In those first 10 minutes or so when I meet a new provider the conversation can be what sets the mood for the rest of the session.  So why do so many providers ask ithe client if they are married within the first minute or so?  I am asked this about half the time.  SImple curiosity?  Does it help to decide how to orchestrate the session (oh he's a married guy so he after a bit a variety)?  Does it make any difference?  While I answer this question honestly, it still makes me a bit uncomfortable (probably due to some guilt) and would seem to me the one question most clients would like to avoid or at least put off until later.  Any thoughts?

Providers have told me that they ask this for serveral reasons. THe first is a security issue. The 2nd is a disease issue. Some providers think just because a client is married that he is less likely to have an std. They will say things like "Married men don't want to bring things home to their wives".

Some providers only use Married men as clients.

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From what I have been told by the providers I have seen, most actually prefer to see married guys for the following reasons:

Most married guys have been trained by their wives and are clean, respectful and they know how to act with a woman;

Most married guys are not going to develop a "fixation" with the provider since they have to keep the affair discreet least he screws up his marriage and losses at least half of all his assets;

And the number one reason why they liked married men-- they have been conditioned by their wives to had over all of their money to women!

On the other hand I know a provider who told me she preferred single gentlemen because she wasn't comfortable with the idea of married guys spending money on her that would be better spent on feeding, clothing and providing a home for his wife and kids.

i try not to ask the question unless it's brought up but since i provide massage sometimes i want to know if they mind fragrance oils, if they need to watch out for lipstick, or scratch marks on the back,, etc.. other things like that that can arouse the suspicion of a wife

If he's making the appt. at his house, I might ask so I know if someone could be coming home! I also might ask so that I will not wear anything with fragrance, etc. (the ideal situation would be for me NOT to go to the gent's house if he has someone - but meet somewhere else)

I honestly can't think of anything else that would give reason for the question? Maybe leaving messages or voicemails - wondering if they could be retrieved?

I dunno. Sorry. There are certainly pros and cons both to having married and single clients.

I do not like to be asked if I am married because I consider that an invasion of my personal prviacy.  In turn, I do not ask personal personal questions either.  If a more personal relationship develops over time, then the questions and answers become more appropriate.  If I have a concern about perfume, etc, I will say so.  The security issue is bogus: cops could say they are married and be truthful.

Vicky, you sound like my kind of gal! That would be a real hard one to explain away. Say, the cat and I got into a fur fight? I don't think so. But if you make it worth my while, I might be willing to take the heat for it!