A lot of providers do not like to have me just DATY and play with the pussy, have them O and then just want to cuddle and massage their soft skin. Why? I like that. I am paying, why can't I have what I want? I know that the whole clock expires when I "pop" but if I am more than willing to compensate, is it wrong? Do I have to have sex?

not if your good at it!

you can limit your session however you like. I'd suggest giving the lady a heads up first. If she has a problem with it then you need to move on.

Perhaps they have a concern that you don't like them enough to want to cum yourself, and that is their concern.

You have to find a way to allay their concerns.

It may seem counterintuitive, but vaginal sex isn't as intimate as some other activities.  Being cuddled and caressed by a stranger for an hour just might be out of their comfort zone.  Some ladies don't like to be kissed, others don't like to be touched in an intimate way by guys they don't know or have any feelings for.  If that's your thing, find the ones that enjoy that and leave the rest to go their own way.  

There's a reason so many escorts stick to their script- it's what they feel comfortable doing.  Why do you think so many of them automatically do cowgirl or reverse cowgirl? They control the action, they don't have to look at you if they don't want to, and you're not lying on top of them.  I dislike CG myself because I can't feel anything, but I understand why providers prefer it.

All you're paying for is her time and companionship. You will want to read her reviews to see if she is open to DATY. Not all the ladies are, you know, though it seems most are.

since they are used to being male O orientated.  I guess you could consider it a harmless "fettish".
Personally, I love pleasing a woman, but somewhere in there I want mine too.  My preferance is all.
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If you're paying, I'll come in after and take care of the rest! Cool?!

I mean, if all you want is to go down on her, and she wants a dick in her eventually, WTF? I'm a giving guy!

And I could use more massages in my life. Sounds awesome.

But as other posters have said, every lady is different, and some might not be comfortable with anything that's even vaguely out of the ordinary for them, or might simply not like what you like. Reviews can be a good indication.

Otherwise, reassure her you will compensate her with the usual amount -- because a lot of "pleasers" do think that focusing on the lady qualifies them for a discount -- and let her know in an innocuous way how you'll want to spend the time: "I prefer to spend the time focusing solely on you and your enjoyment, and I like to cuddle and give massages afterward."

(Seriously, where do I sign up??)

If he's not available I am

I never go FS on my dates, and usually it is not an issue, until recently. It was more a function of she had no clue what to do without sex. She was young and hot, and probably used to guys jumping her immediately.

I told her I enjoyed oral (giving and receiving) and she told me flat out that I would be disappointed because although she offered BBBJ, she only did it as a means to an end, to get the guy hard.

She offered kissing, but again, not as foreplay. It was pretty bad.

During the session, it was clear she was clueless about foreplay, and she even stated as much.

"It really feels weird not having sex right now."

It was pretty much a disaster

I've since drafted a short "This is what I like" memo that I email to potential dates.

There's definitely something to be said about the more mature providers!

-tessen

Too bad you aren't in SoCal, or I'd be first in line to massage you, especially after reading the delightful typo in your CityVibe ad:

$800/2 hour tail companionship

mmmmm, tail . . .

-tessen

The argument of "I am paying, shouldn't I get what I want" has been made for everything under the sun....good luck with that.

Madison07940,
"I know that the whole clock expires when I "pop"

I could be wrong, but sounds like you are visiting the wrong  provider for what you are  looking for. IMO time up when pop, is close to a rip off, and there are ways to avoid being ripped off.
Is that something you read,experienced, or imagined? Your post has the flavor of make believe.In any case...
Try reading the Ter reviews or PM some of the more experienced hobbyists.There are many ladies on TER  that are not time up when Pop.
I haven't tried any provider car dates,and I might be wrong again, but I doubt cuddling is part of any car date packages. When she flagged you down and you picked her up,she said she is going to the next corner,thats what she meant.
Don't take my word for it..I am certainly not a authority on provider cuddling.Before I have ever had a chance to think about it, my time was up.

Some ladies (just like almost all guys)become tired after having an orgasm.  If she has another client scheduled after you, she may be concerned about having an orgasm and not being "up" for the next client.  (This was mentioned to me by a provider friend.)

As always, best to communicate your desires after the lady knows you are not LE and is comfortable talking about specifics.

I was dumbfounded by it well it only took a few months and escort books lol to get the hang of this whole thing...

You just have to pick the right provider.

Evidence from your post indicates you are NOT picking the right provider.

Some ladies need you to fuck them and have an orgasm or their day is just not complete. No joke.

But plenty of ladies can have no-sex appointments, etc. upon request.

it just feels natural and sexy, especially if he just lays his fingers lightly on my kitty while we rest afterwards... it really arouses me ! it's your time, i love cuddling ! although after daty i may try to attack you haha

As someone who takes great pleasure in both giving, receiving and the intimacy that follows, sounds like you and I were made for eachother!

Ya know, fall/autumn in New England can be truly spectacular.
It would be that much more beautiful with you here!

a (far away) fan

I would love to see you!

Not only do you post ads without my permission, you make double entendre typos in them concerning an activity I'm not even into.