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and do providers really cum during a session!

A provider I wanted to see has a "no client under age X" policy.
I didn't find out until after sending in all my information (she didn't state this on her site).

Anyways, mrfisher suggested to me to try to explain and reason with the provider that you are different, a good client, mature, and not like the others. Basically try to eliminate all stereotypes and prejudice.

You should use this sparingly and only for providers you feel are special, open-minded, and established.

Providers will come and go throughout the years...
It's up to you to decide if the provider is worth the effort in trying to explain that you are different.

Business,

Did she see you?

BTW, I did a search for this before I posted and got dozens of results that did not relate at all.  Forgive me if this has been asked and answered before. If you have a link to the original questions I would appreciate it.

Thanks for your input everyone.

Here is a previous thread on the topic. Yes it has been asked many times. But then probably every question on the board has been asked before (some a lot more than others)

In any case the bottom line is "why does it matter?" There are different reasons for why different ladies do that. Ultimately, It's their choice. But there are many many ladies out there who don't have that stipulation. You are not going to change the ladies who do, so just look for ladies who don't. Simple solution. Another thing. Be thankful for the ones who post it in their ads or websites. Makes it easy for you to decide who to avoid and move on. That is a lot better than setting up a date, then getting turned away at the door.

I appreciate the replays. This was more a question of curiosity. I have no interest in seeing someone who is not interested in seeing me and certainly no interest in changing someones bigoted ways.

More power to you ladies who speak up with what you want. Even more to those who treat all people as people.

I didn't feel she was worth it or deserved my business after that.
I was a bit shocked and offended that after sending a lengthy email, she simply replied "sorry, I don't see clients under age X" without giving me a chance.

The way I see it is: it's her loss, not mine.
There are plenty of providers out there and all I had to do was scratch her off my "ladies to see" list.
I'm not desperate and it's not like she's the only provider out there.

My new introductory email now includes an explanation for my age and my maturity.
That way, if they still won't give me a chance, I'll know for sure they are not right for me.

Women have freedom of choice to see whomever they want. Even if that means excluding guys of certain race. Its her freedom. After all you are asking her to suck your dick and let you fuck her. And that's pretty intimate if you ask me...

Actually, you are better off knowing beforehand that a woman is not going to be OK with your race rather than being turned down at the incall and sent home.

Would Women be allowed to refuse service to a client.

I would still be on the side of personal choice for the Lady.

I am also not a lawyer who writes legislation.

setting aside age, weight or any other physical features.  If you’re excluding a particular ethnic group then it is not a far stretch to assume it's maybe more than a matter of choice.   One could also suggest racism is a matter of choice, since no one is born racist.

You never see “Black’s only” or any other preference toward any minor group in general.      There has been This “Whites only” mentality since the early 1960’s.  So of course when you see these types of Ads one can’t  help but shake there head and wonder.   Since I can’t do a damn thing about it our nor do I have the desire to,   I’ve simply learn to just not take it personally and move on.

There are plenty gorgeous providers that cater to men of all races.

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"It's her loss" and scratching her off your hobby 101 to do list - I bet with a "so there" flourish at the end...wow you told her....yep very mature.

How can it be her loss when you were not even in the running? How is scratching her off your private list going to bother her? Those comments reek of sour grapes for being rejected. A mature man would not bother whining about it AGAIN. He would just move on to his next choice.

I am not attracted to red heads . No offense meant to red heads .
 I have met beautiful red heads  I wasn't physically attracted to .

 Am I a bigot ?

 Are you a bigot if you are straight man or woman and resist a gay
person that shows  attraction to you ?
  What's the difference ?

An attraction and choice should  be up to the individual ,  not other
peoples perspective .

How can it be personal if she does not know YOU personally? I mean duh....we all have reasons for not seeing certain people, though I never got the younger guy thing unless the provider has a son your age of course. I like my younger guys and I define youngER, as anyone under 45.

I have a size rule, so am I being unreasonable because my vagina can't handle more than say 5.5 inches all the way in? I think not.

I am so sure every white guy who walks in a hooker's door is Brad Pitt right? Nope, don't think so. Hot is hot, clean is clean, and a guy with refs is just as good as the next. If a woman is going to use the "I am not attracted to AA men" as her basis for not seeing them, she is basically saying that ANY guy she fks for money has to be one she is "attracted" to, and I call bs.

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but this is a business, not a dating service.  






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That makes sense . I didn't think of that  looking from my perspective .

 If I'm not attracted to her physical presence ,  the blood doesn't leave my brain .
One  of many reasons I would be a broke provider  .

 

 

 
 

..that sometimes this job is hard. Zero attraction and possible mild revulsion and we have to act like he is our BF for the duration. And the really good hookers can pull it off and he is none the wiser. That is her job!!!!!!!!!!

and leave it at that lol. All these dumb ass rationalizations are what gets me. If a black guys robs you it is like you spend the rest of your life fearing the black man, but if a white guy does it, it is not the same. I have heard the reasons about avoiding certain races just as I have heard the reasons for avoiding certain ages...I just like to keep it real.

I would be the last person to tell another woman what she should do with her body and who she should sell it to, but it is what it is. This subject will never have a different outcome. This is not a damn union lol. We can do what we want. I like my Asian men, and you all know why ha ha, but I don't shun another race unless they are known for having big weenies!

...disability or medical condition......,,, I wouldn't feel comfortable for my own reasons and if a lady doesn't feel ok with a certain race/ethnicity, those are her limits. Move on to someone else and enjoy yourself!!