I still get excited, but there are times when I simply have other things in life that excite me more, that are higher priority. When this happens, I have no problem taking a hiatus. SO far, they've all been temporary, but who knows... someday I may just walk away from it - excitement or not.
Recently, I had a conversation with one of my past clients who admitted that he found the hobby to be boring and unsatisfying. Mind you, he has many okays and reviews. Albeit, a veteran hobbyist.
To make a long story short, he told me that he was a bit 'burned out' from hobbying and was considering closing down his accounts and such.
Which brings me to this:
Have you ever reach a point where you just don't get excited anymore?
Sooner or later it gets empty. I think that is why guys go the SB route.
I would imagine that sugar dating becomes stagnate after a little while.
You know what they say . . . even sugar has an expiration date!
but then again having unlimited "pussy on demand" was only a pipe dream in my youth.
Yes I have "plateaued" a couple of times, but my "plateau" was more of a "high desert mesa" lol For many years I would head down to Costa Rica, Panama, Colombia for long (3-4 days) weekends at least once a month, (sometimes more) and I would stay drunk the whole time, and fuck a different girl every few hours, seeing at least a dozen and sometimes as many as 20 different chicas on every trip. Yes, I had a GREAT time, but at a certain point it did get a bit stale and as time went by my appetite did wane a bit, and I honestly can't even imagine fucking 4-5 different women a day ever again.
Don't get me wrong, by "normal" standards I still have a VERY healthy libido for a guy pushing 60, (I still like to have sex virtually every day, and 2-3 times on my good days) but nothing like my appetite of only a few years ago. So yes I have to agree, I do believe I have plateaued, and what's worse it that I can only assume my appetite will decrease even further as I get older. I certainly hope it never gets below the 2-3 times a week level, but I see a lot of guys much younger than me who seem to be thrilled if they get laid even once every week or two. Even at my "advanced age" if I went two weeks without pussy, I'd be spitting nails. lol
As an older guy than you, I can say that I too would "like" to have sex virtually every day, but I find that its really more of a function of when I had sex last. The more days in a row that I have sex, the greater the possibility that I won't be interested the next day. Just getting older I guess.
..will say thou,i'm much more selective. and i prefer overnight appts....but i cant imagine EVER getting bored of tasting and being inside of an amazingly hot sexual woman...
try out a girl from a demographic that is new to me. For example, I've never fucked an arab before so that's when I'd do it. Speaking of which, that would also be an opportunity for me to travel more often and try out the local girls when I arrive at my destination.
If I ever get jaded with temporary hookers, that's when I would get me a permanent, live-in prostitute also known as a sugar baby who would also double as a maid. Matter of fact I'mma get two of them, I've always wanted to try polyamorous concubinage, and that would be the time to do it. That way I'll never be bored.
I haven't reached the point to where I want to shut everything down, but I have been more inclined to stop searching for that holy grail of services. By that I mean, these days I would much rather stick to a regular than continue to be let down by touring ladies.
to boredom setting in with a particular provider that has become a regular with me. Some ladies get complacent after eight or ten meetings and cut back on their effort to make things unpredictable and exciting. Of course, the cure is to see a couple of new girls. With new girls, you never know what's coming, so tough to get bored.
That hasn't happened to me yet. Not saying that it couldn't.
I regularly see some of the most amazing ladies that are all so different in their looks, age, personalities and talents, in my home town. Plus, I travel a lot, so I get even more variation in those cities that i go to regularly.
I rarely do a one time session. I have found ladies that I enjoy seeing many times.
Sadly, as is normal in this, I have lost the pleasure of 3 wonderful ladies in my home town this year. And 2 have retired in a city that I go to regularly. Definitely miss them.
If you like, I'll come over and help you look for them. But if we find them, I'm going to want one of them.
Well, one moved to Oahu, so she's not really lost . One 86'd me for a misunderstanding. You'd like her.
And one has retired, I miss her the most.
So, i guess i'm the one that is lost. And of course, with the correct donation, you can have any of the rest. Just ask Lexi, she'll agree with me. Hahaha.
Yes, it happens. One of the keys, for me at least, is knowing how to space out the dates properly. Too little, and I get crabby and while "too much" really never "bores" me per se, it does at times make the sex a bit less satisfying.
Last year, I was being my SB 6-8 hours a week, every week, while still mixing in TER style p4p girls in weekly as well.
It was an incredible time, but due to scheduling issues, bad weather here and there, cancellations, real world events, booty calls and the like, I found myself sometimes hobbying 2-3 days in a row often, and maybe 6 days over a two week period, which was just too much.
Now, without a current SB, I find myself enjoying the hobby more if I spread my dates out to 2-3 month. That seems to work well with me in both my personal & professional lives, as well as my horniness factor. lol
I also leave the business for months on end at times, on purpose, to avoid the burn out you mention which can happen, which makes me appreciate it more when I do come back.
I hobby infrequently enough that I doubt I'll ever get burned out
I'm sure it has to do with libido levels, but if I see more than one provider a week, or two weeks, my immediate interest kind of wanes. I'm sure there are guys, especially younger, who would scoff at that rate.
My bank account is happier that way, though.
I have to say, though, that my affair sex never got dull, and that was with the same woman for many years. Forbidden fruit is always the tastiest.
Moderation in everything!!
This was what I was about to say...Too much of anything and it loses its luster after a while and things eventually get stagnant. I appreciate the clients who always want to try something new because I too easily get bored by routine.
I like to space out my visits with my regulars by a few months, that way things are always fresh when we meet.
I also like to see some new gals each year, but lately finances have been tough so I've had to curtail that.
....first time I have ever been here. It's a strange place. Flat, barren, hot and humid. I see hope on the horizon however and plan a concerted effort in Sept to make a break and head for the hills. An appt with my ATF is in the works as well as an appt with a fave from Barcelona who occaisionally hits NYC. IF that doesn't work I am really in trouble.
Thanks for telling board what client told you paid sesion...
You do the math.
having been put on a time out MANY times myself, I'd say 90 days is an unusually long time unless she argued her case, always a bad idea. Also, I noticed that for the first time in a long while she has an ad up. So tell me, based on your experience here, if she got a time out from the discussion boards, would they also ban her from putting up an ad? I would have assumed the latter, being a much more serious sanction, would not be invoked simply for being a pain-in-the-ass on the discussion boards. What do you think?
I didn't want to say anything lest I be accused of calling "Beetlejuice, Beetlejuice, Beetlejuice" lol
but back to your speculation about her ad post, it's dated 8-16-17, her last post before that of any kind was back on 5-16-17, I think that kind of proves my case, not yours. Three months of complete silence followed by a barrage of posts exactly three months later certainly suggests to me that she was on an extended TO.
Remember when a hooker friend of ours from my area got a TO for being bad on the boards and lost ad posting privileges, too? I think that answers it.
Yes I lost posting privileges on websites.Everyone crying about Fancy to admin over boards...But also took a break for awhile and to deal with family matters. Thank you.Have a good day!
If you lose them you can't post on TER boards. Why would you even think that someone who is on timeout from posting on discussion boards would be allowed to post on ad boards? 🤦♂️
I took extended breaks from the scene, vowed to retire many times after disappointments; in the end I came back.
A lot of hookers come back to business after retirement or extended break. Gotta eat and survive.
Sometimes RL gets in the way. Btw I'll be ending that break tonight with a lovely lady I'll be seeing for the first time.
without a difference. Sugar babes, escorts, porn stars who escort, it's all the same thing. Rent vs own, don't fool yourself.
I have found that hobbying less actually makes it more satisfying. Mi dos centavos.
MfSD>>>>
some time away. It enables me to re-charge my energy, reload my hobby funds, and step back to take a fresh look at things.
What is most mind-boggling is the in flux of girls in their early 20's at the $500 and + level and I am not talking LV, LA, or NYC.
Reason being I only book dates on average so far once every two months.
I love (tongue in cheek), the hobby and ladies I meet. At the same time it's a hobby. I take time away from this as needed because I have a shit ton other things going on in my life. IDK. A few years back I engaged in a lot of action and realised that it's just fantasy and I needed a little break. I take a couple months off here and there and see my family and friends a lot. Too much time in any ine thing is probably not good. Everything needs a balance.
Another kind of plateau is when a lady starts pulling back on you not out of complacency but as an attempt to keep things professional. You think you’ve got a nice flow going and then she starts saying things like “I don’t want to cum today,” which has to be one of the top 10 erection-killing things you could ever hear. Or where you used to get unprompted elaborate stories about her sister with footnotes and annotations, now you ask “how’s your sister doing,” and you get “My sister? Oh. She’s ok.”
No good options after that. You can both pretend it’s normal she just went full turtle on you and continue to have dialed back sex, or you can move on, or you can wait to get fired. What can you do? You can’t push it. You can only ask so much from a lady who has to spread her energy out over who knows how many people.
But as for the plateau you’re talking about, I plateaued years ago and now I’m just plain old burned out. I’m tired of big things like the mini-plateaus and getting fired, I’m tired of little things like trying to figure out where the elevators are without looking like I’m trying to figure out where the elevators are. I’m tired of middling things like wondering how many shares of “EvilCorp” I could have bought with the money I just spent on an hour of two of fleeting pleasure.
But more than likely, I’d take all that as the lumps of the game if I didn’t find myself needing more these days. Sometimes you want things the “hobby” can’t and was never meant to provide.
I still get excited, but there are times when I simply have other things in life that excite me more, that are higher priority. When this happens, I have no problem taking a hiatus. SO far, they've all been temporary, but who knows... someday I may just walk away from it - excitement or not.