A certain provider advertises a tour in my city a week from now. She asks for prebooking fee of 30%. She has a professionally looking website, X, Instagram and OnlyFans accounts.
I couldn't find her on TER or her reviews anywhere.
From her Tryst ad, "Although I’d love to come visit you in your city tour dates are strictly based on interest. If I do not receive enough prebooking's, I will have no choice but to cancel or postpone my dates."
She may be legit, but perhaps her MO is to advertise a tour, ask for prebooking deposits and if she has enough customers, she will come to the city, provide service and everybody will be happy.
If there aren't enough customers, she pockets the deposits, promises to apply them towards her rate the next time, that may never happen, and she is happy.
Any advice?

-- Modified on 6/21/2026 6:04:43 PM

Are you kidding me? Lmao pass. FFS

It makes no sense to me to even consider this. The whole premise is based on the hope that several other clients will want to see her and will pony up the bullshit pre-book fee.  Even if you can find credible reviews for her, they are irrelevant if other clients you don't know about and can't evaluate for reliability don't pay the fee as well.  How many fees does she need to show up? How much time will she have for you if she gets boked enough to come? What happens if half the other guys cancel 1 day before she flies? That's not your fault but it will be your problem.  

 
There is a huge list of available providers near you right here on TER.   If you really want to see a "bucket list" provider from another city, find a reason to go there and see here while you are in town.  

 
Don't get me wrong. This provider can and should run her business any way she wants.  But we don't have to choose to spend our mongering dollars on her.  

 

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I know some are very anti deposit, so no matter the story, they will say no. I’m not anti deposit. I am low risk with deposits though. If she’s not reviewed well, reviewed recently, and reviewed by clients I feel are trustworthy, I’m not risking it. Your situation reeks of high risk. I wouldn’t do it.

And I don't mind paying a deposit at all...for the right girl. The woman you are referring to wouldn't come close to meeting my standards. I can't find any reviews anywhere? I'm out. A close friend hasn't recommended her? I'm out.
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For me, deposits are for women who have earned that level of trust i.e. those with a long track record of handling them professionally and responsibly.
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There are way too many women out there in this realm who meet my criteria for me to gamble on someone who falls well short of it. That said, I won't criticize her at all. As Herb stated, she gets to run her business however she sees fit, and if we don't like it, we can simply contact someone else who better meets our needs and risk tolerance.

unless they’ve been reviewed, do not give a deposit.  i got burned by giving a deposit.  there is no guarantees.  you are suppose to trust them but they do not trust you?  

Why would you trust her to apply it when it's never going to? If she's not getting enough pre-bookings, then she's definitely not going to tour again later in life. Why would you willingly give any unverified provider money? If she has no TER reviews is probably TGTBT.

Thanks to everyone for their time and advice. I am glad I was able to amuse some of you.

-- Modified on 6/22/2026 9:43:04 AM

It’s a fairly common MO for providers to post tour dates and decide whether or not to actually do the tour based on whether they get enough pre-bookings, with deposits, to cover their travel costs and some amount more. In such a case, though, the deposit should be refunded if there isn’t enough interest, not applied toward a hypothetical future tour.

And if she doesn’t allow reviews, then I would expect that those deposits would come from people who have seen her before, heard about her through someone they trust, or otherwise have good reason to trust that that money would be returned.

I don’t agree with QB that a provider who doesn’t allow reviews is necessarily not legit - but it’s very reasonable to be more suspicious, and it’s very reasonable to restrict your spending to providers whose authenticity you feel comfortable in.

There is nothing more intimate than ripping you off.  

You take many risks being a P4P customer, but giving a deposit increases all of the other risks substantially because nothing else works out unless the deposit does.  Most people don't learn about the dangers of reviews until they have three reviews.  

I 100% agree that there are plenty of providers without reviews that are legit. In fact, everyone starts without reviews. For me, the main issue is without being able to verify her, it's not exactly fair to expect me to hand over a deposit. Just like many other business, on the way up to building your reputation, you need to be willing to take more risks. Insisting on deposits should be earned, not handed out to just anyone who asks for it.

Yeah nothing like getting fucked without getting fucked

Yup, we are on exactly the same page! That’s what I was trying to get at with the second paragraph.

I read her policies page and to me it seems like ai slop that was never proof read. It says we and our a couple times where it doesn’t make sense and awkwardly mentions hygiene in every paragraph.  

 
The blurb about you should follow her on SM mentions hygiene. The sentence telling you which methods she accepts for sending the deposit ends with “ensuring hygiene standards are upheld during transactions.” Okay…. wait, what?

 
I am not a blanket anti-deposit person, but as others here have said, I’m selective and careful about who I send them to. I wouldn’t send her one even if she had a bunch of reviews. I say that because her cancellation policy is way too unclear, especially regarding what happens if SHE cancels. Yes, a lot of providers will ultimately cancel a tour stop if they don’t get enough interest in that city. (Read “interest” as deposits sent.) She’s upfront about that but doesn’t want to talk about what happens to the deposits she does receive from cancelled stops.  

 
It says nonrefundable. It says if you cancel, you can use it towards a rescheduled appointment on the same tour stop. Given the brevity of her tour stops and the fact she basically says she won’t go if she’s not booked up, that sounds like a trap. And again, what if she doesn’t even go?