So an interesting thing that has come up the last year or two on a number of occasions has caused me to post this for some commentary by the community (hobbyists and providers alike).  I often schedule late morning sessions (just works out for my schedule better) which means that if I have a great session I am finishing up around the lunch hour.  As I get ready to depart, I start thinking "now would be a great time to get a bite to eat".  Not surprisingly my provider on a number of occasions is thinking the same thing.  Only on a fair number of occasions she says "wow, Im pretty hungry" or words to that effect.  I am not at all averse to offering to take her out for lunch especially if she has been outstanding in our appointment.  But then I think, if I ask and she says yes (and lets assume lunch lasts the better part of an hour) is she expecting that I am going to pay for lunch and her hourly fee?  I mean, if I wanted her company specifically then I would think paying her hourly fee is reasonable, but I would probably rather the time be spent in the bedroom and not at a restaurant as I derive to specific pleasure out of sitting across the table.  I'm willing to do it because I figure, hey she has to eat, but I am never quite sure if her statement is a hint to me to invite her to lunch, or her just thinking out loud that she is hungry.  And asking her, "hey I am going to grab some lunch, and I would love to treat you to lunch too, but I will only be willing to buy lunch and not cover your hourly fee" sees a bit crass.  What would or do you do in these cases?

It's simple. I just say "Are you hungry?" If she says yes, I just say "if you don't already have plans, I'd be happy to buy you lunch" See how easy that is??? lol

You haven't said anything yet about food or a meal and she says "wow I'm pretty hungry", or words to that effect? I think she's pretty much clubbing you over the head, hoping you invite her to lunch. When I'm getting dressed or whatever and she says something like that, I don't hesitate to say hey, can I buy you lunch/dinner.  

A few ladies I nave seen regularly over the years included lunch or dinner, sometimes on- and sometimes off-the-clock. Don't worry about it. If it works for her she will let you know what's going on; at least the mature, responsible ones will. Let her run her business, don't try to anticipate her.

So much this. Exactly. Why so many can't read a simple situation between two human beings, I cannot fathom.

If the lady has a website, I've usually read it. A lot of the  ones who don't do OTC time will have that posted pretty clearly.  

She will say something like "That made me hungry" or "What are you going to do now."  I call this FISHING for a lunch invitation.  Civvie girls do it too.  If I have the time, I will extend the invitation, if I already have other plans, I will act like I didn't understand her bait-attempt.  If she comes right out and says "why don't we get something to eat", I will say "okay" or else  "we'll have to do that next time because I'm busy."  Then I suggest that in the future, if she wants to piggyback a meal onto the next session, its best to tell me the day before, so I don't schedule any appointments right after we meet.  Saturday's are different matter.  I have more flexibility to be spontaneous.  

and if it ever did, I would consider it "good riddance"

Quoting from chapter fourteen of the Hooker Manual:

(or at least sober right now. 😀)
I knew you were joking by the tone of your post and was surprised he missed that.

Maybe for me its very different.  

But at the risk of being a "suck up" I think you have a GREAT way with words. lol

but I was already 90% through the post so I just posted it "as is" lol

Thank you but just say the obvious. How can I know a guy is interesting or funny or just plain idiot if I cant spend a little time. If he is willing to listen to me gag and moan for an hour or more, I can listen him tell me something interesting while I eat for free.

Of course, if it is a part of a longer session such as an overnight, then a meal is almost axiomatic.

happen with a regular when was still relatively new at this.  We were doing both one and two hour sessions a couple times a week, and I had suggested once after a session that we get something to eat because it was dinner time.  She was very emphatic that she "does not go on dates with customers."  I never brought it up again, and then out of the blue, we were finishing up a two-hour session a month later at about 7:00 and she asked me if I would like to go get something to eat.  I went, and we had such a good time that it became a regular part of our time together when finishing up at dinner time.  She occasionally reminded me over the next year that I saw her that I was the only customer she had ever gone out with.  Maybe true, maybe not, but it sure made me feel great!

practical since you do your own scheduling.  It doesn't work with agency girls.  We have to plan OTC time on their days off.  Many providers don't realize something that you touched on, and that is the non-sexual social time outside the playpen does more to improve the chemistry and connection between you and a customer than an extended session does.  Fortunately, I learned this early on in my hobby career, and have tended to stay with my regulars much longer when there is OTC social time.  Mostly its like getting reward miles, but occasionally, a real life outside relationship develops and we became boyfriend/girlfriend.  Then the dynamic evolves as well into something much different, and can be richly rewarding for a man who is able to handle the obvious fact that his girlfriend makes her living having sex with other men.  I don't have a problem with it, but some do.  

Seriously? Some providers expect you to pay them to go to lunch or dinner with you? I'm not going to pay her to go to lunch or dinner with me. I've taken my two favorite providers to lunch or dinner. Not once did they expect me to pay them. I paid for their meal.  

I will happily pay for your meal.  But I will not pay to watch you eat it.
I also subscribe to the comments above by the experienced mongers here on how to make that happen.

Perhaps most of what I have learned OTC is already known to many but here is a list of just somethings:

accused of sucking up, but I want to compliment you on your insightfulness. I think your recognition that OTC time with customers will pay dividends in the long run by allowing you to interact on a friendship basis to strengthen your connection is refreshing for only having been here a short time.  Most newer providers I have met would not consider it.  They are just looking for the next paid hour and are not at all focused down the road on developing a cadre of regulars that can provide a certain expected level of monthly income.  

Times she would ask me what my plans were for the rest of the afternoon. I told her I either had to go back to work or go home. I guess I was too dense to ask her what she had in mind as maybe I could have had some OTC time.  Since then no one has ever asked me.

were like Christine.  
She obviously cares about her clients and is very realistic. Maybe a cultural thing?

I've never had to pay for a lunch date with a provider. They were happy that someone took them out and paid for their lunch.

A Fav offered & I accepted lunch from food she had on hand.  It was a long drive for me & if I didn't eat I would invariably have medical consequences.  There wasn't a convenient place nearby her location.  So I began bringing lunch fixings, which we shared OTC & had our paid session.  Package size meant that there was always excess which she kept, of course.  (I knew that generally I was the only appointment she had that day.)   It really was nice.  

Here is what I think would be fun........

For someone who claims to be "English challenged" you are making the absolute best use of these discussion boards of any woman I can think of on these boards. I bet your inbox is getting flooded with offers. GREAT job.

I'm sorry, but if you can't make beef stew there may be no hope for your culinary skills.

My English is not great, its good just not great.

1. Open can.
2. Empty into microwave safe bowl.
3. Heat in microwave.
4. Enjoy!
or, for the traditionalists,
1. Open can.
2. Empty into saucepan.
3. Heat on stovetop until hot.
4. Enjoy!
or, for those who like to rough it in the outdoors
1. Turn shopping cart on side.
2. Build trash fire in shopping cart.
3. Open can.
4. Place can on shopping cart above burning trash.
5. Heat until hot.
6. Enjoy!

I  am going to have to go with my friend GaG.  
It is simple ask her if she would like to get something to eat with you and I am paying. Then ask I don't mean to be rude do I have to included your hourly fee as well.

GaG and others, you should teach a class in marketing to many of the newer providers who do think of hobbyists as walking ATM's.

you would have received an email from me asking to see you.