I have had a couple providers initiate contact. I don't have a problem with it personally. If it's someone I wouldn't mind seeing why not, or politely decline if she isn't someone you would like to see.
Some time back, a local provider contacted me, rather than me initiating the contact. She stated that, having read my reviews, she thought we might have a good time together. I met with her, enjoyed my time and we discussed whether I'd write a review of the events. She asked that I not include in the review that she had initiated the contact. I asked her why and she said other providers would "frown" upon her for taking such an action. Fast forward to the present day, another provider has reached out to me and suggested a meet.
So this recent contact has me wondering, what does our little "community" think of the provider initiating the contact as opposed to the norm of the guy initiating the contact?
For me, I'm good with it. I work in a service profession as well and we reach out to potential clients every day. I say there's nothing wrong with a service provider, whatever the "service" may be, reaching out to someone they see as a potential client to let them know that they're available.
I'd be interested in reading the thoughts of both sides on this.
basically she is going through reviews in her city reading other provider reviews and then reaching out to clients for business.
It is different story if a provider is reaching out to a guy regarding something he said here maybe a response or a posting even an in search of.Reaching out to clients who reviewed other providers and asking for business is tacky.
she should look at her marketing instead of soliciting clients off the review list.
... is different than contacting reviewers of other providers. I've never experienced the latter but have had several reach out based on forum posts. Of all of those providers, I've only seen one of them--she was one of the top providers in my area but very low profile and thus off my radar, and I thought it would be fun to meet her. I did, and it was. I didn't think the others were a good fit (too young, too far away, or just not my type) and declined politely.
I'm not going to knock a provider for researching reviews and contacting the reviewers, because at least they're not shooting blind and maybe they're doing more research than just looking at reviews. If it works for them, great.
...it depends on the approach she uses IMO. If she is new and just getting started, she may be reaching out to the handles who review frequently to try to get established. I don't see a problem with that. Now, if she makes repeated attempts and doesn't take a lack of response or a negative response well, then yes, it does seem desperate.
If she's been around and is disappointed with her current level of business, then I agree, she should probably look at her marketing, rates, etc. instead of the direct approach.
That's interesting. If the guy has 20 or more reviews, I'd think a provider could get a good idea as to whether she's a good fit (no pun intended!) for the guy. If the guy seems to gravitate towards young, white, spinner, GFE (as one example) and the provider meets all those criteria, why not reach out to the guy and let him know she's available? I wouldn't call that desperate, I'd call it good business sense.
I wonder how many of you offering this sage piece of advice are actually in sales, marketing or run our own businesses?
Just asking because in the vanilla world, this IS considered a marketing tool. Right up there with ad copy, promotional photos, general networking and recommendations so it is a little confusing when this is tossed around as some kind of separate and distinct business approach than the usual marketing basket of tools.
Unless of course, by marketing, you guys are actually suggesting that she give away free samples and money back guarantees to attract clients along with discounts for X,Y or Z marketing target group based on potential profit margin from large volume sales revenue as a result of mass production and enormous wholesale differential of cost to resale value. Of course, that also implies that the product/service can be sold as a unit multiple times simultaneously with consistent and minimal reproduction effort and cost. Of course, this would require that provider walk around with rubber or synthetically manufactured parts that can be sold as multiple units simultaneously and replaced as easily once it is worn out. The consistency, of course, would rest on the fact that no other unique or personally invested qualities would go into the unit to differentiate from any other and that ultimately, what makes it possible to sell it at large volume discount is also what makes its presentation predictable, consistent and completely devoid of the very thing that drives consumer interest which would be the human element and individually unique personality in the experience.
So, for those of us reading your post and wanting to benefit from your sharing of experience and wisdom when it comes to business, could you tell us what these marketing deficits you are referring to would be since contacting potential clients is clearly not a marketing strategy by anyone's definition here?
All the women reading these posts are eagerly awaiting these mysterious tips to help us serve your fantasies better.
but surprise surprise, I am not siding with the community here. Personally, I don't mind if a provider reaches out to me first, but of course since I don't write reviews any woman who contacts me from TER would be doing so because of my board presence, not my reviews.
Now what would irritate me a bit would be if she started becoming annoying if I didn't respond back to her positively. No one likes a whiny hooker and no one likes a needy hooker, but I do like hookers and if she is hot, not crazy with her rates and convenient to me, why not?
Based on years of reading posts by various levels of mangina's here...perhaps you'd like to reassess your comment.
Now what would irritate me a bit would be if she started becoming annoying if I didn't respond back to her positively. No one likes a whiny hooker and no one likes a needy hooker, but I do like hookers and if she is hot, not crazy with her rates and convenient to me, why not?
Well except for maybe the pendatic putzes like Jake, but we all know you would NEVER stoop so low.
I was a bit worried over here.
I'm sorry...someone ate one of my GF's recently. And someone thought it was funny to post the Hippo who ate her.
Can a Shamu eat a Hippo?
Or at least not all in one sitting.
reach out to me from my posts but never from a review I had written. I think there's a familiarity that develops when interacting on the boards that makes it okay. If you have exchanged PM's before about board topics which shows you have similar viewpoints, and the provider tells you that she thinks the two of you would have fun time together, she's probably right. I agree that contacting a reviewer based solely on his OR her (Lopaw, I didn't forget you) reviews does indeed smack of desperation.
One of my ATF ladies reached out to me first. Not because of my reviews, but because she was friends with another of my ATF's who knew I was looking for someone local rather than taking the trip into NYC all the time. When she PM'ed me here on TER, I almost blew her off. Coming out of the blue it unnerved me. However I had seen her post on the NY discussion board, had looked at her reviews and website already. In fact, I would have probably contacted her within the year if she hadn't PM'd me first with a followup email conversation.
I am VERY glad I didnt blow her off. She and I have seen each other many times now and it has honestly been a perfect experience each time. So thank you to her friend (and mine) who got us together. It was iut of the blue and disconcerting, but I got over it quick.
kind of hot to have a woman contact you about having sex with her, even if you're going to be paying her.
I love when a guy is seeking a particular type...and any and all responses are nothing remotely close to the ISO.
Maybe they're sending him PM's? LOL
way to go for the reasons you say. A guy posts that he is looking for a skinny Latina girl with a curvy butt, and every white OTHFB on TER responds. The PM's are probably even less of a match on an ISO.
It doesn't matter to me. I pretty much go by my wish list so whether she contacts me or not doesn't change much
I have had many providers contact me based on some of my post on various TER Boards or ladies I have seen in the past. All have been very professional and courteous. As I basically like most all women, I have really enjoy exchanging PM's/text with them. Now if a provider was persistent when I was not interested, that's a different story. But hell I am almost always interested!!
So this recent contact has me wondering, what does our little "community" think of the provider initiating the contact as opposed to the norm of the guy initiating the contact?
For me, I'm good with it. I work in a service profession as well and we reach out to potential clients every day. I say there's nothing wrong with a service provider, whatever the "service" may be, reaching out to someone they see as a potential client to let them know that they're available.
I'd be interested in reading the thoughts of both sides on this.
A lot of the usual suspects amongst the guys have stated an opinion. Any ladies want to chime in on this one? For whatever it adds to the discussion, both ladies that contacted me are routinely in the top 20 on TER in their respective areas. So then ladies, good form or not to initiate contact?
be pursued. My availability is somewhat of a given here. So I tend to be old-fashioned in light of that. I don't respond to ISOs for that reason: I want you to want to meet me- not just any blond with big boobs and a big bottom.
So no, I don't believe it is in good form. Too much like solicitation. But that's my own opinion; I don't judge others if that's the way they prefer to conduct their business. And it must be working for them if they're in the top 20. 
Interesting. While not a lot of ladies have responded, it seems about 50/50 as to whether to initiate the contact. I guess the ladies I mentioned were smart to ask me not to mention that in any reviews.
as long as she can accept the "no" as gracelfully as the "yes".
I love it when a lady makes first contact. Like you said, it's usually something like 'I've read your reviews, or I've enjoyed reading your posts'. I also enjoy it, and it draws my interest, when a lady flirts with me on the boards. But that's a little tricky. No pun intended. Sometimes afts get jealous when other ladies flirt with you. The old cold shoulder is the tell.
However, even though a lady makes first contact, I still reserve the right to vet them. And my vetting is fairly detailed, so I'm not going to be in their bed tomorrow.
It's happened over the years. Sometimes I respond, other times I ignore.
So this recent contact has me wondering, what does our little "community" think of the provider initiating the contact as opposed to the norm of the guy initiating the contact?
For me, I'm good with it. I work in a service profession as well and we reach out to potential clients every day. I say there's nothing wrong with a service provider, whatever the "service" may be, reaching out to someone they see as a potential client to let them know that they're available.
I'd be interested in reading the thoughts of both sides on this.
And honestly I have been flattered!
via PM based on a board post and sometimes flirt and hint about a possible encounter. Nothing wrong with that.
Now, trolling reviews to reach out to hobbyists, that is a no no.
Unfortunately every time it happened to me it's been by providers I had no interest in seeing.
Do I mind or see it as desperate? A bit desperate. But I don't mind it at all. My current provider texts me every few days or so just to see how I'm doing. Never asks me if I want to see her. I always ask to see her. She's really sweet.
I have had a couple providers initiate contact. I don't have a problem with it personally. If it's someone I wouldn't mind seeing why not, or politely decline if she isn't someone you would like to see.
I think that is totally inappropriate behavior , i would say more acceptable
Through email or PM but never on the phone .
You did not mention form of contact she used , but
I believe if she used a phone , or text message that
To me is totally out of bounds.
Many of us have private family lives , and we can not stress
Over some unexpected text message coming in in the middle of your
Family time and your wife reads it by accident .
I had that happen once with independent girl ,
She texted me out of the blue , i have seen her before
And she texted me back one day and I was super pissed .
My wife likes to go through my phone and if she would have seen
This text my ass would be in real trouble . Luckily I quickly erased
The message and smsed the lady back saying that what
She did is totally unprofessional etc. I never went to see her again.
This is why I started using agencies most of them do not solicit
You for business in the middle of the night
INHO : Ladies, please do not call or text your Johns to solicit their
Business , we have private lives . It is very unprofessional , unless
You use internet -email or ex TER PM
They both contacted me though a PM here on TER. And yeah, I totally agree, I don't want a provider to ever contact me by text or phone call, except where I have initiated the conversation.
I have one local that's been "chasing" me, and I'm seriously considering making her wish come true. Another local is way out of my price range, and keeps insisting that I can "splurge." That's just annoying. Yet another contacted me (one of our GD board trainwrecks). When I declined, holy fucking shit, did she ever go off on me. I found it kind of amusing.