Medium and heavy clients are always like "is this okay, is this okay?" self-conscious that their weight will somehow harm me.

Unless you're into 110 lb girls don't worry about it.

You don't have to spend time with women who are comparable to your size...but you should find women who compliment or can accommodate your size but who still stir your visual sense.

Medium-athletic body types can hang with your weight without you crushing them.

ASSCLOWN ALERT!

Well, well. Your style of writing sounds a bit more intelligent than the typical alias ASSCLOWN. Not unlike an educated neo-nazi discussing a "fake" holocaust.

But your alias used in conjunction with your answer shows two things: 1) you are a total moron and a fat-basher, and 2) you are a total coward who recognized that him own comments would vilify himself.

Get a grip shithead.


HH

A high amount of weight and pressure on anyone's upper body can be uncomfortable. If it is on the chest, breathing can be restricted. I mean an average weight guy can't sit directly on a woman's chest, full weight, without cutting off her breathing. Yes?

So, if you are asking a question with an obvious answer (that you might already know), here it is in print:

A 350# man can't lay full weight on top of a 100# woman for any period of time without causing her problems, whether his extra weight is from fat, muscle, or a backback.

With that being said, despite what that ASSCLOWN alias said earlier, the number of ladies who do not want to see a respectful, clean heavy set gentleman are very, very few. Also, most ladies are happy to CREATIVELY GIVE PLEASURE to a good client.

If you are not getting the skin-to-skin you need, you might try asking a provider before you book (although it is not usually necessary for them) if they are ok seeing a large heavy-set man. You might be surprised the some will answer with an enthusiastic "Sure!" That can give YOU an extra comfort level to start with.

Next, once a session starts, communicate your desire clearly and respectfully to the lady, and be ready to work with her with ideas she may have.

It is simple geometric fact that if a man's shape is like Santa Clause his mid section will stick out further than his protrusion. That makes full chest-to-chest contact with a woman during intercourse unlikely, unless she is a chinese contortionist.

Even so, there can still be very satisfying skin-to-skin while in the throughs of pleasure. The more flexable the lady is the more that is possible. Keep in mind that there are ladies who are not spinners who are amazingly flexable.

Based on my experience, you my find that more mature providers may have skills, patience, and abilities - not to mention desire! - to wotk with you and provide a more fullfilling experience (and God bless ladies for that!)

One other possibility, though the specificity makes this more rare, is the young spinner who likes big guys. I have met a few between the ages of 18 and 22, who really like heavy men. It's always been for the same reason: They have had several boyfriends, most of whom were assholes (as men tend to be at that age) EXCEPT for the one or two heavy guys she dated, who were kind sweethearts (as heavy men tend to be at that age). Their experience left a soft spot (no pun intended) in their hearts for a big guy.

If you find a provider like that (I've found them) you should try laying back and letting them lay on you and make you happy. This is best accomplished after you bring them to climax with a good ol' fashioned tongue whipping.

Good luck to you!


HH

I was reading the postings about getting off on Web cam girls, and most of the responses mentioned loving the feel of a real woman, skin to skin, vs. a virtual woman on screen.  I agree.

My question is this: I am taller from "side to side" than from head to foot, as the song in "Fiddler on the Roof" goes.  (Not quite literally, but close.)  So, I am conscious that my weight will probably be too much for a lady if I lie down on top of her in mish (one of my favorite positions).  So, I always make love in a "push-up" position.  It works, basically, but I miss the skin to skin feel.  

So, ladies, is there any hope for me?  I love the sex, of course, but am I doomed to a life of genital contact only?  (Yes, I know that one answer is "Lose the weight, idiot!!"  It's a long story, but, no, that's not very realistic right now.)

halfhour "I have met a few between the ages of 18 and 22, who really like heavy men. It's always been for the same reason: They have had several boyfriends, most of whom were assholes (as men tend to be at that age) EXCEPT for the one or two heavy guys she dated, who were kind sweethearts (as heavy men tend to be at that age). Their experience left a soft spot (no pun intended) in their hearts for a big guy."

 You actually believe those sweetheart fat guy stories ?
Nothing like some generalization to suit yourself.
I can only assume civvie women haven't been telling you these tales ?
 

Almost every one of  the fat guys in my school were bullies, nothing sweet about them .

 When I was young the big fat guys were taking turns kicking my scrawny ass.
Getting knocked  down and sat on my chest by a fat guy  in eighth grade, is a memory I would like to  forget. I seriously thought I was going to suffocate while he was snorting with laughter.
 If it wasn't for Charles Atlas the fat head guys might have killed me.

    I have a statistic for you .
 You sure are gullible for a fat guy.

A few key points..

Anatomy is what it is..

I like big boys and at a very short 5'2 My ex was 6 3 and 260.. our friends used to joke. about elephants Fucking Mice.. and how bizarre we looked together.. There is hope..

But, you have lost a few inches due to your extra weight. which does make it harder to get to some of those other more desired positions.

I am not sure what your medical situation is but, you can do something.. even if it is hand held weights and diet control with a professional.. This is not a dig.. We could all use a little help or at least most of us..

I have worked in Healthcare for a long time and there is a solution for everyone.. no matter what your medical issue is.... Don't give up..

My question to you is. whats wrong with Lady on Top..?
My confession.. big boys have a very nice little pad of fat just above the jewels that rubs very nicely in all the right places.....

Yoga lessons r cheap as dirt, but it is very beneficial.  There r specific types of yoga lessons that is related to your objective. After a couple of weeks, you can be 1 with your body, and with enough practice, you have the confidence not to smush a girl.

If you want to be blunt about it. Tell the yoga instructor, I need lessons on how to be a better performer cause my SO is telling me I am putting too much weight on her. A friend I knew told me after 3 weeks of this yoga class, he can do Mish very well, without the fear of smushing her. Good luck. And, have you tried other positions? There r plenty of positions u can do with skin-on-skin contact without the fear of smushing her.

Fuck you and the Trannie you rode in on!

Yes, I'm refering to civies, you twit. The lack of fat in your diet and in your body has left your brain undernourished.

The majority of people prefer HWP in partners, of that there in no doubt. Healthyness is also an attractive factor.

However, there are people of everysize and shape who find other people of every size and shape attractive.

The only thing no one finds attractive is stupidity.


HH

sissors, spoons, etc.  It is time to be creative.  I will get on top briefly but it's no fun if she can't breathe.  I would say you can both...  but perhaps not at the same time.
H

Jess go call sum alias uh ASSCLOWN a time'er 2 an' weeel call it eevin! Howz dat?


HH

It's FYATWYRIO!

Never done it, but it looks like the ultimate in skin to skin....

That was what I was just getting ready to suggest. NURU first before anything else would give you the skin to skin contact you are desiring.