Looking at the last few posts got me to thinking about the notion of a "Fuck Buddy".  The kind of no strings attached, but good solid sex whenever both parties feel like a good screw with someone you like well enough is available.  I've never really had that kind of situation.   It's either been a girlfriend or a provider, but never someone I know reasonably well who now and then would like a good fuck.  But apparently lots of you out there have had this kind of relationship.  So tell us a bit about it.  Include, how long it lasted, how often you boinked each other, whose idea was it, how good was the sex, if it ended up stopping, what caused it to fall apart, and how does it compare to your other relationships (providers, significant others, etc).  Would you look to get into a relationship like that again?  Why or why not.  Let the games begin!

But in each case, none of them were girlfriends for that would never work. These were girls that I hd no interest in long term, but were great in bed and had no strings attached. Many times it was a case of a 1 am phone call when you struck out at the bar or club that night and you were horny as hell. Never a "date" type situation. Although getting liquor and finding a motel that charges hourly was always fun, so you may consider that a pseudo date.

These relationships since they are obviously built on sex, mean the chemistry in that dept. is awesome. The key was that they had the exact same view on the relationship and you do. If they dont...ugh...it doesnt work and it falls apart.  

Two of mine lasted years and years. From my late teens to my mid twenty's. In the summer, sometimes it could be 4-5 times a week but that was rare. More like once/week, or once every other week. In the winter, less often. The sex was great b/c of the familiararity but not the mundaneness, you could explore new things with someone you knew well. Threesomes, sex clubs, that kinda shit you would never or rarely consider with a more conservative GF type relationship. Great stuff.

One of the fuck buddies usually breaks the fuck buddy cardinal rule ,  wanting  for  
  more than fucking .  
 If you  take your fuck buddy to dinner it's soon curtain call  .
  Fuck buddies usually last a long time if fuck buddies respect each others freedom  , longer if we live in different cities .  
 Once a week is appropriate ,  more than a couple times a week is out of bounds on fuck buddy territory .  
 
   Sex has always been good for me with fuck buddies , she wouldn't be a fuck buddy if she wasn't good in bed .  
 Fuck buddies are not in  a relationship , no need to fall apart when there's no fear of ending  .  
   
 

ll we do is run more ads when we get horny or when some get broke lol. So, no...that's my answer.

We don't have sex that often, b/c I don't get horny that often. The sex is amazing. He is so fucking sexy, I'm getting wet typing this. After awesome sex, we held each other all night and kissed each other goodbye as we departed each other's arms this morning. getting wet...

It's nice to sometimes be intimate w/ a non-client, someone that I'm intensely sexually attracted to and makes my toes curl in every way, something genuine and not for cash. I have no interest in a boyfriend relationship, so this works for us and has for over a year.

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So I had a fuck buddy.  
She was a waitress at the bar I used to work at..
We would get shitfaced with everyone after work, and usually fuck at my place.

One time we got really coked up and kinda went at it all night.
We both had to work the next morning.. Together!
So we crawled into the shower, dragged ass to work, and fought all day.
It was a nightmare. Of course it became my fault we were fucking all night.
She would not stop complaining all day. (12hr day)
Eventually I snapped on her. Hey! I felt like shit too, and I couldn't take it anymore..
I wasn't very nice with what I said, but if we hadn't had sex earlier it would not have been a big deal.
Lets just say my fuck buddy relationship ended with her cousin pointing a gun at me.
Her cousin had such a thick Irish accent that I could not understand a word he said.
Every time I asked him "what?" He became infuriated.
Mind you this guy has a gun.. Is yelling at me..
I don't understand the drunk mic. And it is pissing him off.
Not a good spot to be in..
He got so frustrated that he didn't bather shooting me..
Just walked away mumbling about how stupid I was. I think.
No bullshit she wanted to fuck again that night!!
I said I have to go to bed.. Never even got drunk with her after that.
I guess her cousin does that a lot because she didn't seem to think it was a big deal.
The guy showed me the fucking bullets for Christ sake!
See? I shat where I ate.. And I payed for it.

If you are a swinger or have that mindset, try SLS. No BS, free and paid accts, and it is mostly couples. But, there are unicorns there and if you have some game you can have a lot of fun. AM and AFF also offer that possibility, but sls is real, no fake accts, etc. My gf and I do swing and have been members there for years, so I know the place well and can vouch for it.  

That said, SLS is very popular in certain areas of the country, while other swinger sites may be more popular in others, so look around and do some research. Good luck.

"This, that, and the other."

In it, Jerry and Elaine thought that they could revamp their sexual relationship without the need for a "real" relationship by combining the "this"  (good mental converstaion) with the "that" (sex).  All they thought they needed were a few rules.

Well as you can imagine, things didn't exactly go to plan and when Jerry asked why, Elaine said that she needed "this, that, and the OTHER.  The other obviously is the caring and commitment component.

Now many have given tales of their successful (and one particularly unsuccessful) episodes.  To those who found a way to make it work with several women or men over several years, I say God bless you.  But I have to be skeptical overall.  Why else would so many men see providers if fuck-buddy relationships were so easy to obtain?  

I tried a fuck-buddy relationship a couple of years ago and it ended very badly.

As for the hobby, the "other" is obviously the envelope, and that's where I intend to stay with my relationships for now.

The lines are not as clearly drawn as they are in P4P relationship or BF/GF relationship.  

If people don't communicate properly, then both the parties keep asking themselves question.. "What is this relationship.." Sadly, the society has got too much accustomed to requiring a label for every relationship...

I like the other episode a lot better where George picks up a streewalker on subway and she ends up taking his clothes because he has no money !!!

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...a girl I used to work with told me a long story about her fuck buddy.  She said that the key to a great fuck buddy is that you kind of have to not like the other person.  In her case, he was an completely insensitive, pompous asshole but apparently was hung like a horse and fucked her stupid cause she kept going back over and over.  They did this for close to 3 years and continued through separate relationships (although admittedly it slowed down during those times).

So the moral of the story, find someone you like to fuck but can't stand talking to!

Ha ha, well I can get that works for her and many others, but not interested. I don't fk for free....ever, end of story. That works for me lol. I guess I just don't need it, or a man at all. At one point I needed that, but I don't see that happening for a few years. It's still meaningless sex to me, and my life simply has no room for that right now. I cater to meaningless sex on a weekly basis in the hobby...why would I want even more of that on my off time? If I want a "friend" I don't need to fk him for that same benefit. I won't say I don't need human contact, but I don't have to fk someone to get it. I enjoy being with family and friends more than fking some guy...sorry, but that's just the cold hard truth.

I think for some women, this job is easier when they have someone to fall back on and spend time with, where it is not about the money. For me, I don't care lol. What I need when I am not doing this are true friends, family, and the satisfaction of accomplishing real life goals. My life simply has no place for a fk buddy, and to be quite honest, I have never really had that in the past.

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I agree 100%.  Someone Always gets feeling and then it goes sideways!!  Happened to me over and over.  I'd rather pay a provider and NOT deal with the drama

That is pure gold right there lol. So true.

"Will I see you again?"

How priceless, and how often do we end up doing something just as stupid as George?

I had a girlfriend in college who was borderline nympho, if not full stage nymph.  That was a fun year.  She was always up for a shag at any time, anywhere. Back seat of a moving car, hanging out the house window, parking lot against the car.  If I had a boner, she'd grab it and stick it in her.

About 5 years after college, she called me out of the blue and wanted to get together to fuck.  We hooked up that night, and did the same every couple of weeks for about 6 months or so.   Then she met someone, and it ended.

I think she just needed some steady dick while she was between relationships. I had no doubt she had 1 or 2 other fuck buddies on the hook for the weekends (and weekdays) we we weren't together.

We both knew what it was, and it was a hell of a lot of fun too.

Fuck buddies aren't dangerous.  Doing coke with a psycho you work with is dangerous.  That's what I took from this story.

why would any chic want to do that she may as well just charge for it