So I'm actually curious what men actually want in a wife throughout the seasons.

I'm not married, however, I would want my wife to satisfy these needs:

And I don't mean the P4P world. She would need to be at home in my community and my society, and would need to be somehow involved in the same professions.

Pretty simple, really. Not sure why it almost always sucks...I can count on one finger the number of truly happy marriages I've observed.

"The Normal Bar: The Surprising Secrets of Happy Couples and What They Reveal About Creating a New Normal in Your Relationship"

Thus the statement:  It's the little things that count.

So, in a marriage, each partner has to do the little things that show the other how much they care.  That care has to be acknowledged and returned in kind.  Believe it or not, this means saying things like please and thank you, to say nothing of "I love you."

It is easier said than done, but if people focus on that, things would be so much nicer.

Here are the best parts of what my wife and I did for each other when my marriage was good (and you're right, a good marriage has nothing to do with perfect). I think if one can hit as many of these notes from my off the top of my head top 10 list, I think they will form a patchwork of emotions that create 'the good' that two people can share together.

Turns out I'm really, really bad at it and have learned my (expensive) lesson.

Nothing could be more true!

1. Needs to be sexual/ sensual. I am very sexual person... I love kissing and holding hands and shit.. Cuddling would be nice too.. Stop it nicky.. Stop it dawg.. No video needed. We all have seen it..

I would agree with Scarsdale.

Another flat moder who doesn't know where he is?

This is what your Man Card looks like now and cuddling references ain't gonna get it back

So a man's man that I am referred to at work and in Fantasy Sports circle can't cuddle with wifey?

Just someone to keep my house clean, fix my meals and go away. JK. Sorta.  

you want a woman around who will have children, cook for you, make you drinks, cuddle with you and give you blow jobs, and then leave you alone to watch sports.  

I knew at least one feminist would come out swinging.. Where's the other one. I am waiting for her..  

A perfect wife would be one who rakes in a lot of money, highly educated, drop dead gorgeous, has an awesome magnetic personality, and makes my alarm clock obsolete Because she will be waking me up with a nice BBBJ every morning.

at least not directly. The kids. The propagation of the species. I will start out with the great marriage I had. We both were very  much attracted to each other, the sex was great for 16 years; we really were on the same wavelength regarding cognitive, emotional and physical intimacy. We were we able to ride out her families rejection of our marriage. We were able to have 3 healthy and beautiful children. All that can crumble if one or the other allows the kids to divide and conquer, and if one or the other places all the blame for their growing unhappiness upon the other, and not seek professional help. I guess that sums it up for me.  

Women in the millennial generation (age appropriate for you?) will laugh, just as much as me, at your 1950-ish requirements for a wife.  

But in your case that's at least understandable..

I've seen my great grand-parents, my grandparents, my parents, 15 aunts and uncles, more cousins than I can count, my bothers and sisters, my friends, my colleagues, random people....and, I have cable fer christ sake.  

you respond to my post? I take people responding as wanting to have dialogue...I just stated what I would like to have in a wife.. Why is that such hard for you to grasp. I never made any statement as to what career path she can or can't choose. I also never said anything about her interests and such. If you don't like it that's fine, but you are painting with the same broad brush that Tobi got in trouble for the other day, when she made statement for all the provider community. She subsequently had to apologize.  

Responded in the wrong spot-

while you're pounding down some manly beer, on the manly gun range this weekend, telling this joke in a manly and non-liberal  way...lol...

There is NO difference between a hetero or homosexual relationship? What fkin planet are you from? Venus or Mars? Lol.

Hey, same sex marriage is ok so how can you constitutionally stop this now?

Note these are NOT in priority order...

and thanks to the person who posted it.  As you can see,  none of these things are difficult, complicated, or expensive.   And that is probably the key to a great and long lasting relationship.   Unfortunately wives don't always provide these things; and perhaps even more interesting is that many men are often too busy or just unaware of how meaningful and comforting these qualities can be.  Of course, those aren't our only needs or wants but I for one have lived long enough to have been at times in need of all of those things.

1. Is emotionally balanced - shares emotional support as much as she demands it;
2. Has good self-esteem - knows she has great worth as a person;  
3. Takes care of herself physically - so she feels energetic, attractive and sexy; knows taking care of others is not possible if you do not take care of yourself;
4. Is an equal partner in life - chips in where and when needed, and lets me know when I must as well;
5. Is a brave communicator - shares the good and the bad without delay; talks through problems and doesn't hide them or expect me to "read signals" overly much.
6. Trusts - always trusts first, asks if curious. No jumping to conclusions.
7. Is unpretentious - is a normal woman, and doesn't need to flaunt money or success.  

And my requirements for a perfect husband are not the norm but, I guess that's just how it is. We want what we want and if it does not fit everybodys ideal, well fuck em. You go find your woman Curly!

they can be an incredible challenge as well.   I've seen more than one marriage end because of the increased demands put upon a couple because of children (time, energy, patience, money, discipline, etc, etc).  

Saying "I do" is a public announcement that two individuals are convinced that they can each fulfill all the needs and wants of the other forever.  That's pretty much a pipe dream methinks.  And the divorce statistics bear that out.

I know they're out there... Look at Anna Nicole.

What you described in your dream wife was rather 1950esque lol.

Which is understandable as many of your positions are rather 1950 ish, not that they are wrong, but you can't deny that you have a rather "traditional" way of looking at things.

Ok now you two can go back to your private little spat now, I just didn't want Admin to make the dreaded "This Branch is Closed" post which they almost always do to "private spats" lol

But we are talking marriage here.. Serious shit.. More than 1/2 marriages in US end up in divorce.  

They can simultaneously make a mans money and will to live disappear in just a few short years. lol

Look like this with a small dick and a skillful tongue. Anything less than this, well why bother.

Make serious bank because if a woman were to give in to the 1950's Stepford wife, and gives up a lucrative career to do so, you had better be able to compensate in the money department. Then she can hire a cook and a house keeper and a nanny, to deal with the little brats you want.

Gloria rocks! She is one tough, savvy, cookie......lol....

but I kinda favor this guy... and think I have the other two qualifications covered... and I give an awesome massage... Just sayin'...

All she's gotta is put out.. Damn right and make some good food..

The sex wasn't ever that good so make sure she is happy and then you will be.  Or pay her by the hour and who cares if she doesn't like it, at least it wasn't for nothing. And all the other shit she does, well that's where the rest of your money goes. Cooks and cleaners and babysitters cost money.

A cook, cleaner and then someone to pop out kids and then babysit. Oh and after she has done that 24/7/356 she has to put out whenever he wants.  

and I'm commitment adverse... Guess I'll have to find a different Sugar Momma...

Any card tricks? When a man can trickle a poker chip from one finger to the next over and over… me melts. The older and grayer the better. To feel forever young you gotta have fun with muthafuckin older… So basically if you 30+ and a boss…preferably on the tables…hit me up. I may or may not respond though…depending on me mood Dueces...

That piece of eye candy would be swapped out after a month.