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Not if you don't have a conscience!! EOM
I recently met with a provider who either accidentally or purposefully left out some background info about herself, and it really bothered me. Because I have no one else to confide in regarding my leisure activities, I thought I'd throw this one out on the board and see what you all have to say. Here's the deal...
I set up an appointment with a very lovely lady who had had limited experience in the past doing some "amateur" porn, but she is not a porn star. For some reason, this experience really fascinated me, because she listed "Bang Brothers" as one of the sites that she did some work on (I love that site so it almost felt like I was hooking up with a celebrity). Anyway, during our appointment, we talked about her experiences doing porn, and she said it was limited to one scene with Bang Bros and one with Milf Hunter, both during the same week. However, she said she wouldn't do that again and now she only does some little things like solo work in front of the camera (stripping, underwear, etc.). She also said a lot of people from her hometown saw her so that was another reason why she wasn't going to do it anymore.
Great, no problem there. I have no problem with it anyway and in fact I was drawn to her because of the "amateur" porn experience.
To make a long story short, I do a little internet search for her after our meeting (I wanted to find her scenes for free and not have to pay for them - I'm kind of cheap when it comes to porn), and I find that she's done several other films. In fact, she is also still actively listed under a few adult modeling agencies.
Why would she not tell me this? I don't understand why this bothers me, but I feel that perhaps she was trying to conceal it maybe? The scenes were all fairly recent too, so I don't know why she wouldn't just tell me because it only took me about 8 minutes to find her stuff on the web.
I understand that providers (and hobbiests) don't like to give away too much personal info, but why would this person not tell me the full extent of her porn background? Furtermore, why does this bother me?
Odd that it bothers you so much bro. Maybe she thought you wouldn't like it. Seems like most want to be pleasers so maybe she was trying to feel you out and say what she needed to say to make you happy, or so she thought. Don't sweat it. And it's probably not worth bringing up to her. Let it be.
strange that she would deny that especially since titles of porn makes u celebrity of sorts and the price generally goes up!
the only thing i can think of maybe a contract she is under which doesn't allow this and if they found out she be fined, fired or both?
jmo...not a expert on the stuff.
as far as why it bothers you probably had your feelings hurt a bit since you liked her and thought a connection of sorts was made?
I know i don't and think nobody enjoys being lied to.
Are you sure these films were actually her and not someone using her name? Or maybe she was using their name???
It was definitely her in the films. No doubt about that.
if she's under contract or trying to get signed, then escorting is a no-no with most of the big agencies
of course that would be dumb to escort under the same name as she's filming.
also some people lie about EVERYTHING for absolutely NO REASON .. sometimes i think they just dont know what the truth is because they believe their own bullshit
You feel like she lied to you because she didn't tell you the full extent of her porn career. But we all have secrets and she is entitled to hers. I can understand why it bothers you because the session was probably good and sharing secrets makes it feel less like business and more like a personal relationship. Would you share all of your secrets with a person you just met, especially if they were things you might not be proud of? My guess is she wants to hide some of her less than stellar life. If you see her again, maybe she'd be more open to sharing more of it. You could always ask her in a nice way.
Its all kind of a fantasy anyway. When asked what I do and providers frequently do ask, I rarely give a lot of details.
"See the girls with thier dresses so tight, Give you love if the price is right" - Aldo Nova, Fantasy
you don't.
Are you planning to meet with her again? If not, ??? Why would she tell you anything, BTW, if she is active in the ameteur porn business, on a first time encounter? Maybe she was uncomfortable responding to what she saw as too personal and intrusive questions?
Many of its participants lie because of the hobby's illegal status or the marital status of many of it's customers, but the hobby itself is about as honest as you can get.Expect for those of us that lie to themselves.
We pay money and we get sexual gratification in return with the added benefit of leaving when we want, calling when we want, and being left alone when we want. What could be more honest and simple than that?
that you even give a rats a*s. What she does outside of the hour(s) you hired her for is 100% none of your business and vice versa.
The fact you did research on her makes you even more guilty of over stepping the boundaries of what the hobby is all about. You make it sound innocent by wanting to view her scenes but it really looks like you are being nosy.
M.Y.O.B ---> you'll be much better off if you do. Don't try to make the hobby something that it isn't.
Perhaps you didn't read my entire post.
She ADVERTISED her experience on the profile page with her Agency. I asked her about it nonchalantly and she was more than happy to talk about it. If she didn't want anyone to know, she shouldn't have listed it. "Doing research" simply involved looking on the websites that she listed on her profile page. The fact that I came across other scenes was purely accidental.
I'm happy to mind my own business. I don't ask personal questions and I don't overstep my boundaries when I'm with a provider.
If I had asked her her real name, home town, if she had a boyfriend, etc etc, that would be overstepping my boundaries. There's a difference.
"why does is bother me so much?"
Are you alsways 100% honest with providers? Even if your answer is yes, you still have to admit that both providers and hobbyists alike routinely withhold information. Why does this bother you so?
i think the pse background clashes with gfe concepts...perhaps she was trying to keep the fantsy up by toning down her experience in film, just as many girls won't mention to a client that he may not have been her first appt of the day
She doesn't really want to preform exacty what she does on screen when she is off screen . I think alot of guys watch these porns see a girl they know they can meet in the flesh and think that what they saw is indicative of what they can expect her to perform during their time together. Maybe it is this she is trying to avoid when pointing you only to a few scenes she is in fact confortable with .As opposed to setting herself and you up for disappointment when the scenes seen aren't the same shared experiences you have will together.Maybe she did it for you not to you? Kendall
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