All of my finances are in jwros with my significant other. Other than Amazon gift cards, how can I do deposits?

Hey, you asked.  LOL

You answered your own question love bug. Please disregard the disrespectful comments. No need to jerk off in a napkin. Ridiculous.

Either you stay miserable for rest of your life or get a divorce..  Trying to hide mongering from your SO w/o having any separate finances is next to impossible. What are you going to do? sell dope to make cash? LOL..  

providers here without a sense of humor.  Thanks for raising your hand before I even asked.  Lol

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I think that response was hilarious.  

I don't think he meant deposits in that strict sense. I think he meant to say donations..

Ashley Shye or some the other great gals when we need them to keep things light and humorous.  Lol

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Take up horse racing.  Take $500 to the track every Saturday.  Bet $100 and stash the other $400 for mongering / sugar donations.

Well..stop hiding them and unleash them already !

Speaking from experience, DO NOT send deposits. If she wants to see you bad enough you won’t need a deposit. If she insists MOVE ON.

If the OP has any common sense he won’t send a deposit or get all flustered about needing to.

Not sure what else needs to be said. In all fairness if you have no references or have a habit of cancelling at the last minute , then perhaps a depots is warranted.  

I've always thought deposits infringe privacy.
And it's best to follow the "no paper trail" rule. Plus cash is king.  

Come see me, I don't require deposits

This is from Fedex's website. Clearly says don't send cash.  

that her average customer is not too bright.  However, her target customer base would still send cash be FedEx if she ordered them to on pain of having her shove something big up their ass.  Lol

Might I suggest you start a side gig. Regardless of your age it is always nice to have some separate finances. Sometimes to do something the SO would be upset by, other times so you can explore something and even other times so you can be downright naughty (yep, get laid by some young, tight, accommodating woman who is in the sex industry).  

is to what prompted her to say use Fedex over other carriers  with that much confidence and level of certainty.

So you don't think cash coming in like that can raise eyebrows?  Does it have to be put in an envelope and labeled with a big black sharpie that it's for illegal activity .

I would like to take issue with part of your statement.

There are more providers available than I will ever be able to see during my remaining hobby years, so if a lady I want to see makes things more difficult to do so, then I draw a line through her name and go to the next name on my list.  I never have any regrets.  There is NOBODY I want to see so badly that I will jump through hoops to do it.  Once she is naked, she has the same parts as all of the other girls on my list, so I will simply move on.  

You don't know me...You should go and read some of my older posts.. I am actually quite against paying deposits
In fact, I turned down 2 appointments in January itself from ladies who were asking for deposits. One happened to be my mistake that I didn't read her website carefully, and 2nd one her mistake for springing it on to me at the last moment, and not having it anywhere on the site.  

I agree that sending cash via mail or FedEx is ill advised but that is largely on the "don't pay deposits" basis.

who came up with this deposit idea?

Very sure the deposit thing is a rather new development. I saw a few providers in the 2003-2008 time frame and none demanded deposits. And screening wasn’t quite as stringent as it tends to be today. Now I almost qualify as a newbie again because the two I had seen more than once from 2013 forward are now for all intents and purposes out of the biz now.

Who knows? But I can pretty much guarantee it wasn't a client.

Reading some of the guys comments on here, I wouldn't be so sure..  

They are a new thing - a relatively new thing..  

If I had to guess I would say it originated out of the FMTY setting type cases.

Deposits usually have a collateral or insurance or some guarantees associated with them

My site has a deposit explanation section.  I use it as a tool to weed out time wasting folks and those wanting a quick rendezvous.  Do I require a deposit for every encounter? No.  Do I enforce it when I feel it's necessary? Yes.  It does earmark my time/day for the client though.  Without the earmark I could very well have something more important come up during that time that will take precedence over the non-earmarked appointment. Personally I work multiple jobs. So when I don't have an earmarked appointment (deposit) I am working my other jobs and out living my life.  It takes me a good bit of time to prep for an earmarked appointment and the actual deposit ensures that my prep time will not be wasted.  Not once have I had a client push back on my request for a deposit neither cancelation fees.  I appreciate your opinion on this topic greatly. Thanks for sharing it.

I would do some research and ask around on what banks thay do not send any paper trails and all electronic. I also have a client who has to do this. Because his wife knows exactly who I am. (But I don't know her)

Even if you go fully electronic, evidence of the account will still likely appear in any credit report (and those agencies know more about each of us than we likely know ourselves!), and one’s partner can pretty typically see that in a jointly issued credit report (such as might be pulled if applying jointly for a mortgage). Maybe that doesn’t happen all too often for some of us, but it’s always going to be lurking out there as a way of outing the existence of the allegedly secret credit card. Some prepaid cards do not appear on a credit report, but funding them poses its own challenges.

My Tryst account got hacked. They changed the email from [email protected] to their own email. They then added to the text " I have been burned too long and no require a 25% deposit. " then they would never keep appointment. I do not require deposits.  I had dinner at Oya and they required a deposit $75  would be charged to my credit card if i cancelled.  

Would pay a deposit ! Do you pay a deposit at the grocery store for purchases in the future  ? Gas pump ? How many guys cry the blues after being screwed out of there deposits.  

You got MY attention.   Looks like we are made for each other.  You don't require deposits, and I don't pay them.    

Hey CoachMyster,  
  Send the Provider at least $75 to $100 to hold the time frame that you want and pay the rest off once you & her get together.

If she really is serious and want to reserve time for you she will even without a deposit. Just stop it with this deposit talk. I’m paying for future services that may or may not occur. Oh yeah, great concept. Can I get a deposit for work boss make it for a couple weeks, promise I won’t quit. NONSENSE