Given our hobby allows us intimate access to a large number and variety of attractive and charming females, undoubtedly all of us that's partaken long enough have at one point or another come across a provider that got us thinking along the lines of, "if only she wasn't a prostitute I could see us having a future together."

I could not see myself falling in love with a provider.  It would take several multi-hour meetings for the thought to even cross my mind.  If the thought did ever cross my mind, then the first thing that I would do would be to see another provider.  If feelings persisted, then I might discuss those with the provider.  I would let her determine the nature of the relationship.

As my wife was dying, she asked "After I am gone, are you thinking of getting remarried?"

Would she continue to work as a provider? If, in your scenario, the answer is yes, then I could not as I am the jealous type when it comes to civilian relationships. If the answer is no, then of course I could. I mean why not? Providers are people, last time I checked. haha.  
If she was a good person, and I enjoyed my time with her, are you implying I should hold it against her because she devoted a part of her life to fantasy fulfillment? Others may have an issue with her past, but not I. But then again I wouldn't view her past as a bad thing at all.

If I had my pick of those I’ve seen over the years, I probably would consider a serious relationship with one in particular. I am somewhat of a loner and like to do what I want with my time as much as I can (not referring to just seeing providers). I probably would even be fine with her continue touring the month per quarter that she does if that’s what she wanted. Would this fail and am I crazy? Maybe. More like probably. But I know myself. I don’t particularly like spending everyday with someone and have had enough relationships to know that too much time together tends to make me really miss me time. A traveling provider might work in that regard. Now marriage? That’s a tough call unless there’s a prenup. I put nearly everything I have as far as money, effort, and time into my house, and I’m not going to risk losing it.

I actually dated a provider that worked for an agency we even moved into together(her into my place). I’m not gonna say it was weird, sex was good and I never gave thought to the number of guys she was banging. Yet the thought of it going further into marriage never excited me a bit. Working at a strip club for years that all I dated so once I quit it was strange to say the least to actually date a “real” women.

when she's working.  I consider it an acting job.  If she was making out with some actor, or shooting a sex scene where they are both naked, it would be the same for me.  No jealousy.  A lot of porn stars have SO's as well.  I agree that its not for everyone.  If you consider their work more than just a transaction, then its going to eat at you over time.  

At least I can not. If you are able to do so, hat tip to you sir. I guess the only way it could work is if we had an open relationship where it was more of a FWB type thing as then I wouldn't become emotionally invested but no guarantee on that either.

with whom I thought I could consider having an LTR.  The fact they’re providers wouldn’t stop me, by itself.  That’s not practical for me in this universe, however.  Also there’s the question as to whether they’d consider having a LTR with ME. 😏

with a working provider, that's kind of what we do.  She can have sex with anyone else as long as she is getting paid, and I can have sex with anyone else as long as I'm paying, so we don't consider transactional sex cheating.  Its a level playing field that way and jealousy is supposed to stay out of the picture, but like you might imagine, some of these end relationships end because of jealousy . . . . hers, not mine.  They will find out that I saw another provider that they know, or someone that is super-hot, and they become insecure and freak out a little.  Some can get ahold of their emotions and we smooth it out, but for others, its the beginning of the end.  

A PS. Obviously we didn’t plan it. We fell in love blah blah and sorta figured out the rules along the way.  Not like there is a rule book, right?  The way it worked for us was we really dated from the start and I didn’t treat her like a ho or a SB.  She naturally was in the twilight of her movie career so it was feasible at the start.  

It has happened but it didn't last long enough but it was partially due to distance.  I totally fell for her and, yes, she was still providing but it didn't matter.   She stole my heart.  

.. I am too predictable. Too "corporate like".. Whatever that means..  Dating me is like working on a project. I was asked sarcastically whether we need to have status meeting every week on how the relationship is going?  

I would be willing to try it. But the whole having sex with other men thing would probably fuck with my mind big time.  

...I developed "feelings" for -- yeah, I know, a classic rookie mistake.

She is working idiot.  She has sex so that she can pay her bills.  
Hey dip shit parrot CKS--go take the palm of your open hand and bang CDL's head.  
Then scream in his ear, "She is a sex worker."

But in my younger self, escort status would not be a negative consideration.

Do pray tell if you're okay sharing some details

Yes it would be interesting to hear from a provider's perspective especially if they adopt a more "palatable" persona when they're working and if they feel like they need to keep up this appearance "off the clock" if they start dating a client.

Curious to know how the experience was of dating civilian women again after dating only SWs for years? Were there any areas where you thought you needed to adjust or recalibrate your behavior or expectations?

Yes I know what you mean. During a lengthy period of my life when I was focused on my career and perhaps more importantly, I was living with my girlfriend who later became my wife lol, having relationships on the side just wasn't very appealing to me. The few civilian flings I had often ended up with the girl getting jealous of course, even though it was spelled out from the beginning. I was already in a serious relationship and we were just banging for fun. And though some of my friends enjoyed philandering with civilian women, particularly married ones, expressing they enjoyed the challenge of the "hunt", back then I always much preferred the convenience and no-strings-attachment of seeing providers, and I think I still do lol.

Yes, and isn't that one of the ironies of dating a provider? The natural expectation is that perhaps you can save a bit of money not having to pay for every encounter, but little does one know...

Who would want to be married to a guy who thinks so little of himself that he says::
"I am probably the most forgettable human being walking the face of the earth."
http://www.theeroticreview.com/discussion-boards/ter-general-board-12/thats-why-i--966701?frmSearch=1#966701

If you are seeing one provider and she is the one you will be turning into an IRL SO, then you could save money if you both don't keep up an extravagant lifestyle!  

That actually is the one thing I think I'd struggle with. Even if she has stopped working, just knowing there are hundreds, perhaps thousands of dudes out there in the world that has banged your wife, would be a little tough for me to swallow.  

Wow I'm so sorry to hear that. Sounds like when things were good, it was a fairy tale romance and relationship. Did the break-up have anything to do with her former profession? In either case, I hope you guys can work things out and get back together, maybe after some counseling 🙏

A very few extra details. All years ago. In Europe - some overall different attitudes.  I was 19 years older than her. As i said paid her just about weekly for a year. Moved in with me for another seven years before we married. Beside being in the profession she had very high sex drive. Kept me young. We had sex nearly every day before she,,, alllll, went to work. We lived in a smallish city and so, yes, I did know some of her customers including some neighbors. I had my own profession but income from it, though good, was nothing compared to what she brought in  -- even when considered now, years later. Were there difficulties? Yes, of course. But we worked through them and kept on trucking.... lol

There's nothing really all that unusual;  here's the quick version:

Is this  bullshit from  CDL:

...four years ago.  He updated it two months ago.  At that time, everything was still great.  As I understand it, sometime between two months ago and last Tuesday they got married and then she left him after they were together for five years.
"Together" isn't really true though.  For some part of that five years, he was in a loveless marrriage.  Obviously, the other marriage must have ended so he could marry "her."  Here's the link:
http://www.theeroticreview.com/discussion-boards/newbie---faq-33/sugar-daddy-163710?frmSearch=1#163710

this is an often asked topic here.      my attitude, sure if there was truly chemistry.     one girl asked me, but what about what the neighborhood guys would say ........  my answer ...  "sorry nobody will pay to sleep with YOUR wife !  "   LOL

Thanks for the great and detailed replies! You mentioned one thing that I've wondered about in this scenario which is on the topic of children. I already have kids from my first marriage, but if I was to get remarried I wouldn't be against having more if that's what my hypothetical young bride-to-be wanted. Did you and your wife ever discuss her profession with your children, and if so at what age did you do so and what was their reaction?

I have to disagree and say I find hardly anything USUAL about your story lol! But thank you for taking the time to share and congrats on finding a wonderful companion. It seems maybe a large part of why your relationship was successful was because you were attracted to her not only physically, but for her intellect and personality.

Yes we did discuss the situation, but a few years earlier than planed.  At 16 and 13 when the 16 year old showed up at Mom's work door unaware that she would be the one opening the door. Yes, it was very tense in the family for a while, but we managed to work through it. Fall out extended for about five years in some ways. But, we did stay together as a family and worked through it.  Anyone thinking of such a marriage and children should expect possible similar situations arising.

...if I was ever to get married again, to a provider or not.

And why? I love her she loves me so why not? Sex workers are people first. You marry them for the same reasons you marry anyone: Your bat shit crazy and a masochist. Isn't it obvious? Actually matting my wife is the best thing to happen to me.

Sure!  Why not?  Currently have for over 6 months so far,  We get along great and continue to progress at this point.

Falling in love with someone of the opposite sex or same sex is absolutely great, but is it ideal to fall in love with a woman who has sex with a ton of guys and are you 100% (Without a doubt positively sure that she feels the exactly the same and won't fall in love with someone else while she's with you?). Think about that when you ask questions like that. I'm not trying to be nasty, but you do got to weigh your pros and cons when it comes to things like this.

but not if she's still a SW.  
There are a few providers and former provides that I know well enough that I'd seriously consider an LTR (if I was single), but, and again, the providers that I know well enough, carry too much work-related baggage.  

I think you have to have the same outlook as someone in an open relationship. If you are possessive, it won't work.

I'm currently in with a girl I met in 2013. So far it's great. There are a few major complications. But so far it's great. The sex is still great.