Just wondering if any of the providers have ever moved from a business to personal relationship with a client and how it worked out.

Really no different than 2 people getting together from any other walk of life.
The difference would be, would you want to be in a relationship with her if she wanted to keep selling her kitty? I for one, would not!

I never cross that line (from business to personal). I already have a boyfriend so being a in a relationship with a client wouldn't be possible.

the subject matter. I would say generally(through reading) from those that have taken the plunge, it never seems to work out in the long run. Usually fun for a while, then turns into a drama show over time. I would probably ask yourself 2 things:  

It never works out. Better to leave it as is.

I do know a provider who married her then client now husband. It all started by him asking her out on an off the clock, no strings attached date and she agreed. Their marriage seems to be working except now she doesn't allow her husband to hobby. She retired once they got engaged. I could only image his inability to hobby, which is how they met is a problem for him but I don't think he would mention it to her because he's a push over.  

Provided that both parties are willing to be non judgmental and establish rules from the beginning. There are successful stories about ladies and hobbyists even getting married, but it would depend on the level of acceptance, maturity and respect that both have for each other. Additionally, there are some awful stories too, of gentlemen getting jealous and stalking the lady in question because of trust issues or ladies turning into stalkers as well, so I would proceed with caution.
If trust and respect are established from the beginning, perhaps a relationship can flourish but it would take a great amount of communication and understanding. After all nobody is perfect and each relationship requires a great amount of selflessness and appropriate dynamics in order to succeed.

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Not only are you going to cost me money with the finish line in sight but you are actually the only one I agree with on this entire post. Don't you realize this is the final push for the SPOTY's???

As much as I hate to agree, you are absolutely right, not only CAN it be done, but my LTR's with hookers have been a lot less drama filled than my relationships with civvies. i will admit that there are s pecial challenges with provider/client dating, but people have to meet somehow, what better way than having sex?

Now please go fuck yourself, and do it now!!! lol

Hi There

It is a mine field to be sure...  Neither can use how they met or what went before in arguments.   It seldom works out long term.  So we are right to discourage it.  But we just can not say it "never" works out.  We just don't hear from them...   They ride off into the sun set together (CG)!  

Didn't work out, don't regret it but also wouldn't make the same choices again.

It's personal once or twice a week for an hour!

I've been seeing a provider for the past 2 1/2 years that has a SO who has no problem with her being a provider. In fact she told me he'd be in the closet watching her with her client if he could. That guy is my hero, lol. But seriously that is being confident and secure in who he is and the strength of their relationship. I'm not now, nor do I ever expect to be, interested in a relationship, but if I were I'd have no problem what so ever being in a relationship with a current or previous provider. I'm secure with who I am and my own sexuality, I think I'd actually enjoy hearing about her appointments, previous or current. Hell I'd even be like her SO and I'd like to watch but then I'm a voyeur. I've fantasized about going to a swing club with a provider.

Your saying she would "mix the two" with you? ( because you are positive )
Umm...NO!!

Things were great at first but that did not last long.  Seeing the real girl was like opening Pandora's box.  Not good!  Will never make that mistake again.

Those very same situations occur with people who have never been associated with the hobby. In fact I'm in the hobby because of the reverse situation which you described. My ex wife stalked me, snooped into my stuff (email, suitcase after I came home from a business trip  even put one of those GPS units in my car). I did not start hobbying until after I left her, and I never cheated on her.

If you want the honest truth, without that envelope, I have zero motivation to fk anyone. See what you all did to me? I was the biggest slut in my junior high! Heh.

Nothing but heartbreak. It's all great in the beginning then the jealousy crap rears it's ugly head and the trying to talk you out of 'working' but not offering any commitment. I'm a little bitter can ya tell lol
I will never allow myself to get in that situation again. Not good imo

They all fall -- even the lrs of the world.  Poor thing, you need loove, Danny style...  

If u wish for it to work, it will. Like anything else.

Well, I can't deny I have missed you. Ugh, gross bwahahaha.

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I've been told that someone has fallen in love with me 3 times, and it's been about 6 months since I started doing this. I know it's my personality, and I guess I attract people who may have that need or tendency.

And considering everyone is on their best behavior for the hour or two you see each other.. it's a fantasy. Trust me, keep it that way.

but at one time I day dreamed about being with her under different circumstances.  Well, she let her real self out & it wasn't pretty.  Got into a yelling match with a neighbor (on-going feud) WHILE I WAS THERE!  Holy Crap!  Talk about embarrassing.  Not at all discrete...    
Be careful what you wish for!

Hell, we could do doubles together when we're struggling, fuck when we're horny, and I understand each other. We wouldn't judge...

As long as both people are doing what feels best for them, then there's no reason two weird asses from here can't get together like any of the others out there.  

Gazillion times. Providers are not aliens from outer space. They are human females with feelings, ability to love, and have relationship other human males. Like other human females, forming and continuing, loving and becoming SO with human male is quite possible when conditions are right as in other human female - male relationship.