys all the time about the terrible ones they gotten. It’s a skill and an art and it takes time to do. I have thought about teaching classes on it but fear getting in trouble .

Edrienne, I’m right there with you... though I view it less as "laziness" and more as a necessary legal firewall.

Love this, and this is why I continue to see one lady with the same biz model. Every visit is different but genuine and have become friends away from here.

This is a thought provoking perspective Pandora. I could totally see how higher rates create space for a free garden.

Makes sense. The flip side also comes to mind. There are scenarios where companions cannot easily accommodate a request without having prepared beforehand.
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I don't mind owning my laziness, it's an indulgence after a certain fashion.😉  That said, I purposely avoided the "legal firewall" aspect of à la carte rate structures, even though I hold the same opinion. Historically, it's brought the armchair "legal experts" out en masse to argue all manner of idiocy that my laziness just doesn't care to entertain.🙄  
 
Love your phrasing - "the gate is the fee, but the garden is free". Yes! I enjoy what I enjoy and those things will likely be somewhat standard for each encounter *because I enjoy them*. But the exact flow, chemistry, events, etc will vary as much as each person varies, each time we see each other. As it should. Because IT'S REAL. It's who we are in that moment.  
 
And the idea of trying to script that, define that, put it into menu format would totally kill MY pleasure... and dammit, that's why I'm here and not in some corporate office somewhere. *MY* enjoyment matters, and it just so happens that *I ENJOY* darn near anything that results in someone else's joy.😇 Compersion is a real thing.
 
Love your site, BTW. Def unique!

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