I absolutely love giving bj's and am pretty good at teasing a guy so he is right there on the edge of cumming, but for some guys,  it seems its not quite enough to bring them to climax.

So tell me,  if you are right there on the edge, what does a lady do or need to do - to push you over?

eye contact and ball play.

eye contact does something to a guy. I know it's hard to do, but it will keep a guy from lasting forever. I "firmly" believe this is true for 99% of guys.

when I'm close I always like a little ball play.

keep the rhythm the same, varying other things unly,  unless you feel me relaxing, "losing interest". Then experiment until you get a response again....

rhythm is important to building to orgasm for me, as I've noted, it seems to be for the great majority of ladies as well.....

I agree....eye contact would push me over the edge...

oh rhythm is the WAAAAAAY to get to the OOOOOOO

Oh yes I agree... once a good rhythm is going don't change it! I learned that a long time ago lol


I used to change the pace or do things different and it would be like the guy had to start all over

Luckily I love to give head, but man 30-40 min and all do to me changing it up lol


same with women, once you got a good thing going, do not stop to talk or ask her if it is ok or change things lol

she will have to start over!

For SOME of us anyway, CIM is incredibly erotic because it has a bit of a 'taboo' to it.  

For me I sort of need permission to do it.  A woman can give it to me many different ways.  Often just her being enthusiastic enough that I can 'feel' she wants it is enough.  Other times I've had to have her express it.  

Female friends have asked this same question a couple of times and I advised them to stop what they were doing for a second, look up at her lover, and tell him in her sexiest voice that she wants it in her mouth.  BINGO.  It worked every time.  

Years ago I had a fuck buddy who had made a comment early on before we ever had sex that gave me the idea she wouldn't like cum in her mouth.  After we had sex about the fourth time and I had not cum in her mouth, she announced 'I am going to suck you till you cum if it takes ALL DAY'.... it took about 3 minutes after that!!

MVR

Eye contact, slurping and ball sucking....Always seals the deal for me! A little dirty talk works also...

(Blaze81)

My ATF gives great head, very slow and deliberate with plenty of eye contact and really horny looking faces as well. One thing she does that just about makes me jump out of my skin is that she'll hold my cock in one hand like she's holding a handle bar on a bike and then she'll rub the head with the flat palm of her hand. I just about lose it every time and I can't "allow' her to do it for an extended amount of time because it's so stimulating. Makes me squirm every time...in a good way!

but just a little bit - sometimes thats what it takes to get her over the edge - just a little change in the angle you are approaching the clitoris for example. I am sure there are analogs to the art of giving good head but I have to plead ignorance lol....

and you CAN change the rhythm just a slight bit - but SLOWER not faster as is most peoples tendency. This forces the recipient to focus a bit more which helps get them to the edge

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As vonrichtofen said "permission" can be important.  So many women screech "Don't cum in my mouth" that it can be a real buzz kill.  You're worried about not giving her enough warning, or grossing her out when you do cum etc.

If a woman said "My reward is when you cum in my mouth" or "My reward is when you cum for me, so I want it all" something of that nature, then most guys would blast away.  

I recently saw a woman I really liked, but she recited all these rules and condition about cumming before she started giving me a BJ, and I ended up have a real weak orgasm as a result.  I don't know why any provider would think that was going to enhance the mood or make things better.  I almost told her don't bother, since you're obviously not really into it.

Second, is what I call the last inch.  When a woman is giving head, she usually works the top three inches of the penis.  But every time I feel her going deeper and letting me feel the back of her throat it's a real turn on.  A few of these deep throat strokes and I'm ready to go.  And if she gags a little, it turns me on because I know she's really trying and giving me everything she's got.

As for playing with my balls, it does nothing for me, so we're all different in that regard.  However, whether during regular sex or giving head, some stimulation of the anus with a lubed  finger will push me over the top faster than anything else.  Not all guys are into it, but I think they have a problem with the idea of it, not the way it feels (if they would ever try it).

Another is face fucking.  I know the question was about BJ's, but when a woman lies on the bed with her head over the edge of the bed and lets me face fuck her, well, it doesn't take long before the party's over because it's just such a turn-on for me.  It looks great, it feels great, and because I'm not passive like when I receive a BJ, I get much more turned on.  In any passive sexual activity, it can be difficult to get aroused because you're waiting on the other person to push the right buttons, but if they don't for some reason, you can't do anything because you aren't controlling the action.  How many ladies lying on their backs having their pussy eaten know what I'm talking about- all of them.  And getting a BJ is no different.

A variation that sometimes works when things are stalled out is to reverse position so that the lady is pointed in the opposite direction (toward my feet).  If she's between your legs looking up at you, he tongue is on the bottom of the shaft.  But if she sits along side you pointing toward your feet (or in a 69 position if you prefer) then the tongue is rubbing on the top of the head and it can really increase the amount of stimulation.  I usually come faster in this position.

As for the excessive slurping noises etc., that just turns me off.  I hate any type of "porn soundtrack" enhancements or bad acting.  Whether it's saying what a stud I am, making phony noises, or telling me how turned on you are- when you aren't, all that makes me go limp.

And another thing porn does that I don't EVER want to see in real life is when they spit on a guy's dick while giving head!  I don't know what is supposed to be sexy about that, but our session would end the minute she clears her throat and spits a big one on my penis!

So my list is different than others, but that's the point.  It's an art, not a science.  So trying different things and being tuned in to how they respond is the key.  I really appreciate that you care enough to ask the question!

It is difficult for me to cum with a BJ, I prefer not to CIM but is the lady asks, I'll try. HJ can get me to the edge. I still like FS the most.

I think the finishing touch is when your girlfriend sneaks in the room and tongues my ass while you're working my pole.

1. Eye contact.

2. Saying that you like my cock and/or the taste of it.

3. A verbal statement demanding or allowing CIM/COF/COT.

Adding a hand or alternating some hand and mouth action...

Eye contact can truly help

Doing it like you really "mean it" and want that creamy finish.

For me, tentative doesn't work. The best slow BJ will take forever.

And don't interrupt to lick my balls. My balls aren't sensitive at all. A lot of girls seem to think that a BJ isn't complete without giving attention to the balls, but that's not true for me. Some hand action also helps put me over the edge. Some people consider that cheating, but I don't.

Along with some eye contact. I'm very visually oriented, so being able to watch her is hot, too.

Squeeze my balls and, if you don't want CIM, get out of the way!

well aside from the dirty talk - I cant talk with my mouth full,  I seem to be on track with all the other stuff.  sometimes its hard to keep the rythem up if the guy is one of those that takes awhile -  I can suck a guy all day long and feast on cum,  but I know sometimes being right there on the edge gets to be too much and occasionaly I will have guy jack himself off because I cant seem to get him tipped over.

The woman masturbating to orgasm while sucking me off. The moment she starts convulsing... BAM!



HalfHour

Some hand action on the shaft while concentrating on the head.

Decent suction and some dirty talk if she must raise up off it for a few to catch her breath.

OK that one is the hottest so far...

In no particular order:

1.  Dirty talk
2.  Those eyes....
3.  Ass (mine) play*

*I realize this is not everyone's cup of tea.

That's where the dirty talk really comes in.