Is that the hobbyist "believe" that the provider is really enjoying the session.  I know its all fantasy but thats one aspect of the fantasy that is more important than most.  A perfect 10 in looks can be largely negated by a disinterested "performance".....also a "bored" greek island voyage is far surpassed by a responsive missionary.....

At least thats how these things appear to me....

I realize nobody asked but the muse just took me...

G.

I think you are 100% right with one caveat.  What you say is probably only true for GFE performances.  I also believe this is the single worst element of providers who claim to be GFE but fall short of the mark.  In my experience, it's not so much about acronyms, but totally about selling the intimacy.

Also, to me, this is one of the main differences between a GFE and PSE session.  I've had so many providers tell me that the difference between the two is greek or perhaps even something that we all pretend never happens.  However, to me, it's all about believing that a provider is having a good time with me.  

This is not to say that I need to believe that they would see me in their personal lives, just that they are having a good time.  After all, I don't beleive that in their personal lives all women would jump into bed with just anyone they think is good at sex.

On the flip side, if for one minute I believe that a provider is doing what she does just to please me, to get me off, or so they can get paid, the session is ruined.  

I know that many providers I see are just acting, but I also know that some are not.  Accordingly, if they're good, I can't tell and that's all that matters to me.

On a side note, if I don't believe I can make a provider cum, I may somewhat enjoy the session, but I will never see her again.  If I can't make her cum and I can tell she fakes it, I will feel like shit and never see her again.

I realize fully that not all guys are the same, but that's definitely how I see it.

. . . but from what I've been able to put together, the sex is generally one of the things providers like about the job.

Of the things they dislike the most, fear of physical harm, stalkers, fear of getting outed and  fear of arrest are the top. Then there are the dozens of annoyances.

Meanwhile, if they can put all that aside and have a few dozen creative orgasms and still get paid-- guess what? They'll take it.

is that I too belive that we (the hobbiest - except for hardy) need to believe that our partner enjoy the session as much as we...  but - performance and activities often cloud that view.  I was with a very attractive lady - who DID NOT provide GFE - however as we met - and talked - we found that we had a lot of common interests...

as the event progressed - we got into why we were there.... and strangely enough... we both climaxed at the exact same time.  (How do I know that she climaxed ?  Well, aside from her telling me... she became VERY sensitive and could not stand to be touched... for a couple of moments!)  We both laughed about that... and found it amusing... because we both recognized the physical intimacy limitations imposed by her rules... but the personal connection WAS INDEED THERE.

What does this mean?  simply that to enjoy... is never totally dictated by the alphabet - nor does the failure of a lady to provide GFE mean that she is not enjoying the company of someone she finds "interesting"

yea... the fantasy has to be there....

Being made to feel like it was an actual pleasure to be with me, is absolutely priceless!

and zero expense..

its pleasing a woman that makes him feel like a man.

Chances are she'll enjoy the session regardless of whether she is in to you sexually!  Even if she is in it only for the money, a nice easy client can be a joy and will help her acting skills greatly!

However, if you do your research well, you find ladies that really enjoy all of what they do- the men they see, the joy they bring, even the sex.  I have a few favorites that I see a lot of- and I can read them pretty well after several visits (or am really self deceived!)  Sometimes if they have seen a couple before me, they aren't as much in to the sex for their own pleasure but still do their best to make it enjoyable for me.  Othertimes, I can really tell they are in to the sex too and it is even better.

Bottom line is with a well researched good provider, whether acting the sexual interest or not, I have a great time and they enjoy me even if only for having a nice respectful client and often for much more!

connection.  and I have a couple where that is the case.  I treasure those relationships.

I also don't like the same routine and the feeling of "cum and get out of here."  I don't go back.

The hobby is about having fun..It goes both ways.  For the women yes this is a job..but it should be a job that we are having fun at! I know I am!

is enjoying it for real or is just a great actress.

Either way, instead of trying to find the truth which could be paiful, why don't you just relax and be cool, this way she can perform better and give you what she promised to give, a GFE.

I see it alot like that as well...I would never just sleep around, and for some reason, I know it sounds crazy but I would not respect myself if I were "just a slut" lol  I know it sounds nuts but I just couldn't do it. Maybe I see it differently so I can be comfortable with it. I see this as using my assets wisely and have no problem with it.

That's my story, and I'm sticking to it.  And, I'm ready, willing, and able to prove it to every lady reading this.

LOL...cute, but I have to say...you are fun and a true Gentleman!!! A good time had by all.

-- Modified on 3/26/2008 6:23:37 AM

Thank you sweetheart.  You were sublime yourself.  I've still got the tingle in my dangle.

This is why a gent should never get mad if a gal does not wish to see him.

So far I, about 90% of the time, have as enjoyable a time as my date.

You have to love people and understand the need to feel loved.  It is not simply about getting
a guys rocks off. Yall can do that your selves.
It is about reigniting a will to live and resparking the MOJO to go on doing what needs to be done.

Gents like to feel special and important too.
I feel like if they are sharing the fruits of their labor with me, that entitles them to a REAL and GOOD time.

fishnets hugs and kisses
sexymadelineshaw