Each and everytime I see a provider (particularly incall and if agency) I have that moment or three that I worry about getting busted, family finding out, etc.  It is a bit of adenaline and stress that soon fade once the chit chat starts and I rarely feel this stress with independents (not worth busting or so I think).  While I deal with this as part of the hobby, for me it is only once-in-a-while.  But for providers, this bit of stress must occur daily.  I hear the tension in the first phone call, the cryptic emails, the hug at the door which I realize is also a frisk. So my question to providers out there, how do you deal with this?  Does it catch up with you?

One only has to look into the Providers eyes to tell if they are under stress or not.  I've studied both Iridolgy (eye history) and Sclerology (current health (the white of the eye)) to tell alot about someone.  When I get close and make eye contact the Provider doesn't know how much of herself that she has revealed without saying a word. Its my lead to some interesting talk.

I'd feel if my profession were hounded like yours. I feel like the bureaucracies are enough of a mind fuck in my profession without adding the element of illegality, and let's not forget lack of social acceptance. How do you deal with it? I wish it weren't this way, but it is until we can do something about it.

I think all Indy's stress about this issue. FYI: depepending on the State, alot of times if the indy doesn't know what she's doing, or makes 1 mistake, she can get busted just as an agency can

Providers can cause their friends incredible amounts of stress too sometimes even if they don't mean to.

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that "serial dating" (I know, one more moniker) probably is much like shoplifting if you consider the rush & letdown.

I kind of agree with her.  Especially with the entrapment team that works in San Diego.  You don't have to be doing anything illegal ~which there's nothing illegal about dating and subsequent gifting~ and The Entrappers really want to take you down (town) in those not so pretty silver bracelets.

Still,  I think now that I've spent several months in a monogamous relationship with my man, I'm ready to get out there and DATE, DATE, DATE!!!

Elise [email protected]

Well getting busted would not be a pleasant experience I imagine.

and a different type of stress than I mentioned.  When you have a provider friend that finds it easier to be a provider than to be with someone she is close to.  Well hearing that is very stressful when she has had you heart, mind  and soul for a long time.

But at least nobody is zealous about tossing you in jail for caring too much, or about the wrong person.

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In hind sight I should have run away when she became a provider.

I shold have ran when she charged me,
I should have ran when she took out her stresses on me,
I should have judged her on her actions and not her words,
I should have been far less understanding and optimistic,

This is what sticking by your friends gets you.

A bundle of stress and about 20 points added to your blood pressure.

There is no shortage of stress to go around regardless of the situation. Everyone gets more than they need.

Only know what it feels like to wonder if the Entrapment Team has eyes for me.

Certainly the ups and downs of a relationship are a truly different territory.

Elise [email protected]

The climate here for ladies that want to date via Escort advertisements is just horrendous.  It's just easier and, of course it is more profitable to go after us than deal with the streetwalkers that stroll quite obviously up and down San Diego's regularly haunted ghetto streets.

I'll reiterate, (possibly ad nauseum) there's NOTHING illegal with advertising via the escort ads, making ensuing dates, and exchanging gifts during a date.  That doesn't stop San Diego Vice aka The Entrapment Team from trying, trying, and trying again to make a date to put bracelets on ya and take away your freedom for awhile, tho'.

Elise [email protected]

...providers can sometimes find themselves confronted with a less-than-honorable person who knows their business and wishes them ill.  

While LE may be a constant, it is a low-grade sort of concern, particularly for independent providers.

The problem with such "controntational contacts" is that their influence is highly stressful for the duration of their presence in a provider's life.  Our ladies often go to great lengths to guarantee their safety, though a certain amount of compromise is necessary for them to go to work.  Distractions of that nature affect her energy, and therefore her performance, which can have both direct and indirect effects on her ability to support herself.  

Those of us who are hourly wage-earners understand the ramifications of missing a few hours' work...and that can add still MORE stress.

Honestly, I have to hand it to our amazing ladies who choose this profession.  For some (no names here, but we know who they are), this is not merely a decent living but a calling, that offers rewards not measured in dollars.

Yoda

Well escorting turned a wonderfully warm women into a fairly cold hearted one obsessed with money. Well anyone who basicly turns their back on long time friends because they talk like its costing them money. Well I have a hard time understanding.

Because I have never turned my back on a friend. And I was always there for a friend.  And the harder I try to understand the harder she makes it for me to understand.

Talk about an incredibly amazing man, anyone who's studied his practices will certainly live a life of longevity especially if they've incorporated then into their lifestyle.  I have been using his anti-aging combination of herbs and vitamins for 10yrs now and it has literally stopped my biological clock.  

He is definitely one of the most admired men of my lifetime and his book "Nature has a Remedy" is a powerful book which should be read by everyone who's interested in maintaining a healthy lifestyle.

Hugs!
Lily

Yeah I read the whole line above this. I just wanted to get into position, Directly under you!!!!!

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What I've learned from this thread is, don't do anything on the first couple of contacts before the meeting to add to her stress.  No matter what butterflies I have in my gut, I'll try to not to make them contagious, then.

/Zin