: TER General Board Discussion : Not sure if I've ever seen a question like this. Outstanding!

MasterZen 34 Reviews 2207 reads

posted 10 years ago

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Just for fun question: What is something about sex...

that you wish someone had told you about long ago, before you had to figure it out on your own?

For me, it would have to be that it's perfectly OK to talk about sex and ask for what I like or ask what my partner likes. We can't be mind-readers

mrfisher 115 Reviews 447 reads

posted 10 years ago

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How marriage leads to the end of it. eom

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PenleyDuke See my TER Reviews 770 reads

posted 10 years ago

3 / 31

That the most intelligent men are

Better in bed. You geeks are my people 😉

Posted By: MasterZen

that you wish someone had told you about long ago, before you had to figure it out on your own?

For me, it would have to be that it's perfectly OK to talk about sex and ask for what I like or ask what my partner likes. We can't be mind-readers.

MasterZen 34 Reviews 343 reads

posted 10 years ago

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LOL. All too often, so true! -e-

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Debra_Hollander See my TER Reviews 702 reads

posted 10 years ago

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I've got a lot, but here are my top three.

1) Most people have some sort of insecurity or anxiety regarding their bodies and sex.

2) Although it often stems from fear and/or intimidation: No matter what they say, 99% of folks are judgmental of others' sexual preferences, desires and habits.

3) Even though a lot of men can come off as selfish lovers, the vast majority actually DO want their partners do enjoy themselves and absolutely will do what she asks (within reason) when given clear guidance. ;-

Senator.Blutarsky 532 reads

posted 10 years ago

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You know... I think they made a movie about this very subject...

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MasterZen 34 Reviews 321 reads

posted 10 years ago

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-e-

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Senator.Blutarsky 446 reads

posted 10 years ago

8 / 31

That women are just as horny as men...

😎

harlan.spector 9 Reviews 429 reads

posted 10 years ago

9 / 31

Re: You know... I think they made a movie about this very subject...

What was the movie?

Senator.Blutarsky 383 reads

posted 10 years ago

10 / 31

don't you mean the end of it with your spouse?

I'm sure there are quite a few here that still have sex, just not with their spouse. 😎

MasterZen 34 Reviews 415 reads

posted 10 years ago

11 / 31

Or more so?

and God bless them for it!! -e-

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coeur-de-lion 400 Reviews 386 reads

posted 10 years ago

12 / 31

Re: I've got a lot, but here are my top three.

Judgmental???

Isn't that why we have reviews? So we can be judgmental about who we might want to see based on the experiences of our brethren (including Lopaw)? I've also known some providers who would not take certain customers based on things the customers said in their reviews. I agree that many hobbyists and a few providers suffer from fear or intimidation when they are seeing someone new, but I don't think there is anything wrong with being judgmental when a hobbyist is deciding who they might be a good match with and vice versa for the provider.

coeur-de-lion 400 Reviews 412 reads

posted 10 years ago

13 / 31

I think there is still a period . . .

of a year or more for most married guys where they just go without until they discover this or other options. At least that has been my experience in talking to my married friends that have finally embraced the hobby.

MasterZen 34 Reviews 528 reads

posted 10 years ago

14 / 31

Another: You'll often say more that...

you later regret after sex than when trying to get it. Post-coital rush.

VOO-doo 424 reads

posted 10 years ago

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40-year-old virgin said it best...

Don't put pussy on a pedestal.

It's not meant to be perfect. It's human, and as such... awkwardness, indecision, insecurity, and all sorts of "human" emotions are not only "normal" but actually what makes sex beautiful and intimate.

Also, that you really can't do it "wrong" as long as you are honest w/your partner, desire to please him/her (rather than worrying about ego), and are genuinely receptive and responsive to feedback.

mrfisher 115 Reviews 355 reads

posted 10 years ago

16 / 31

My 7 year itch began at about 3 years. eom

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Jensen36363 58 Reviews 470 reads

posted 10 years ago

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You mean

it's not only about having kids after the blessing of marriage?

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posted 10 years ago

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Masturbation is Good for You!

Yes, since most of my pleasure organ is inside of me,
it never occurred to me to masturbate to figure out what I needed for pleasure.

I wish I had been told that Masturbation is the only way to get to know and love myself completely.
Only after I learned exactly what pleases me, was I able to articulate what I need to a partner for my pleasure.

No, a partner is not a "Mind-reader" . It is my responsibility to know and voice exactly what I want for My Pleasure

Debra_Hollander See my TER Reviews 327 reads

posted 10 years ago

19 / 31

I wasn't speaking specifically of the hobby.

The OP did not specify sex within this realm, and thus my response was regarding what I've experienced and observed as a whole.

It had nothing to do with selecting companions based upon reviews or any other criteria.

But since you brought it up.... yeah, people here are judgmental in ways that used to really bug me.
Clients and providers alike sneer at ladies who are "high volume" or look down their noses at "backpage girls" or outright laugh at those touting themselves as "elite", "luxury companions" or whatever.
Although I was actually thinking back on experiences in my personal life, those are sort of things that would fall within what I meant in my post, which IMO smack of a judgmental attitude.

xoxoxoxoxoxoxooxox
Debra (why can't we all just get along?) Hollander (formerly DebbieNoonerGirl

PenleyDuke See my TER Reviews 446 reads

posted 10 years ago

20 / 31

Hold that thought while I go

Rub one out

Posted By: MasterZen

PenleyDuke See my TER Reviews 557 reads

posted 10 years ago

21 / 31

When I got married the sex only got progressively better

In fact we had sex after the divorce. That of course ended many years ago.

mojojo 1 Reviews 315 reads

posted 10 years ago

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Not sure if I've ever seen a question like this. Outstanding!

I wish I’d known just how much pleasure it would be to have sex with so many different types of women. Not only body types, ages, and responsiveness, but all the wonderful nationalities, and races. It truly has been an incredible run. Had I known this, there's no way I would have gotten married

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posted 10 years ago

23 / 31

My sentiments exactly . . .

In 2016, I decided to let guys know when things felt weird, and/or didn't feel right with my body. No more having to fake moans and fake orgasms. I am not shy in telling you that what you do/did with your wife or girlfriend doesn't feel good with me. All pussy is not created equal . . . and that's a good thing! That means you have room for some hands-on exploration. Knowledge is power my dear!

Also, I've discovered my best sexual experiences have included honesty. I squirted for the first time this year, and me and my partner had a long, tearful, and joyful conversation about how it was actually just piss. We laughed about the fact that we had so much good sex, that my breaks off of my pussy must've fell off . . . or maybe it was because I didn't use the restroom after we went through two bottles of wine.

Posted By: MasterZen

that you wish someone had told you about long ago, before you had to figure it out on your own?

For me, it would have to be that it's perfectly OK to talk about sex and ask for what I like or ask what my partner likes. We can't be mind-readers.