Just wondering what your experiences were.  Seems to me that seeing your ATF provider regularly would be easier and cheaper, but curious what your pros and cons of this setup were.

And both were great "arrangements"

Although getting paid was nice, returning the favor was beneficial to me as well.

MM

tried it once..all she wanted was money and my dick stayed hard..the arrangement usually is one sided..HERS..stick with your regular providers..a lot less drama..

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I looked into it but they appear to be high maintenance. LOL
Unlike providers, who I can see pretty much when I want and who I want.

I've helped out my current Provider every now and then without a Session. Provider's Room Mates were short on Rent and Bills and I helped my Provider with the difference. She is so Awesome to me during our Sessions that I don't mind helping her out when she needs it.

I enjoyed it a lot. I got to travel all over and go shopping and his company was wonderful! I have enjoyed it a lot! He is a sweet man and I think that if it is with the right SB/SD it is fun!

Never quite got there.  For one thing I'm not filthy rich. But I have considered a "retainer" arrangement wherein for a monthly fee the lady would be available X times per month no questions asked on Y hours notice.  Other fees may apply.  But as it turned out the 2 or 3 ladies I ever liked that much were always available when I called anyway.  And the one lady ive ever taken out on dates was equally accommodating when I wanted to do that.  On the other hand I've never had a hankering to take even my ATF on a shopping spree or pay her bills.  So I guess I've been lucky.

There is more emotional value put on the SD/SB relationship than with the typical escort client you only see a few times a year. These relationships often evolve into real feelings from either side or from both. What might start out as an agreement or contract can turn into much more, and often does if the guy/gal is not married.  

As with anything else, a lot of time and research goes into these friendships. A SD must be attractive, good in bed ( or at least willing to change ), patient, giving, and understanding. I don't expect hardly any of that from my escort clients because I am charging a rate that makes it worth dealing with a few dumb asses. With a SD, the rate is heavily discounted and you are spending a ton of time with them. My last SD spent an average of 30 hours a week with me when we were in that stage. That quickly turned into too much and the fact that I was still working as an escort, did not help matters. In fact, it hurt the relationship.  

He was the type of guy that if he could afford to, he would have done anything for me not to be in this business and only with him, but I never expected or asked for that. He understands what this really is, and we remained friends throughout, save a few heated arguments and misunderstandings.

If it wasn't for SDs I wouldn't be a provider. My first SD when I was 18.  Have had a few others before I started providing. Hah I have one now too! They are great, and personally I love them! But I am the type who like to form relationships with the men in my life, because I enjoy it.

After having a regular for almost a decade you, do not keep him by continuing to charge him $500 an hour.

Over a hourly arrangement. I fall in love with everyone I diddle so its best I stick with a few


Pinnochio out

to where I was basicly on payroll

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1st SD offer...
3 BR condo, $1,000 allowance, bills paid, help in emergencies for 3x/week. 1st and only phone interview. Had to walk on egg shells or I'd get my head bitten off... 'click'. Keep your empty 3 BR condo. In fact, sell it. Good luck with that one, buddy.

My first SD/SB relationship...
The guy was a sweetie. I met him on a sugar daddy website before officially starting this. It was to be monogamous, and it was, because he, like most SD's, didn't want to use a condom. He bought me a nice apartment for a year, had just sent in the deposit, but didn't sign the lease, and was scheduling a trip to Nashville for a full three days to professionally record and copyright my songs with other professional musicians. I got a sore throat and I was too sick to go over to his place one night early in the 'relationship', and he started blaming me for cheating on him... he kept getting more and more possessive and jealous, saying harsh accusations, so I told him to forget everything and get the security deposit back. Very sweet guy, but too insecure and jealous. I wasn't looking to be miserable. (I was in a very desperate situation, by the way.)

Second SD offer...
First date had to be sex w/o a condom. I said no way, Jose, (His name wasn't Jose,) for two weekends/month, monogamous, $2k sent to me twice per month. I wouldn't consent to not using a condom with someone who would have unprotected sex with a chick he has never met. "I was tested last week" is very easy to say, but how does he know if I really was? How many girls has he done that with? So, turned that one down... started getting possessive and told me I didn't care about him bc I wouldn't have unprotected sex. I never even met the guy! We just chatted via text, ending in me saying, "I don't think I'm the one you're looking for." Possessive/manipulative... Nope.

Third SD, but not officially...
Sweetheart who had no idea he was being a SD, and I don't really know if he was. He saved my a** in a real tough situation and was always there when I needed him, even to this day... I'm ok now. Had a huge crush on him, but I don't think he knew. Best friend with fuzzy feelings on my side. We had sex, but never made any arrangement.

Fourth SD...
Compensated night out to show him around town and hang whenever he was visiting the area in his travels. Was supposed to be a SD/SB relationship. $250 for a 5 hour night. (This was when I was trying ways to get out of the business.) He got an escort for $50/hour. Whoops! It's a whole different ball game, however.

It's different every time. There are few real ones. I have conversed with many whom are claiming to be a Sugar Daddy... many say it's a scam, and a lot of it is, but there are some who are genuine...

To potential SD's out there... saying "I'll take care of your bills..." first/second/third date happens "Here's $150." Don't do that. Just hire an escort off BP with $80 specials.

If you ever come to Charlotte I could be your SD for an hour or 2.

he started with a few visits, and eventually we agreed to do 2 overnights a month for 1500 a month (most social time)  

He could not handle THAT, he said he was going insane, needed to see me more... he emailed me  incessantly during the day, called to "talk"

We moved up to one night a week  for 3000 a month, and yes the $$ was nice, but it was too much, he was emailing me these sappy emails ALL DAY.  He required I got on the pill, and have bbfs ( I did this twice)

He would take me out and just like STARE at me so intensely and creepy... and then tell me how he loved me, wanted me to think about us and OUR life together.. I had to flat out hurt him, tel him  
"we do not have a life together! I am not even ATTRACTED to you~!"  

He talked about me having his baby..

he was a 65 yr old psychiatrist.  

Then he would go back and forth, did this over and over...

" i just cant do this, cant see you"  
" I  need to see you"  

I told him I had enough... and even though I liked the steady $$$ the other bs i had to endure made it hell

First SD. I was 18, he was 50. He didn't "feel right" giving me cash, so he took me shopping when he wanted sex. He was also my boss, so I did get "paid". We formed a great relationship. I really, really cared about him. We traveled all over the country "working". We did work, but we also had a lot of fun too. He took me wherever I wanted. We did what I wanted. He was my first photographer I posed nude for, and if it wasn't for him, I wouldn't be in the business today. But he wanted sex all the time! And it got to a point where is was just too much. I did have a boyfriend in my real life.

My second sugar daddy met me when I was dancing. Our relationship never progressed to sex, but he did give me some money. He came into my club and kept me in VIP. Took me shopping. But then I lost all my contacts and lost touch with him. Had our relationship progressed, he would have given me the world. I was also in a relationship during this.

Third sugar daddy gave me 600 every time we met, and I would spend about an hour with him. We'd go to the hotel for about a hh, grab some food, and that would be it. He also wired me money whenever I asked. (He didn't live here)

My best sugar daddy, I have met once. Before I met him we began talking and he started sending me money. I saw him the first time a few months later. He came out here to see me. I spent a few hours with him each day for five days. For months after that he sent me 1k a month. Then he ran into financial issues. Nw he sends me anywhere from 600 - 1k a month. He is a real sweetheart. I really have gotten to know him, and grown to care about him.

I have had MANY other offers. But they always want BB and to be exclusive and I can't do either.

Most were an awesome experience & typically less $$$ than you'd expect. Just choose wisely.