Lately I've been first in line to "tell" when something goes extraordinarily wrong in my adventures and often I've got my finger pointed.

Tonight, I'm pointing the finger at me. I have no good excuse and I don't know what came over me but I abruptly ended a session with a really good guy tonight. To be fair to me, I did my best, it was 45 in and we were still in "marathon" mode. This was preceded by a lot of attention, a mid-meeting rest and a lot of dedication to waking "him" up. Only after my electronic friend harvested yet another "O" he was ready and so we went and went and went.

I'm TINY so after some intense time of ka-boom, boom, BANG, boom, BANG I jumped off, kicked him back and excused myself to the shower room where I proceeded to curse and let loose. After composing myself I exited the bath, sat down and told him I was unable to continue. He was prepared to walk out but I asked him to sit and at least talk things out with me so we could both figure out what just happened. I apologized profusely for I was supremely embarrassed by my lack of customer service stamina and also explained why I stopped him. He admitted to getting similar feedback, agreed to a reduced donation (put on the table by me) and we continued to chat. The southern guilt and accommodating nature in me will do everything I can to make it up (including one no-strings session) but felt it would be hypocritical of me to come to my friends (the board) to complain and then not own up to my own faults and failures.

My sincerest apologies to my date tonight. I owe you a big one and promise that I will deliver.

xo
laney

It called class, and you seem to have it.

. . . I would not expect 60 minutes of non-stop play either.

Don't beat yourself up....you did the right thing. One thing that everyone needs to understand is that respect is a two way street.

Was your angst tied to physical discomfort or mental anguish at not being able to get him off quickly enough?  Perhaps a bit of both?

Maybe it's none of my business, but since you felt it necessary to post, the post raises a lot of questions.

Your need to get away and curse implies a mental anguish, so something psychological seems to be the issue.  Getting at what that is, is the root of knowing what the problem was.

I do respect you for putting this out here for us.  I think most would just take a walk and write it off as a "bad day".

Your concern for customer service is to be appreciated, but, is your post the prelude to defense of a bad review ?, which is understandable.  I would take it a little lighter, yu gave non-stop 45min, if you had invited him to the shower, he might have "came clean"

I had the same happening to me this past week.

Nice guy, actually extrememly nice...booked me for 3 hours saying he probably would not last ONE with me, but wanted to spend time "trying".

Yeah right! He knew he could go on and on and on and on and on....and he didn't tell me.

So, here I was giving him the best of me, enjoying the first hour but kind of puzzled when he was still strong and going at the 55 minutes mark.

Positions after positions, including the awful piledriver one, where his piston was pounding my ass non stop, I asked to be excused, went to the bathroom, let the water run thru my body, with my mind racing furiously, saying to myself...WTF? fuck fuck fuck!

I went back in the room, he was laying in the bed wearing a big smile and an upright hard pole and saying..."come here my bundle of passion, I am ready for you!!!!!!!!"

I looked at the clock...2 hours went by and I had ONE MORE HOUR of his dick poking all my holes.

So, I looked at him and in my sweetest voice and demeanor I asked if he EVER walked around with a limp dick.

He looked at me wearing his brightest smile and said...NOPE, my dick is ALWAYS HARD, specially if I have a hottie like you!!!!!!

And he came foward to grab my ass and when I felt his dick jamming between my cheeks...well...I turned into Mrs Hulk!! I pushed him away from me and my face was green and I was spitting venom, telling him to keep his piston away from my asshole, from my pussy, from my mouth, from my armpits and from my belly buttom!

I told him to get dress and get DA FUCK OUT!

He was taking all like a joke, laughing, saying I was the one who lasted longer than the others he has seen.

He never lost that bright smile from his face, he never lost his mojo, even when he was trying to zip his pants and accomodate that piece of lifeless wood inside his pants.

He didn't want to adjust the fee, he even tipped me 200 dollars saying I was the most fun, even if I let my fangs out at the 120 minutes mark.

And, he wants to see me again, book me for longer time, when I am back in town!!!!!!

Oh yeah! Sure...can't wait!!! NOT!

On a sad note, he came HIGHLY recommended by one fellow provider. She told me he was the nicest and most generous man she ever been with...huh, she forgot to "warn" me about his vitamin V addiction.
Very "nice" of her.

So, I am a "nice" fellow provider too and I am going to highly recommend someone I know to her.
Another vitamin V addict who happens to love to ride doggie with his huge dick, with this thick leather belt strapped around a girls waist, pounding hard for hours, holding tight on the belt, smacking the cheeks hard yelling "HI HO HI HO Silver!!!!"

I guess she will enjoy him a lot ~~~~~

BDG

When I have been with my SO or a provider in a very hot room, for some reason the sex goes on and on. I was on vacation this week and the A/C broke last night, had the situtation happen again. Make sure the AC is on next time.



-- Modified on 6/24/2006 7:55:09 AM

If he is doing lap doggie don't lay completely down flat arch your back a little. Also regular doggie helps also if you arch your back. You see if you get your pussy around his dick at the right  angle he won't last that long. Also try to turn slightly and have him kiss you. You can push your hips back and try synch with his rhythm.

Do some leg squats at the GYM with/without weights at least 1-2 times a week. As you squat squeeze your butt.

Have him wear a blindfold or you wear blindfold. Amazing what a surprise like this can do to cause a faster pop.

Next time you can play a game (open/close slightly) and do a supervise grip snapper surprise. If he is any good he might be able to stimulate your supervise grip when you have a big O. With combination of your real moaning out,  wetness, and supervise grip he won't know what hit him, lol.

-- Modified on 6/24/2006 8:23:40 AM

You took a "big chance" in posting this... and for the guys who acknowledge that sometimes yea - it is like that - thanks.  

Sometimes, we just need to be "human."   I was surprised by one provider friend who confided in me that she just wished that someone would call her up - and ask her to go see a movie... dinner or anything "ordinary"!  I do hope that as Ladies & Gentlemen, we can all see the more human needs in each other.  

And just when I thought I had nothing to say!

do I have the slightest chance of getting a 3 hr date with you?

Thank you

Not to belittle what happened, but having to  excuse yourself to go to the bathroom and curse about your work sounds like a bad day at the office. And that happens to everyone.

If you are seeing several different men and need to keep having to excuse yourself to go to the bathroom and curse, then I would think that's an indication of some kind of psychological block.

But that's not what happened, so I think the psychology should be put to rest.

Thanks for the honesty. It's only by mentioning experiences like this that guys can learn what is appropriate and what is not. Because we're not born with this knowledge.

I second that you are a brave lady, and a classy person to do business with. You obviously care about other people. It sounds like you gave this guy more than a fair amount of time and effort, and you were honest with him. If we all dealt with each other as honestly as you dealt with him, life would be much much easier in general.

You're still good in my book.

Laney, from what I read I consider your customer service EXCELLENT. You quickly apologized, gave a reduced donation, and did everything you could to show you were sorry for the outcome.

Trust me, I have been dealing with Cingular on my cell bill for weeks now. Their customer service is terrible.

Look at it this way, at least the guy got some pleasure out of the date. It isn't always about cumming with some guys, just so you know.

....unlike Cingular where it is all about the $$$ and their customers don't matter.....

Good for you for stopping!  Good for you for wanting to talk it out.  

But stop beating up on yourself.  You are not a rag, a doormat or a toy.  You are a woman, a human being, entitled to as much respect and fairness as the next person.  Your inability to continue also deserves respect.  It's not YOUR fault.

This is a business founded on physical intimacy.  For it to work both partners have to be comfortable with each other.  You don't need to make explanations or excuses.  If your ability to continue gave out -- so be it.  Learn a lesson and move on.  That lesson is that perhaps it just doesn't work with this guy.  It's nice of you to offer a free session, but I think you're letting yourself in for more punishment.

In any service business (I'm in one myself), there will be clients that --through no one's fault -- are just not the right "fit" - no pun intended.  It's part of life.  Where the service involves physical intimacy, the need for mutual compatibility is even greater.

Be proud of who you are and what you do.  You can't please all the people all of the time....
Don't look back.

-- Modified on 6/24/2006 11:52:45 AM

Laney,

I have yet to experience a difficulty like this, but I'm sure I will at some point. I hope that I will handle it with the same grace and class that you did.

I think that your honesty and sense of fair play make YOU the hero in that story.  I have only experienced a "No Time Out" game once and that was with my ATF. But, she has that effect on.

This client should remember that in the end, providers are people and not a carousel ride.  

Mutual respect is important and it sounds like you are in first place. I would be honored to meet you someday

and reading the reviews, if he can't cum, that is his own problem.

Don't be too harsh on yourself. Why the reduced donation? I don't get it..

When I read this the first time, I was mad at you thinking you were another provider whining about the client.  OOOOO, I was going to post and scold,  but as I read it again, I realized that guy was an ass.  He cross the line and should have been horse whipped.  While I hope (not expect) my provider will be as accomodating as possible, I always respect the lady's tempo, direction, and desire.

He should be thankful you dont employ a big bodyguard named Bubba.  

Hi HO!  thats funny

...thank you so much for sharing your story. Made me feel a lot better!

While your advice seems to have good intentions it really is kind of off point don't you think? Do you even know me? If you did, you know that I've been in the business for a while and haven't lasted this long in it by being a lame partner. I know how to arch my back (have you seen my newest photo) and I know how to look back at them with my  bedroom eyes.

And as for the squats - I'm a group fitness instructor in NYC so my body strength is just fine.

Finally, I also know about environmental conditions and the AC was on.

Is it really so hard to believe that what I said in my original post is true and clearly on the table for what it is. He has a hard time getting off so he was marathoning me. He was between medium to hard and had to bang the shit out of me to keep himself going. It f*cking hurt and that's why I stopped him OK???

...and thank you for allowing me to be human.

PS. For anyone who's called today I'm sorry but I just had to ignore the phone for a while. I went ahead and brought myself home last night and am now sitting in front of the TV in a travel coma ~

xo
laney

I'd be happy to if you promise that it won't be another marathon session for me?

Honestly, extended evenings are what I'm best at. If I do say so myself I'm a great dinner companion with a palette for good food and wine. I have perfect manners and love to dress up which makes me a pretty good date to be seen with. Gosh is that cocky? I really don't mean to be.

...how do I respond to the mental anguish comment?

I was having a fine day and because someone who couldn't get off banged my body up. Doesn't physical pain often result in mental anguish?

It puzzles me that you'd say such a thing when I did mention in my post that I felt really bad, asked him to stay and talk it out with me and then I gave him some of his money back and offered to try again with no strings attached. AND, in case you missed it the first time I wrote it let me say it again. HE TOLD ME HE'S GOTTEN THIS TYPE OF FEEDBACK BEFORE!!!!

If you feel that I ran to the board to protect myself I can promise you I'm not worried about him writing a bad review. I've emailed him and will do my best to improve his experience with me if he decides to take me up on it.

And one final comment about "not being able to get him off quickly" remark. How could you? 45 minutes is a fair amount of time and I was absolutely patient and nice for as long as I could. In fact, he thought I was enjoying myself and had no idea I was in pain.

I'd like to see how you hold up if you weighed in at 100 lbs and had the force of someone twice your body weight ripping through your mouth, asshole or some other small orafice on your body?

Sorry if I've taken your post the wrong way but I feel bad enough and have flamed myself already. I really don't need you to do it too.

the blog below came to my attention last week...  Cingular - is nowhere near the lunacy the AOL demonstrates....

When did we become inhuman robots who do not listen to what the other fella is sayin?!  

If I see that I am having "difficulties" I can admit - and give the gal a break... I would rather do that, and leave the gal happier, than try to force issues... It just does not work well that way.

Don't stay around this biz too long. It's a dirty world and is a vexation on the soul. You seem very contrite for what you descibed as your transgression. Now, be smart and have an exit strategy or you will get lost and never find your true self.

hey laney, sorry to hear that happened to you. i think turkana sums it up nicely. i wouldn't be hard on yourself as others have said. you seem like a nice girl. maybe don't see him again? just a thought.

You didn't mention if that was part of it.  He might have had ejaculatory dysfunction, but if so, he was stupidly arrogant and insenstitive about it.  

Laney,
it happens.  You are attractive to men, because of your pettiness, and what I would imagne would be a tight vagina.  You got to take the good with the bad.  You can not bang a girl built like you as hard and as intensley as you can a smaller girl.  You however bring things to the table that a larger women could not.  I'm 6'2" 230 pounds and always take care not to lay on a girl.  If the fucking goes on too long I would expect she would want to switch positions.  I was in love with a girl when I was younger, she was tiny and beautiful, and I adored her and was attracted to her.  Unfortunatley I found that she could not take it like some other women I was use to.  We just made acomidatons and made it work.

just wanting to understand the gist of your upset, which I believe I do now.

In any case, I do appreciate you bringing it up and hope that these situations are few and far between.

...I don't want to send anyone home blue!

He is the problem. Most guys would be nice enough to stop without asking. He should get his blood pressure checked.

This by far has been the best post I've ever participated in despite the foreign subject matter.

Thank you all for understanding and supportive comments. They have made me feel better but I do want to say one thing, while the guy might have had performance issues all in all he was a nice guy. Awkward and uninformed about the ways of women I think. During our chat I mentioned this issue and suggested he might want to look into Viagra OR he may want to make sure he books the FIRST appointment with a provider and/or book an outcall to his home. -Hold on ladies!...now I realize that we as providers can protect each other so no worries, if someone calls for a reference I will inform them.

To sum up the physcological balance curiousity. For anyone who knows me they know that I'm usually pretty cool and patient (in fact 2 of my clients this trip were over an hour late for their appointments. I still saw them without a complaint and still gave service with a smile. I will say however, when pushed I do blow my top. That was not the situation here. It wasn't like I camped out in the bath room. I was cursing as I was spot cleaning myself and then came back out to talk to him – calmly and sweetly!!! In fact, I was supposed to call him back later that night to share a drink together but I just got too tired after my last appointment which brings me to my final point.

To address the question of "volume" and if I had seen to many that day. NO! I'm not a volume girl and only accept 3 appoitments a day, sometimes 4 but only when that person knows me, knows whats up and/or gets off being last in line (don't ask me but they do).

I had one more client to see. My time had been considerably shortened due to the incident and the time it took to talk it out but I was able to turn myself around and provide my last client with a good time. I never mentioned a word about anything and he never sensed that something odd had just occurred. In fact, he was giggling throughout the session which tells me he was having fun. He asked if he could see me again and for a longer  period of time next time. I'd say that's proof that I wasn't "worn out" wouldn't you?

Alright - I think I've addressed every curious question that's come up. Take my answers and information at face value. It is what it is and the night evolved as it did.

I'm out! xo ~ Laney

He had ejaculatory dysfunction.  He can't reach climax in mutual sex.  Only while alone.  The flip side of it, he will keep his erection as long as your interested.  That can be good that can be bad.  

He can't ejaculate in mutual sex, but he can do it solo. He will probably take the experiences of the session and bring himself off alone about 10 times  this week.  

I had that problem till recently.  He should have told you he had it.  I've told every tryster I've seen that I had that problem.

I was cured of it recently by lady-- it was psychological.  She took absolutely extraordinary measures to do it.  I haven't had the problem since.  I'm forever thankful to her.

Feel better.  It wasn't your fault, he was destined to go home blue, and he probably always finishes as "homework."  

-- Modified on 6/25/2006 10:00:06 PM

Ok, Laney, it's been 3 or 4 years now. Your words tell me you are not built for this. Find a close confidant and talk it over. I know a cry for help when I see it. I do wish you well.

As a man it's very refreshing to hear a lady, who obviously is into sex, doesn't want to have her brains banged out, and that it's actually OK to come a little quicker!  What is a ideal amount of time.  5, 10 15, 20 minutes?

You don't owe this community (or your client) anything.  It's NORMAL to get annoyed with an inconsiderate person, especially one who caused you pain, even if it wasn't his intention.  As the others have said, you are a class act.  For  you to offer him an encore is above & beyond...

Funny thing, it helps me come quicker. Now that I'm older I really don't want to fuck for 45 min straight.

If you can't read and if you need to take one off situation and make me a victim because of that's fine. STOP with the on and on!

I thought I said my final word!!!

I suspect that the words in this thread hit closer to home than you wanted. Sometimes, it better not to respond if your only response is to call names. Now this is your final word.

-- Modified on 6/26/2006 6:12:51 PM

Hey you know what?  There is nothing wrong with you posting this.  Its true!  So true!

 Hey most of us are in this business because we want to be, we like it, we enjoy it.  But just like in personal life..things can go wrong.

 We are not sex robots, we are human beings..and we are definitly not little energizer bunnies.  We cannot keep going, and going and going!

 It has nothing to do with saying its time for us to retire, that we cant handle it anymore.  fact is, sometimes we just need to stop,,,we get tired.

 I think that if the lady really cant go any longer then she should say something, and then do what is best for the situation.

 We have ALL been there one time or another.

 Take care..Sidney Starr

the more you say on this matter the farther off you get.

 Maybe you should go back and carefully read what she wrote, because you obviously didnt get it one bit..lol.

 Funny, you are the only one....

 XoXoXO..Sidney Starr