What is reality anyways?  I studied philosphy for four years and then also studied Zen, among other isms.  I'm no closer to knowing anything about it now as before, except now I know I won't ever know.

So, make me a happy camper, and maybe you'll be happy too, or so I'd like to think.

A good act beats reality most times anyways.

Aside from the fact that it may be good for our male ego, Does it really matter if they (provider) have an orgasm? We are paying to get our rocks off and not the other way around.
Do you walk away feeling less satisfied, if you know for a fact that she didn't cum??
Ladies, do you REALLY even care?

Or, is this a stupid question??   lol

If I am going to play, I AM GOING TO HAVE A GOOD TIME...!

If you see a provider often enough, and you're able to please her each time, then you'll reek certain benefits a provider may not offer her other clients.

I've gotten a few OTC sessions, with a provider because I knew how to hit that spot on her just right.

It only matters if either or both of you care. If you do not care and she does, then you probably will not be a favored regular. If you care and she does not have one, and does not care enough to pretend, then you will probably be disappointed and not come back.

Do what you want and it will work out the way it works out. Many will fiercely say their way is the right way, but they are full of shit. If it works for you, and her, it is just fine.

zig

I honestly couldn't care less if the working girl has an orgasm or not. Her having one is not a stipulation, implied or specified, in our pay 4 play arrangement and transaction.

If it ever gets to the point where she pays me, then I will reverse my position on this.

Don't get me wrong, in my opinion, my partner having an orgasm is very important.
Omg, the best part of sex with my civee, is watching her have the multiple O's she always has.
No' i'm not a stud, i do it with my fingers, rubbing her gspot while she rubs her clit. ( it's friggen awesome )
So, i would actually like to find a provider who is really into it and say's, "hey baby, make me cum"
and really mean it.

Be real.  They are paid to stoke our egos. Those who are good at what they do, include the fake O's. Nothing wrong with it, but we shouldn't kid ourselves.

You generally like to do the 30 minute deals and the gals just love you so much because "you hit her spot" is one of the better narcissistic comments I've seen here.

But you keep on telling us all about your exploits.  And soon enough you will absolutely convince yourself that you will have a great porn career too

Thanks for the morning chuckle!

The sensual few minutes after an orgasm can not be duplicated with anything else. I love having an orgasm and i'm going to try my damnedest  one way or the other to have one or multiples if it's on the table. The real intimate moments are after you come. At least for me it feels that way.

Kisses Haley

Not necessarily!  Some men are very good at their efforts to please a lady!  Also, some women
are very much in tune with their bodies (I've also studies Tantra) and can O fairly quickly, and multiple times.  Everyone is different.  As far as a guy not caring if he pleases a woman, well, personally, I don't
expect it and I do try to make the session all about him, however, I though real men enjoy pleasing a woman?!

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I know the gent is the one paying and if he just wants me to do him then I will not touch myself. BUT I do like to get mine when possible. Why not all get off?
Hugs and kisses
TL

Its a million times more fun if the woman you're with likes it.  Youre scary-self involved if you think otherwise.  On the other hand, you're equally as crazy if you set "girl-gets-orgasm" as a goal or if you think you're giving a slew of gals orgasms in half hour session with a 30 second warm up conversation.  Stop reading comic books, immediately.

An education about sex, i don't need! Believe me!
Been there, done that!!
I hate comic books. Always looked at daddy's dirty mags, when i was growing up!
Stupid question? Maybe?

The more important question is, does it matter to you if your partner enjoys herself or not.  

I think it's an ego boost and an overall enhancement of the time spent together for both parties to want to please the other person.  Now, that's what I call playing!

xoxo,
Carmen

WOW!! you just keep upping your stock everyday...now don't you?

"Now i know, i won't ever know"
Now, that's an answer i can live with.
Once again Mr F, very insightful!!  Thanks!

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I will not lie just because others might find the truth distasteful.

I have had a number of people, girls and guys, tell me how lucky I am to orgasms like I do. I have always came fairly quick. And I have a number of way that I can orgasms without even touching my kitty. I have heard girls say that they never get off hardly and I can't imagine what it is like.

I have seen a lot of talk about girls faking orgasms and I just do t believe there can be make faking going on. Maybe it's just because of the way I am. I have had reviews where guys say I think she had an orgasm or two and I think to myself how could you not know? And then I think well I guess they assume every provider fakes them. Guys just need to remember that not all girls fake, so please don't assume.

If a guy wants to come I. And think because he is P4P that the girl doesn't have to get off that's him. Most guys don't have to try hard to get me off. But I do know this: I consider myself good at what I do, but after I have had a really good orgasm, I get in a mood where I wanna throw you down and give you an orgasm youve never had before. My orgasm stimulates me to wants to please you even better. So you might miss out if you come in only thinking about yourself.

If a guy truly is into pleasing me, then it's always a great date. If not, I go into hooker mode and simply please him. The only issue I really have is guys begging for gfe, and not being at all that way. Make up your fkin mind already! If you want GFE, it's more than us servicing you...that's PSE! Thanks. Then again, some boyfriends in the civie world are that selfish as well, so I guess it could be considered gfe to some lol. All I know is you won't get much in including a finger if you don't do "something" to prime me up. I have a handicapped kitty.

I was actually thinking of asking if nice guys finish last or if the ladies would prefer we just pop 'n go... figured only aliases would answer truthfully though...

call me naive, but i'm going to go  through the rest of my life beleiving it matters and hoping I can please her as much as I am pleased.. flip side is, i have to subscribe to the theory that if a girl is non-orgasmic, let me know up front so I can concentrate on me and not us... fake it and do such a bad job of faking it that I can tell, and I'll never be back..

that might make some happy, so now they know the secret of how to get rid of me

Not to her, certainly, and it shouldn't for you.

Seeing her orgasm, fake or real, is a turn on for me - no ego involved - however, if it takes too long then the focus shifts to her doing the work.  This is purely physical so do what you want to do as long as you are satisfied coming out of it.

Part of my pleasure is trying to wring at least one orgasm out of my date, if not several. Sometimes I can tell if I did but not always, though I love to motivate her by giving it my best early in a session with tongue and fingers.  The response has always been good for both of us.

This is just my opinion but it would appear that 95% of the women responding here are acting like they *do* care and of course want to mention tantra, multiple O's...etc.  That is all fine and dandy but be realistic, guys.  The responses are almost a way of free advertising because they know more than half of you want to feel all manly about making them come again and again.  

In real life, how many times does your SO O?  Every single time you are intimate and does she do it multiple times every time?  And many providers see multiple people per day, do you really think these women are *really* able to have 2-3+ O's per hour, then again the next appointment and then again?  And then do it all again a day later?  Provider or not, she's still a real woman who does this for a job...

I'm with msamy, I don't expect it but if it happens, all the better.  But the encounter is a way for you to fulfill a fantasy and we are there to focus all of our attention on you.  

But one thing I'd like to say is that having a good time doesn't always come down to an orgasm or how many you can have.  It can be just as fulfilling to have a great connection, conversation, an amazing back massage, sharing a bottle of wine, dinner and just getting along.  Maybe it's just me and because my rate is a bit higher I get more clientele wanting more than a quick romp and I have never felt the need to fake it just to try to get more appointments.  jmo

Hi there...............
i fake orgasms for the ones who insist I have one, I'd rather not have one, honestly-sorry, ut no client deserves to see me in that intimate and vulnerable state.

as far as the business end......only you matter....but ud be surprised at my reaction to
you caring if im enjoying myself

Oooo baby hold on tight and dont lose your hat

Maybe you think the answers are predicatable but please don't assume they're BS. In regard to women seeing several clients / day, I agree..(His would be a great physical difficulty. Personally, I see about 3 per week, sometimes 1, sometimes none because I have the option and do not want, or need to see more than this...(Herefore, I don't post things as a form of "advertising"
I am in agreeance with you about the O not being the goal. The experience as a whole is really what's enjoyable. Quality over quantity.  Since I hit my mid 30's, I have very much been in tune with my body (Tantra has helped) and yes, I most certainly do  O easily.  I don't say it to stroke the egos of my clients..not my style. .I don't have to fake or lie.  I offer enjoyment that goes beyond my, or his O.
Perhaps I might seem defensive, but I'm not. I'm simply defending my statement and saying that not all women fake because not all women need do. Perhaps women that can't have easy O's might benefit from hearing how some women can.