Anything is possible.

Really no different than 2 people getting together from any other walk of life.
The difference would be, would you want to be in a relationship with her if she wanted to keep selling her kitty? I for one, would not!

I never cross that line (from business to personal). I already have a boyfriend so being a in a relationship with a client wouldn't be possible.

the subject matter. I would say generally(through reading) from those that have taken the plunge, it never seems to work out in the long run. Usually fun for a while, then turns into a drama show over time. I would probably ask yourself 2 things:  

1) Would you consider your personality in the top 2% of the world's population with regards to your own Self-confidence/ Self- Security (emotionally)?

2) Would consider your personality in the top 2% of the world's population in "Social Acuity?" Do you see events in public/ private that make sense to you that few others see? Can you break down social situations of strangers, in a place you've never been before with a high degree of accuracy? Meaning, if ignorance is bliss....you'll never suspect a thing... But if you can, then it's a Slippery Slope.

If you wouldn't put yourself in that group.... then stuff may get out of control quick...meaning.. jealousy, questioning her, trying to control her, being suspicious, uncomfortable when she's not with you, trust issues, emotional attachment/ detachment, etc... The list is potentially endless.... Generally not healthy stuff.

Exhibit A: On short notice, she tells you she has to take a trip out of town for the weekend. The story is to see a friend you've never heard of. I'll be back Monday. Comes back with a smile you couldn't kick of a person's face with steel toe boots and all of a sudden is sexually on you like glue. She also comes back with a bunch of new, expensive clothes & shoes she bought on her trip. Do your antennae go up??  You have any follow up questions coming out of that? Do you get obsessed?

But you need to be a Strong MF'er of character, emotional & let's face it Financial security to weather that potential storm.... and have a true/ genuine relationship w/ the woman.  

Take that from a guy that's never considered it with a pro, but has been in relationships & marriage with women that were the sexual equivalent of Pros.

Don't do it.

It never works out. Better to leave it as is.

I do know a provider who married her then client now husband. It all started by him asking her out on an off the clock, no strings attached date and she agreed. Their marriage seems to be working except now she doesn't allow her husband to hobby. She retired once they got engaged. I could only image his inability to hobby, which is how they met is a problem for him but I don't think he would mention it to her because he's a push over.  

I also met (as a client) a guy who claims to be engaged to popular provider in Atlanta. I think their relationship started as client/provider then sugar baby/sugar daddy then involved to a serious relationship. He said their relationship is good except she doesn't want to hear of the women he sees but she still gets reviews. Go figure. So all in all I would have to yes, having relationships of providers and clients is possible and does exist but I think it's more rare than common.

Provided that both parties are willing to be non judgmental and establish rules from the beginning. There are successful stories about ladies and hobbyists even getting married, but it would depend on the level of acceptance, maturity and respect that both have for each other. Additionally, there are some awful stories too, of gentlemen getting jealous and stalking the lady in question because of trust issues or ladies turning into stalkers as well, so I would proceed with caution.
If trust and respect are established from the beginning, perhaps a relationship can flourish but it would take a great amount of communication and understanding. After all nobody is perfect and each relationship requires a great amount of selflessness and appropriate dynamics in order to succeed.

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Hi There

Dont mix work with pleasure. Give it a try and unfort it wont work

Alley

xo

It is a mine field to be sure...  Neither can use how they met or what went before in arguments.   It seldom works out long term.  So we are right to discourage it.  But we just can not say it "never" works out.  We just don't hear from them...   They ride off into the sun set together (CG)!  

I know a couple who were each married to others when they got together...  it took time but they are together & raising a family...  

I think one takes extra time & goes slow.  One decision I'll throw out there...  Does she stop providing?  Does he stop hobbying?  Can he afford to support them?   If so when?

Didn't work out, don't regret it but also wouldn't make the same choices again.

Assuming you're the dude...I just wonder how the lady feels about this? I've had guys mistake my friendliness and GFEness for true romantic interest, when nothing could have been farther from the truth. If SHE hasn't brought it up...chances are you might be asking in vain.

It's personal once or twice a week for an hour!

Like 'Dexter" I have a "Code"

#1 Don't fall in love with providers.

I've been seeing a provider for the past 2 1/2 years that has a SO who has no problem with her being a provider. In fact she told me he'd be in the closet watching her with her client if he could. That guy is my hero, lol. But seriously that is being confident and secure in who he is and the strength of their relationship. I'm not now, nor do I ever expect to be, interested in a relationship, but if I were I'd have no problem what so ever being in a relationship with a current or previous provider. I'm secure with who I am and my own sexuality, I think I'd actually enjoy hearing about her appointments, previous or current. Hell I'd even be like her SO and I'd like to watch but then I'm a voyeur. I've fantasized about going to a swing club with a provider.

Things were great at first but that did not last long.  Seeing the real girl was like opening Pandora's box.  Not good!  Will never make that mistake again.

Nothing but heartbreak. It's all great in the beginning then the jealousy crap rears it's ugly head and the trying to talk you out of 'working' but not offering any commitment. I'm a little bitter can ya tell lol
I will never allow myself to get in that situation again. Not good imo

If u wish for it to work, it will. Like anything else.

I've been told that someone has fallen in love with me 3 times, and it's been about 6 months since I started doing this. I know it's my personality, and I guess I attract people who may have that need or tendency.

I still have yet to make up my mind about whether I'd be open or closed to it, so I appreciate the thread.

And considering everyone is on their best behavior for the hour or two you see each other.. it's a fantasy. Trust me, keep it that way.

but at one time I day dreamed about being with her under different circumstances.  Well, she let her real self out & it wasn't pretty.  Got into a yelling match with a neighbor (on-going feud) WHILE I WAS THERE!  Holy Crap!  Talk about embarrassing.  Not at all discrete...    
Be careful what you wish for!

There are some providers I would do that with..

Hell, we could do doubles together when we're struggling, fuck when we're horny, and I understand each other. We wouldn't judge...

Wait... Depending on the provider. A select few I could see pimpin me and bein my sugar mama... Or I could be theirs, I tend to be the masculine one. Though feminine in my physique. :F

As long as both people are doing what feels best for them, then there's no reason two weird asses from here can't get together like any of the others out there.  

I don't think anyone HAS to quit doing anything if they don't want to. Each of you decided it was more worth it to lose the envelope, so what in the world would make you doubt that you aren't the one they want to be with? It goes both ways, for the guys and girls.

I do think that the only hard and fast rule would be time. Wait. Wait some more. And then wait a little longer and see what time will tell. It's a safety thing for the lady, and a reality check for the guy. This isn't the best place for one of those bullshit fairy tale romances the movies try to sell you on. You have to legitimately click.

Gazillion times. Providers are not aliens from outer space. They are human females with feelings, ability to love, and have relationship other human males. Like other human females, forming and continuing, loving and becoming SO with human male is quite possible when conditions are right as in other human female - male relationship.

Transition takes place when condition #1 is met.  

Not Astrophysics.