Ok gang; Mr. Warmth here is celebrating 6 months with the same ATF this weekend. I'm no joe millionaire (I'm not even in the 6 digit club). I want to get her something but havn't a clue what. She doesn't do candles, jewelry??? lingerie(she got lots of that). What do you get someone who earns 6 times more than you do?.
 If I had won Lotto Wednesday night I could have given her an exclusive longterm contract.

 NO!.. I'm not going to say it!!

 Cm.

Just give something from the heart and she will accept it with joy.  It does not take alot to put a smile on her face.  The fact that you went out of your way to get something will have meaning in itself.  Dozen roses always work nicely.

-R

One that I have done a few times for Ladies I see a lot, and has always been appreciated:  an evening off.

Flowers, dinner out at some place nice.  Maybe a movie or show afterwards.  Then drop her off with no expectations or obligations beyond that.

Here's a suggestion:

Kim Catrell of "Sex in the City" fame has co-authored a cocktail table sized book entitled, "How to Satisfy a Woman".  It's real good, and in fact I saw it on the cocktail table at a provider's incall, and she raved about it.  You can get it at Barnes and Noble.

No, I have never seen a book entitled "How to Satisfy a Man"  But if she's your ATF she probably already knows that, at least for you.  Happy anniversary!

F.

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christ! can't believe i just said that!  LOL

but seriously, is she makes 6 times what you do, you probably have no chance in hell impressing her with material goods (shame, cuz civilians often are

so my advice would be to do your homework (ouch!) ... find out that little teeny tiny thing that just melts her heart and buy it for her ... she'll love you "longtime"

i plan to bring a PSE provider a kitchen magnet (yup! you heard me) cuz having read her voluminous diary, i happened to notice she loves kitchen magnets

[sigh] ... what a guy will do to get laid!  LOL

As you say, there's little you can buy for her that she couldn't afford herself, so your only option is to give her something she CAN'T buy.  That would be something from your heart.

If you're at all talented in writing, a poem is always a keeper.   Write something personal, and post it on www.poetry.com (you can use an alias).  Then, through that same site, you can have the poem printed and mounted on a very attractive plaque with your choice of  font and background.  Delivered, we're talking less than $100.  But, if she's like most women, if the poem is really from your heart, she'll be thrilled.

Another option, or possibly something to be combined with the poem idea, is a Vermont Teddy Bear from www.vermontteddybear.com.  These have always been a huge success with me.

save yourself the effort and just find the best love poem already on poetry.com and tell her that alias is  you and you wrote it just for her!

what???  this is Cynicalman we're talking to!!!  LOL

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accessories.  The more, the better.  They love to mix and match things.

Jewelry is very nice.  However, to draw the desirable response from her, either you've a good handle on her taste and got something that fit or you've to pay much more.  A bracelet (sterling silver or 18K), charm bracelet, fashion jewelry brooch like Swarosvski (for ladies who love to dress up, theatre going/formal parties), a semi-precious stone pendant or necklace (Torquoise, Aquamarine).  It could bet tricky.  

Same thing with Hermes scarves, Chanel/Gucci/Ferragamo shoes.  I would stay away from Chanel/Gucci shoes though, since they could create expectation problems for you in the long run.  (Once women got hold of those shoes, it seemed like they will start angling for a new pair or two every season. )

Haven't done shopping for a while, if you don't mind spending $350 to $800, a Gucci or LVMH wallet or handbag is a good idea.  It is much easier to find the right one from one of those fashion houses.  If she smokes, a Cartier lighter might work.

If you don't want to spend too much ($80 - $200), a key chain from Gucci or a music jewelry box: http://www.sfmusicbox.com/store/category?category=19650%2C21270%2C21651 is also a good one.  Several years ago, the B/W handbag Gucci key chain was a hot item.

A fashionable watch is also a way to go.  Some boutiques have antique bracelet type fashion watch for $130 - $180.  Of course a Cartier or Chanel watch would be most impressive ($1800 - $3600) but those are probably inappropriate at this stage.

You could also get her perfumes (Boucheron or Givenchy are probably something differnt for her) or body cream (Boucheron and Chanel are my favorite selection for gifts).  Fragrant soaps are also a nice touch, though for a 6 month celebration it might not be enough.

Just keep in mind though, gift giving is a progressive thing.  There are other occasions (Valentine's day, birthday, Christmas, Anniversaries) you would be expected to get her gifts.

On the other hand, the reactions I got from giving my ATF and a special lady Gucci handbags last year were nothing short of spectacular.

Good luck.

she won't appreciate getting gifts.

Sometimes it is too risky to give gifts from the heart.  She might not understand or appreciate it.  Then it destroys the illusion.  Unless there are genuine feelings on both side, it is better not to test those waters.

that detailed shopping list of yours is real cute, real CUTE! but i don't think your helping the brothere here!  know whatah mean? LOL

plus, for a standup guy you sure seem to know way TOO much about "chick stuff" ... what gives?

[picture me in wife-beater underwear and smoking a stanky cigar!]

Sit down and write her a letter.  Don't profess undying love to her in it.  Simply tell her all the qualities about her that you adore and find endearing.  Start off with the sweet things about her personality.  Don't start off with how good looking she is.  You can include that in the middle part of the letter.  When doing so, don't simply say that she's beautiful.  Describe her beauty in parts, such as describing her eyes, her smile, etc.  Tell her how you'd describe her heart.  Don't even comment about her lovemaking.  She probably hears that a lot and already knows that you enjoy that.  
Good luck.

If you do then get her something she really likes.

Or better...get her new bedsheets so when she sleeps on them everynight..she will know who they were from!!!

Shaye

You may want to consider satin sheets and pillow cases.

flowers are nice, but they die.
the best gift is a gift certificate for a massage,facial or body scrub package at a very nice spa like burke williams(well it's not the nicest but will do for the average hooker).nicer than that would be the spa at the Peninsula Hotel or Kinara on Roberston Blvd. If you're on a real budget I might also mention my favorite massage place. It's downtown in Little Tokyo and it's called Tokyo Spa. They offer shiatsu massages given by older,Japanese women with hands of steel. It's only $65 for an hour and they give gift certificates.
You  can also give a gift certificate at her favorite store.
Depends on if she's a Barneys girl or a Bebe girl. Either way you'll have to get her at least a $200 gift certificate for her to be able to get anything good.
Good luck!

Oh, you weren't talking to me? Well, let me believe that you were!

If you want to do something different, you could
1)Give her a gift certificate for a maid service to clean her house

2)Detail her car if she has one

3)the spa suggestion is nice.
4)Gift Certificate to Harry and David's for a fruit of the month club.  That way every month for a year, she will get a reminder of you
5)Get your picture taken together at a photography studio if you are both agreeable.
Wish you good shopping

Here are some suggestions from a girl who has everything. All of these are fairly inexpensive, and can be found in any big city...a leatherbound journal type book, a picture frame, a cd recording of her favorite Broadway musical, plants or flowers with a beautiful container...the kind on Christopher Lowell's show(container gardens are awesome!), some quality loose tea with a tea ball (found at speciality tea shops, not Starbucks), a set of martini glasses, a book of quotations, The Giving Tree  or Where the Sidewalk Ends by Shel Silverstein, Where the Wild Things Are by Maurice Sendak, Oh the Places You'll Go by Dr. Suess (Children's books make wonderfully sweet and thoughtful gifts for adults.), Crane stationary, a keychain from Tiffany engraved with kind words, 400 thread count or higher linens, Keihl's or Aveda products, a donation in her name to a charity. I hope some of these were helpful. Now all you other fine men know what to get me. Ummm...Singleton...no excuses now!

Get her some time at a spa.
She probably would enjoy being pampered.
Don't cheap out though, go for a day-long session.
Then arrange your next date after she ends her day long session.
Wine her, dine her and go to a show or dancing before you head
back to a hotel for the main event.
You both will be extremely happy with the results.
You will have had her attention (one way or the other) for
the entire day and she will love you for it.

Hey, Man

I've just the thing to touch the heart of your favorite gal. I'll assume you live in a large metropolitan area, for this point is key. Within any large city, you'll find a number of luxary hotels (Ritz-Carlton, Four Seasons, et al). Likely, these hotels will offer an afternoon tea, with various tiers of service and amenities -- opting for the top tier might portray you in the most favorable light. But who's to say?

Now, this is the part you're probably not going to like. Instead of booking a reservation for you and your best girl, buy her a gift certificate that will allow her to take three of her girlfriends (or, boyfriends) along. This option will allow her to make the invitations and reservation at her discretion.

If you really wanna come off as a stand-up guy, a bit of advanced coordination between the concierge and the maitre d' will allow you to have a small bouquet of floweres (I'd advise some combination of lilies and tulips) waiting for her, center-table, as she and her guests arrive.

One more thing, lemme know when and where this is to all take place. I'd like nothing more than to crash the tea party . . .

have similar handles ... plus i'm dyslexic (quelle surprise!)

uhmmm ... let's see .... what to say .... [think!] .... oh yeah!

singleton wanted me to give you this... he couldn't be here himself. something about an "image to maintain" ... but he said he  thinks of you fondly ... and to meet him out the back in the alley by the 3rd dumpster in ~20 minutes.

he said it was either THIS or the Travelite(TM) Bedspread UV-Disinfectant Kit 2000 (which he couldn't find in stores!)

You get someone who sits up all night wondering if there really is a Dog.

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Give her the letter at dinner over the bottle of wine. That letter will always remind her not only of you, but your words will bring you to the forefront of her thinking. Handwritten of course.

Give her the letter at dinner over the bottle of wine. That letter will always remind her not only of you, but your words will bring you to the forefront of her thinking. Handwritten of course.

what a tremendous wealth of options you kind people have brought to the table. I'm truly grateful, thank you.

fortitude; I'll check out Barns & Noble tonight

Spectator; I'm not sure they'd let me in some of the stores that carry your suggestions but I thank you none the less.

Interestingwoman; What a wonderfully eclectic and affordable list of ideas.

Multiplex; I'll meet you at the dumpster as directed. How much do I owe you and will you take a check??

 I'm going shopping now.

 IAATM (figure that acronym out!)

  Cm

Let me be cynical man for a moment.  Unless you think she is really in like or love with you.  I would consider seeing someone else for her birthday.  It is really hard on our ladies when we fall in love with them.  I know I have got a bit stupid over a couple of women.  When I do get silly I see someone else till it passes.  Sounds like something cynical man would say.  I wonder where I heart it?

for my female friends; sometimes for ladies I like.

I am sure there are other gentlemen who are quite good in gift giving.  They just don't talk about it.

Don't worry.  No lady is going to show her client a printout of my list.  You guys are safe.  Lol.

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A gift certificate to a spa for a manicure, pedicure, facial, hairdo, etc., etc., etc.  She will be pampered to death.

give her my phone number!!!! LOL


HPG

How about a day at the spa. Or a massage and a facial, manicure and pedicure or some other combination.

As long as it is from the heart, don't worry. If you are truly friends, she'll enjoy whatever you get her.

Best wishes!

I like that idea!

I love the look, heavy weight, and smooth writing of nice pens.

The first time I ever splurged and bought myself a $100+ pen, I was nervous about misplacing such an expensive item.

Funny thing though, I always mentally kept track of it. I never misplaced it and used it daily for two years until my purse was stolen.

But anyway, a great idea!

I've been hobbying for more than 20 years, and for most of those years gave cash gifts to providers that I thought were deserving of extra, whether it was for (perceived) special treatment from the lady or that I had extra feelings for.  I gave cash mostly because I wasn't sure what else would be an appropriate gift.  However, a few years ago, I saw a provider I have now seen many times (not exclusively - I still see others because I need variety) that I learned about from her web ad. This particular provider was hugging a teddy bear in one of her pictures.  After seeing her and having an excellent time with her, that picture gave me an idea, get her a teddy bear (or other stuffed animal).  This particular provider was much more appreciative of this simple gift (a stuffed animal) than any of the other providers were of the cash gifts.  Her web ads, since I gave her the animal, now include that teddy bear in two pictures, and she talks about it every time I see her.
 
I have since found that by paying just a little closer attention to the ladies that I see, I can learn about special little likes of the lady that can lead to simple but well appreciated gifts, if I am inclined to give the particular lady anything extra.
 
In other words, just pay a little more attention to the provider that you are with, and you will more than likely get some clues as to types of gifts that will be well appreciated by the provider, if you are inclined to give her one.

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This may sound really off the wall but how about laser removal of her tatoo or some other medical service. I paid for her oral surgery and know that when she smiles she will think of me for the rest of her life.

Fascinating reading on this topic!

To show my appreciation I plan on plagiarizing several of these suggestions.  Now I just need to figure out which ones will go with which Ladies.