I can understand your wanting a different experience with a civvy girl than what you get "at the office."

Re #1, I didn't have to ask my wife that question because she was pretty open about it, as was I with her.  

Re #2, I think inexperience manifests itself in nervousness, tentativeness, and maybe a limited menu.  When I think about the women I've been with who were very experienced, having sex for them was as easy and natural as breathing.  They were confident, comfortable, and knew exactly what they wanted from me and what they wanted to do to me.  

I think you're on the wrong forum for scoring civie chicks.  We pay for sex here.

Also check the lez forums -- I assume there are lez forums.

Women with little sexual experience, tend to be a bit vanilla. Of course they can blossom as time goes by.
The absolute hottest sexual experiences I've had....tend to be with women who are BSC.
Which is bad, cuz they get you thinking with the little head, and that gets the rest of you in to a world of shit!
Don't over think it.... if you enjoy the woman, let it play out. The worst part of relationships is both parties get lazy, and take each other for granted. That's the death march of any relationship. It's hard to come back, once you let it slide that far...

I get what it is you want, a virgin. I did not ask my last wife. But over time I found out she had very few relationships and later learned virtually no experience in sex, aside from her taking care of business.

So when it comes to sexual experiences look for those who have had none with another woman and not ask how many guys they’ve slept with, that might be as close to a virgin as you’ll find, you think that might work?

1. No

2. They don’t talk about sex

Since this was intelligently written and you weren't trying to sound like Fancy, I will respond.    

 
1.  I did not ask my wife how many guys she had been with for fear she would ask me how many girls I had been with, which would have revealed me to be a way bigger slut than her.  (I was coming off ten years as a bachelor playboy; she had been married for most of the same years).   I only asked her how many times she had been married, and asked to see proof she was legally divorced from any and all ex-husbands.   Other than that, I didn't care about numbers.  This is my philosophy about asking an SO about this kind of stuff . . . . . "Everyone has a past, but its irrelevant unless you want to live there."

 
2.  The main sign that a girl has not had sex with very many people is that she is butt-ugly.  Another sign is that she has enough batteries at her place to last most people ten years.  This might be the girl you want if you're insecure about one that has had sex with a lot of "PEOPLE."  

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Seriously, I don't think many guys here know how to score lesbians.  There must be sites for lesbians (I never looked) but I assume they'd have lots of good advice -- and probably dating forums.

I consider myself a relationship expert because I have had hundreds of deep, meaningful, overnight relationships with  civvie girls.  Some of them we even remained committed through an entire weekend.  I also think that one of the things that has made me popular with both civvie women and professional girls is that I learned to eat pussy at an early age from a Lesbian, but that's another story.  If you learn to eat pussy from a Lesbian, you will never find yourself in a situation where a woman won't want to repeat with you, civvie OR pro.  

Why would a virgin be ideal? You want someone with no experience at all? To teach them the pleasures of what sex with a woman is like? I think a straight girl who may have experience with me but zero with a woman would provide the same results.

Along the lines of what RandyJ’ said, I’ve found that some women who haven’t had a lot of partners aren’t all that comfortable talking about sex. That’s often a good indicator.

    But the best indicator is what she thinks about sex, what she thinks it means. If she thinks it’s just a bit of fun, she might not think “yes” is that big a deal. Or if she has stories about how some guy brushed her elbow and her clothes fell off, she might have had a lot of partners.

     But if she thinks deciding to have sex means choosing the person who comes with it, even if it’s for one night and an awkward morning after or just a long weekend, then “yes” is hard won and she probably hasn’t had that many partners. Or if she talks about sex in terms of “giving it up,” there’s a good chance she hasn’t given it up that often.  

     Not a married guy, by the way, but I have been dating for what feels like forever (I got issues) and I have never asked a woman how many people she’s slept with. Unless she asked me first.

Call it what you will, but the best experts on giri on girl sex are most probably lesbians. Sure a lot of braggart guys will claim they converted lezzies with their wizardly techniques, but why believe them?

My best advice for girl on girl, ask the experts ... lesbians.

Not qualified to answer the Qs:

but once you have a checklist of signs and symbols, I'm pretty sure that there are plenty of places in NYC to cruise for someone to hook up with. And I don't just mean lesbian bars.  
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Lopaw has mentioned that she has some success at the strip clubs. The dancers are sometimes reluctant to respond to her advances (there's a possible shyness sign), but sometimes they are good to go. A strip club is also a good place to experience pseudo-sex, depending on how raunchy the dancers are. (Some guys go prepared to get some rubbin' (aggressive lap dance), suckin' (on some boobs), and occasionally some blowin' and fuckin'.  (Do not expect much action at the upscale gentlemen's clubs in NYC.)  
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Maybe Lopaw can tell you in PM what to expect at a strip club. It might be too much of a tease for you if you are really looking for more.

I wouldn't go to a foot doctor for an earache.

Let's not say "easy" because that has a pejorative tone to some people. Let's say "active." I like active women.  
But if you can get a woman talking about sex, she'll be easy to read. The hard part isn't figuring out what she thinks about sex, it's figuring out whether she wants to have sex with you.